Baffled

This is NOT the look of a 10 year old boy who had a birthday the day before and was given a great deal of things and went a lot of places. This cannot be the same person with this expression on his face can it? I am still confused MYSELF of this little transition from yesterday until today……

His face is displaying the reaction from his AMAZING mother punishing him because of something the he chose to do THIS MORNING! Yes we are SUPPOSE to still be in celebration mode for his birthday BUT when you make the wrong choices in life – THINGS HAPPEN.  The world does not care what day of the week it is….who’s birthday it is….who died… who was born…..who is sad….who is crying…..who got married…who is joyful…..etc..etc..etc.. Learn early son and it will make your life EASIER.

I REMINDED him how good of a Parent that I have been and that he knows that I only request CERTAIN LITTLE things via his behavior. I am raising him as a Christian, God -Fearing and respectful wisdomatic boy. He knows better and that is why it bothered me as well to place him on punishment at 6 am this monring when we had such an awesome time yesterday and the AMAZING things that I had planned for him via the rest of the weekend. Nonetheless, we all have to learn lessons in life and I am glad that I can be the one to teach him a variety of them….all within the confinments of my home.

Happy Birtthday anyway Button Drop!! You will learn from this and respect me for it later! Being disobedient can cause damage to your own life!

FINALLY!

Over the last 2 weeks, I have been obtaining strategy to deal with my family – mainly my almost 19 year old twin children. I have written MANY blogs about them and 2 out of 50 have been positive and the 50 of course has been me expressing how much pain that I have been experiencing.  Well, the last 2 weeks have mentally, emotionally and spiritually AMAZING! I have finally LET GO in order for The Lord to FLOW in their lives! I did not think that I would be able to do it but I did and I am very glad about it. God knows that I love my two oldest BUT the way that they have treated me since they have stayed with their father has TRULY BEEN UNBEARABLE!  I am no perfect mother but I have strived for perfection in Christ Jesus!

I just FINALLY have peace and joy with how I will deal with my kids going forward because you have no idea how horrid it has been for me over the years. When God would instruct me to do things and I DID NOT WANT TO, I did anyway. Doing things GOD’S WAY is always a must for TRUE and LASTING success! My children have only desired to use me for what I was able to give them or what doors that I would be able to open for them-  God showed me last week that is the same concept that we as Christians do towards Him! Nonetheless, this time of silence and separation that HE has ordained for me I have SOOOOOOO EMBRACED!

To my fellow parents, especially single parents – KNOW THAT the seeds of Christ that you have implanted into your children shall not die within them and your labor has not been in vain! You have to NOW operate as a minister and NOT as an earthly parent because going back and forth being a minister then handling your kids as a parent confuses the very task of what you are trying to accomplish. For goodness sake, ALWAYS STAND YOUR GROUND via your Christian principles and what you will and will not allow in your life, your house, your atmosphere etc.

It may take a minute for you to obtain the epiphany but know that it will come so you can move forward in the things of God on your children’s behalf. What God has me operating is BEYOND the Tough Love Approach – this is SPIRITUAL WARFARE!

The beauty of it ” NOW ” is that I know that I am at the end of the war!!! The enemy has been winning all of these battles between me and my teenagers but I serve a God that reminds me and has shown me how I AM GOING TO WIN! Matter of fact, I have already won and I am just in the waiting period of the situation! To God be the Glory for the many things that He has done, is doing and will do!

It feels utterly amazing

A Reminder

Yesterday was Pentecost Sunday and I realized that not only is God an amazing God BUT more importantly, I have too many moments that I have taken him for granted just as my teenagers take me for granted. Yes, I obey God and do the things that He commands me to do via his word…. HOWEVER – when I do not take the time to do the little things that He says like pray – meditate – etc… I feel myself off balanced. If I would have just taken the time to do the little things…. When I obtain these God – Epiphany – Moments – I submit my mind…body..soul and spirit all over again and go through a “Coming to Christ” re- enactment.

I have to come to Jesus like it is the first time so that I can REMEMBER the sacrafices that He has done for me so that I can benefit from this temporary living situation that I have been blessed with here on earth.

Pray Always

Jesus said that , “…men ought always to pray, and not to faint.” (Luke 18:1) God speaks to us through Bible reading, but we speak to Him through prayer. Every Christian needs a special time each day (perhaps more than once per day) when he gets alone with God in prayer. Mark 1:35 says, “And in the morning, rising up a great while before day, he went out, and departed into a solitary place, and there prayed.” Jesus realized the need to pull away for a while and get alone with His Father in prayer. In our fast-paced society this is sometimes hard, but it’s very necessary and well worth the effort.

If you’re REALLY trusting God for your daily needs and the needs of others, then you will naturally go to Him in prayer to make your requests known. When a child is really depending on his father to do something for him, he won’t quit talking to him about it until it is done. God expects us to come to Him on a regular basis to simply “empty” ourselves by laying all our wants and needs in His hands.

