Im having a ball and my son Jared is out of control…lol he is having sooooo much fun he is drunk with the giggles!
It is a blessing to be able to expose my son to various things… He is 9 1/2 and has been apart of some amazing things in his life.
Thank you GOD!
Like really…. Like for real…. Like again JARED!!
Okay im sure that i am like number 12,234,767 via moms who want to strangle their kids for acting up and acting out at school!
ACTING UP – deliberating doing things, knit picking etc.
ACTING OUT – doing things because they do not know how to express how they are feeling inside etc.
umm.. at this point I need a psychological term for a kid WHO DOES BOTH!! I mean 630 am I am chatting with his teacher at school when I dropped him off then I think that I flipped out for like AN AMAZINGLY GOOD – SO NEEDED – SO WORTH IT 90 seconds!!!!
It felt good but then to chastize your kid for things that he already knows NOT TO DO…. ummm can be just a tad bit annoying…irritating and i was sooo over it!!
Then the more I kept telling him to practice sharing his feelings and it is okay for boys/ men to express themselves I DONT CARE WHAT YOU MAY HAVE HEARD but it is healthy!
After him crying, the teaching showing her frustration, me twirling my hair to keep my hands from choking my son and me saying the word prayer about 15 times…..
By the end of the little 630 to 650 meeting – Jared was HAPPY – the teacher was glad that we had ANOTHER talk – and I felt that we made some progress.
( LORD PLEASE HELP )
Okay Jared’s issues are – misses his 18 1/2 yr old siblings – does not have arelationship with the man who’s name is on his birth certifate and who the Webster’s Dictionary would call father – and his misses his grandfather – the one who he considered as his father.
So it is ALL centered around RELATIONSHIPS! UGGGHH – this too shall pass! We have been down this road before and God AS USUAL will help Jared once again!
Okay – woo -sighing for ” TODAY” is officially done!
Thanking GOD for direction, love and progress!
#TEAMJARED
Okay I was so so minding my business in Petco or wait was I in Petland? I forget but I just needed some new fish because I dont have time to see about them so they keep dying!
Okay can I blame my almost 10 year old son as well for not taking care of HIS little fishys????
Okay look.’neither one of us have time to even remember to feed ourselves let alone the poor fish!
Seriously im ashamed to even say how many trips I have to take a week to buy new fish….my son woukd not be too happy with me if he knew how GOOD I have become in switching all of his fish!
If he evee found out I just may give him the big ole Psychology treatment by saying that if he wasnt involved in soccee, church activities, basketball, music class and indoor baseball clinics that I could remember to take care of all of his fish!! (im so so wrong, I know)…… Lol
Trust me I feel so horrible…… Well I figure as long as the pet store never runs out of these same 5 fish …im in the #CLEAR!
Family is soo important and I have had to reallllllllllllll -y fight for it over the last 5 years. I am just literally exhausted behind it but I love my kids and I would not trade them for the world… Regardless how #$%#@!@ my 18 year old twins can be MOST of the time! GEESH….
Nonetheless, God has been helping me to remain patient and faithful to them as HE was for me as I was going through my changes and trying to find my way…. then I still scratch my head and say that my 9 1/2 year old does NOT act ANYTHING like my 18 1/2 year old twins…..
Then I scream >> GOD!! I didnt act the way these kids are acting! Then he reminded me again, it is with that same way of thinking is why a lot of people JUDGE.
It is man who places stipulations on what types of sins are just or unjust but God says that we are ALL indeed a mess!
So with that being said….. my kids REALLY teach me the importance of forgiveness because without Christ in my life – I would have dropped them and cut them completely out of my life about 5 years ago. Family is a must and a need for me… so I will continue to ask God how to show me how to effectively parent my children….
I was just thinking of the meaning of my sons name and the story in the bible via where his name came from.
My then 7 year old daughter Moo Moo (what I still call her at 18! ) is the person who named jared.
She was very serious about a biblical name for her brother and after two days of sifting through the bible said God said her future baby brothers name should be Jared Caleb.
However, just re reading the story in Genesis 4 and Genesis 5 still blesses me. Especially knowing the good stock that came from the passage of scripture! Enoch, the son of Jared, a great-grandfather of Noah, and father of Methuselah……now that is GOOD GROUND!
According to the Bible, Enoch and Elijah are the only two people God took to heaven without them dying. Genesis 5:24 tells us, “Enoch walked with God; then he was no more, because God took him away.” Second Kings 2:11 tells us, “…suddenly a chariot of fire and horses of fire appeared and separated the two of them, and Elijah went up to heaven in a whirlwind.” Enoch is described as a man who “walked with God for 300 years” (Genesis 5:23). Elijah was perhaps the most powerful of God’s prophets in the Old Testament. There are also prophecies of Elijah’s return (Malachi 4:5-6).