Paul said, “Pray without ceasing” in I Thessalonians 5:17. Prayer is to be continual, because our relationship with God is continual. Many Christians wait until they’ve become loaded down with sins and many burdens before they pray, but this isn’t God’s will. God commands us to pray ALWAYS so we’ll never become over-loaded with problems. He wants us to carry a LIGHT load. Jesus said, “For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Mat. 11:30).

The subjects of prayer are many. Thanksgiving is an important part of prayer (Mark 8:6; John 6:11; I Tim. 4:4-5). We are told to pray for forgiveness (I John 1:9), for personal needs(Mat. 6:9-13; Philip. 4:6, 19), and for wisdom (Jas. 1:5-7). We are told to remember others in prayer (Rom. 1:9; Jas. 5:13-16), to remember our government leaders (I Tim. 2:1-2), and to pray for our pastors, churches, and missionaries (I Ths. 5:25; II Ths. 3:1; Jas. 5:16).

Everyone needs to take timeout each day for such physical needs as bathing, eating, and sleeping. Likewise, every Christian needs a special time each day for Bible reading and prayer.

God understands that there is a time and a place for everything under the sun, so use your time wisely so that you do not ever have to choose between alone time with God and other things that can distract us from Him. Remember without Christ in our lives….. our lives are off balanced ANYWAY! Want balance? Get God!

Establishing Friendships

Establish Some Good Christian Friendships

“Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.” (II Cor. 5:17)

The last thing you need as a Christian is a bunch of worldly friends to hinder your spiritual growth. Amos 3:3 says, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”

There’s no point in having close friends who aren’t spiritual. Acquaintances and distant friends are fine, but your closest friends should be God-fearing Christians. Keep praying for your old friends and witnessing to them, but make some new friends who are GOD’S friends.

A Christian’s friends should be saved people who love God and understand His purpose and plan in life. They’ll be a great encouragement and comfort to you in life.

 

Quality Friendships

These are the qualities that each one of us needs if our friendships are going to last. Charity, Humility, Reverence, Inspiration, Sacrifice and Toleration – these enable the real friends to be sifted from the false. If you take the first letter of each one of these qualities and arrange them in order they will form one word:

 C from Charity  H from humility  R from reverence  I from intelligence  S from sacrifice   T from toleration

spell and form the word Christ. In bringing these qualities into your own life you put on Christ. And when you become so Christ-like, then you have the warmth and affection that will cause you to lay down your life for a friend and it will inspire your friends to be willing to lay down their lives for you.

For a friendship to survive each must try to learn and understand the workings of the minds of others. Friendships are not proven by the sounding of words, of the moving of lips. It is achieved through the workings of one’s mind trying to procure the best thoughts, the best motives, the best ideals, for the one whom he wishes to call his friends. This intelligent appreciation of each others mind, produces a greatness that is above jealousies and pettiness. It accounts for the peace and happiness that true friends experience when in each others company.

Sacrifice is always a must in any quality relationship. This simply means giving yourself to others till it hurts and forgiving those who have trespassed against you. A complete emptying of your own personality so that it adds luster to the one who receives it. Sacrifice is the true test of friendship. Only when it is in use can the friendship hope to survive. Christ said, “Greater love than this no one has than he who lays down his life for a friend.”

Tolerating their faults, suffering with their failures. Toleration brings with it a unity of spirit, develops a marriage between hearts and strengthens each one in the desire to be virtuous. Without toleration no friendship can be cultivated. No friendship can ever hope to survive. Because of what you must give to a friend and what he must give to you, it is impossible to have many friends in your life.

Men -Woman -Relationships

To keep a marriage healthy, the first thing is to honor the relationship itself. Come to it as something led by spirit. The next step is to acknowledge each other’s soul, acknowledge each other not just as human beings, but as spirits who have chosen a body to come into. Then, through ritual, bring these two souls together.

A man was designed by GOD to be a husbandman to a rose. As such, he must care for, nurture, protect, “appreciate” and help her achieve maximum potential. A man was created by GOD from water and dirt. Since a rose needs water and dirt to thrive a woman should be able to receive the nourishment she needs through her husband. The husband must lead his wife to trust him, allow him to clip away her stem and lay gently in his hands.

A woman is like a rose. She has petals that are beautiful, delicate, soft and sweet. But a rose also has a thick stem with thorns. The stem represents the toughness she must have in order to stand against the challenges the world forces her to face. The thorns serve to protect her from men who try to pick her up quickly that do not know how to handle her properly.

A man who wants to be wealthy needs a good woman. A good woman has a heart to do the will of GOD and contains within her heart the qualities of strength, power, and moral excellence. A good wife, brothers, can help a man achieve his purpose as well as provide provision, protection, and peace. That is, she can help him materialize his vision for their marriage, help create wealth for their family, cover his back from the attacks of evil men and wanton women, and provide a quiet comfortable home.

It is amazing to read, share and talk to other people who have the same views  on relationships of all kinds and SOAK up more wisdom!

 

My Bedtime – Random

Hopes and dreams stimulate our mind and feed our very soul. Nothing beats waking to a day we’ve never seen before. Chasing a dream we’ve never dreamed before. Finding our way through the woods to the clearing.