Why did God take Enoch and Elijah? The Bible does not specifically give us the answer. Some speculate that they were taken in preparation for a role in the end times, possibly as the two witnesses in Revelation chapter 11:3-12. This is possible, but not explicitly taught in the Bible. It may be that God desired to save Enoch and Elijah from experiencing death due to their great faithfulness in serving and obeying Him. Whatever the case, God has His purpose, and while we don’t always understand God’s plans and purposes, we know that “His way is perfect” (Psalm 18:30).
Yeah, I started my day off at my son’s baseball clinic for about 15 minutes… He did not ask me but the look on his face was like, Mom are you going to stay? Inside I was praying he didnt / wouldnt / better not have asked me to stay! LOL….. It was my birthday weekend and im at a baseball clinic at 8 am…. I didnt have to come back and pick him up until 2pm so I was running out the batting cages! LOL
He was so excited to just be there! this morning! I was glad to take him, let him learn, be around his friends and GO! LOL
I was glad that he was able to call me when it was about half way through because he needed me to bring his baseball bag! I so did NOT want to drive back up there but I was livid because I was told he wouldnt need it until the next camp the following weekend! So of course I drove back to the baseball clinic to give him the baseball bag ONLY because Iwould not want him being the only one with out his bat and baseball gloves….
Baseball is his love and he was so excited to take photos and told them that he was going to three more baseball clinics!
ok about now, he was sooo tired! Ha, look at his face! LOL They ran them kids sooo hard it was funny…I caught the last 10 minutes and they were ALL struggling…. It was a great baseball clinic, they taught them a great deal and the price and the time was worth it.
They were practicing sliding onto the bases and they were getting their workout on and had the nerve to be good!! The season will be starting in 2 months and I am glad that I decided to sign him up for all of the baseball clinics BEFORE the season even started. I dont want to be running around during the season… he will be playing soccer and baseball at the same time again this year!
Now on my way to a birthday fellowship for him.
My kids were so happy to see their God Mother that I felt bad telling them that we could not hang that long! I already know that I am going to have to pull my kids away after a minute if we are to stay on schedule!! I was trying to share my time in 4 different areas and evidently I packed too much of it into one day!! I still loved seeing everyone and all of the ripping and running……. LOL
They talked and hugged and laughed until it made my heart smile! Nikki has been an amazing impact in my 18 1/2 year old twins lives ever since they were about 5 years old and she has been consistent… so naming her God Mother over my 9 year old was easy as well. She has such a great spirit and a huge heart and the kids soo genuinely love her…. you can see it everytime they see one another…. Jaylen LOVES her to pieces… and now that she has a son of her own, Jared feels that he is the big brother and tries to help her… funny!
I am blessed to just be able to document the NEW MOMENTS in my life… May God continue to bless the Porter, Smith, Jones and Coleman families! Mom Smith, Nikki, Ray, Little Ray, Cornell, Toy and Little CJ have ALL been there for me as well… GEESH… they know a little chunck of my story!!! I am grateful for the part ( s ) that God allowed them to play and they chose to play in my life…..
another saturday soccer game for jared and as always, my buddy was on fire!! the weather was bad and of course i was hoping that they would shoot me an email and cancel the game but OF COURSE they didnt…. i said wow, this team parent stuff is starting to become a drag due to other parents not pulling their weight via their scheduled duties…..
as i watch him run up and down the court i often wonder if he realizes that he is a better soccer player than baseball player….. i told him that and he just laughed..
They won 3 to 0 and although the parents are not supposed to keep score due to the fact that they are only trying to instill team player characteristics… but the kids surely dont care about all of that if THEY DONT WIN! They all seem to take all so hard and my son puts his anger issues on display which is of course so embarrassing! geesh…
so glad that the other soccer moms and dads arent crazy like it is when it is baseball season…. My sister was paying more attention that I was and I felt bad because I was sitting there reading over paperwork that was already on a serious deadline…. okay let me act like im really watching the game!
i tried to participate as much as i could while jared wasnt looking!!! hey, that boy is in soo many activities he surely needs to cut me some slack! okay the game is almost over so it is so time to leave because i am sleepy, tired and hungry….. Jared of course is trying to say good bye to his friends from the other team but let’s go now!