Nonetheless, Life without goals is like driving your car without knowing the destination. You know your goals so that you can plan to achieve those. If you don’t know you can’t be focused. Dreams and goals are 2 different things because what we want in life starts with a dream….a dream a desire of what we desire to have….to be….to obtain… but unless you put it into ACTION by making it A GOAL…. it will always “stay a dream” within the confines of your brain / mind! Dreams make us feel good because it can be relaxing and bring us peace on “how things can be” but  like anything and everyuthing else… WORK has to be involved for us to attain things!

God wants us to grow and writing the vision is not enough…after you write the vision and make it plain …simplistic and practical – ACTION STEPS  must follow! ( that is if you desire it to come to pass ) If God allows you to dream it then it is in reach for you to obtain it…. Do not expect God to be your Engine – Engine #9 Train that will come and pick up what you do not feel like doing! Your relationship with Christ is a team effort, so do not sit back and relax just because you know that He has the power..ability and know how to “do it all”…

Dreams and goals are something to live for, to look forward to. Without our dreams and goals, we wouldn’t have much to live for. Dreams keep our hearts alive, that’s the beauty…♥ Do not allow anyone or anything that “take that” part away from you! As individuals, we give up more of ourselves than we actually keep, so FIGHT to keep that part!

Diversity in Christ

Had a nice morning thus far!! Because Christian friendships are soldered together in the Spirit, anything we do to draw closer to God will in turn strengthen our friendships. Pray for strength, wisdom, and patience. Study Scripture to learn the character of Christ and how he related to his friends. Make use of sacramental graces to unite with Christ and be transformed by Him. The more our friendships are formed by the Spirit, the more these friendships will help us unite even more deeply with God who is Love.

Some people may argue that we should never expect any one friend, including a spouse, to meet all our needs. However, we should look to build many friendships with people having different temperaments, perspectives, abilities, and talents. For example, some friends will be better at encouraging and motivating us, others at challenging us and opening our minds to see things differently, and others at working along side of us. These friendships take longer to form, but can be very enriching as we explore new areas of study, have our assumptions challenged, gain new insights, and enjoy new types of music, art, movies, or food. Heaven is color blind and so should we!  That is what makes LOVE so powerful!

God is love and sees no color and ONLY actions that are done towards one another for HIS SAKE.

 

Thank You!

This goes out to the people who have really showed some concern for me over the years…….. Although there were few in number….. (which God allowed ) but  I appreciate the genuine love, support and prayers…. Through my busy and hectic life, it has allowed me to hold on like you wouldn’t believe….

I have gone through so many things in my life and it seemed as within the last 4 1/2  years that I was just floating amongst the clouds, being OVERLY busy and merely sleep walking here on earth….  My mind was seriously in the clouds from all of the major transitions that were occuring in my life….   I found out the hard way that  I was not Super Woman…!  I may have some of her tendencies and charachteristics.. I’M NOT HER…  becauses ON TV she is NEVER tired! LOL  Truth be told…, I dont desire to be her anymore because Super Woman does to have no balance….. she is strong yeah.. but at the end of the day… she really doesn’t have it together.. it just LOOKS LIKE SHE DOES!

Welp, in the end it seemed like……..looked like…..felt like…..smelled like…tasted like…etc that it was ” I who was left damaged all because i was trying to assist others and almost killed myself mentally, emotionally, phsyically, financially and lets not forget spiritually IN THE PROCESS….. Only to find out that he was making me into a BRAND NEW individual. I have joked a few times asking the Lord why could HE not just simply tell me what all the craziness was about.

Geesh!!!  I have made choices and changes for everyone but myself….. trying to assist……. trying to be a better friend… a better sister.. a better daughter .. church member…a better mother….. better community servant…( whew…. lawwd ) a better follower of *Christ* and all of this can get  hard only because its easy to flip out but it takes wisdom to stay calm and pull a W.W.J.D.  I am certainly alright but it feels soo great to vent  sometimes.

So thanks to those who stood by me by way of prayer… by way of silence, by way of phone calls…, by way of texting ( lol ) by way of emails,… by way of fellowship, by way of being silent and just stood by me, sometimes up close or from afar while I vented… “IN MY OWN WAY”…….. making sure that  I stayed in tact mind, body, soul and spirit.

Trust me, I know that I am a little handful  at times I may have made itmake it difficult to bare with me….

I offer much MORE love… – honor and respect to  the special people God chose to assist me thru my journey..….

Simply,

ME……….

P.S.  THANK YOU AGAIN!

Only 1 Body Needed

  Perfect Wording for this photo I thought!

I need you, you need me. We’re all a part of God‘s body. Stand with me, agree with me. We’re all a part of God’s body.

It is his will, that every need be supplied. You are important to me, I need you to survive. You are important to me, I need you to survive.

I pray for you, You pray for me. I love you, I need you to survive. I won’t harm you with words from my mouth. I love you, I need you to survive.

It is his will, that every need be supplied. You are important to me, I need you to survive.