so now we are headed to go eat so i can do the rest of my running around and he can get dropped off at his other activity for the evening if he wants to still attend….. i swear that i so DESPERATELY need a driver for all of the stuff that he is in… I DONT NEED A NANNY OR A BABY SITTER…. what i need is someone to DRIVE him everywhere! i feel like a car salesman….an insurance man and a pastor going around visiting the sick with all of the stop and go action that i do on a weekly basis… too many miles on my car for a kid! LOL ( just kidding >> i think.. )
Lunch was quick and i surely didnt even enjoy my food and i dont think my son was enjoying my company anymore… his smiles were so fake and phony that he was willing to do anything to just get out of the restauraunt……. ummmm maybe he was ready to go see his friends.. lol
this is a spoiled face…..mom i love you but i am ready face…. but although at times he is a brat but he is really a good boy! really!
im so over my spoiled but funny son! alright jared….let’s go so we BOTH can get a break! oops.. did i say that! LOL
MAN OH MAN!!!! I was so excited when my son wanted to try something different this season…… WRESTLING! I thought that it would be a great experience for him as well as would really help get his weight down! Lo and behold, I forgot to take into account what type of “coaching style” I may run into… I was schocked, sad and disgusted with the coaching staff as well as the coaching style that was represented even on his first day!
I am thinking that it MUST be a black culture thing that SCREAMING at the kids and calling them NAME is a mentality where the coaches feel that will toughen them up for what is about to be next! Wow… is all that I could say when my son started wrestling last week on Monday..
I wanted to cry AFTER I witnessed this sad display of coaching……..I honestly wanted to fight the head coach before I left… It was just plain HORRID on how he talked to ALL of the kids…and the ages had ranged from like 5 to 16 years old before they were all broken into groups via age and weight class….
At first when I sat in the car just observing the parents…. kids….and coaching staff interaction… I MUST ADMIT that I said to myself.. hmmm.. baby I am not sure if I am going to like the structure of this organization, I can tell already! It did not matter to me how known this organization was known for wrestling and winning matches and even turning a beginning into a winner in a few months…
Yeah that may be the case and have some validity to it… but as a mother…. im seriously thinking.. ” at what costs ” are you trying to prune my son and other people’s kids into wrestlers? Are you even trying to get to know the kids to see if this is indeed something that they dont want to do…
Are you mature enough as a coach to talk to the parents and be honest with them and say.. Mom / Dad… I commend you for wanting to place your son in this particular sport…but maybe I dont think that this WRESTLING is for him… give your reasons why and let the parents make that choice etc….Geesh! Where is the koof these days??
However, what I had witnessed even with the first night…..that was indeed NOT THE MODE that these coaches were into…well let me not say ALL but there were about 6 coaches there and there were 2 that were sooo serious even on the first day…it was very VERY very alarming. Then the Wrestling head coach himself was about 5 feet 4 inches and seemed like he always had something to prove everytime he opened up his mouth….. He is the little man with the blue shirt and dreds….. yes that is him! ( refer to the photo below AFTER the next 2 paragraphs below )
He screamed at the kids…. called them names… told them they could go home if they did not like him… stated that if he saw their parents were not around and if they did a wrestling move incorrectly, that he would hit them in the head…. I blurted out not my son you wont…. I didnt care how I looked but that is another reason I feel why so many black male athletes are too aggressive… (especially in Football)
this type of behavior is accepted by these coaches in these black neighborhoods and some of the coaches never had any type of leadership position thus far in their lifetime ..so they indeed OVERLY react in a position of a coach….. ( especially football )
there were no pep talks… I talked to 2 of the other coaches expressing my concern on the lack of stretching that DID NOT TAKE PLACE before the coach started showing the kids all of these wrestling moves, stances and positions. So by now you can obviously tell that I surely was not pleased and ONLY signed my son up predicated on his OWN personal interest in wrestling and him asking me to find an organization so that he could play and see if he would like it etc… I ONLY signed him up for this organization bases off of their REPUTATION…. However, you see that “now days” a reputation does not hold too much weight any more… look at Penn State University… Joe Paterno was coach for 46 years and his legacy is left with him being FIRED!!!
Back to this rude and unbalanced Coach…..He called the kids names…. smacked one little boy in the head two times and when I thought I heard him call my son a name because he is a little overweight, I had to CALM MYSELF and have one of those “” WOO – SIGH MOMENTS “” because I wanted to make sure that I had heard what I did and not be assuming I heard something because I was soo judgemental ( and obviosuly rightfully so ) in the beginnig….
Lo and behold he indeed call my son a name pertaining to his weight and I spoke to one of the coaches about it and since there was only about 10 more minutes left in the FIRST and only practice that my son would be participating in with this organization …I waited until it was over to talk to my son and the manager of the organization.
Long story short… I asked my son how he felt when we got in the car ( WITH MY MIND ALREADY MADE UP THAT WE WERE NOT GOING BACK )….he said that he still wants to do wrestling but NOT with that man being the coach… I WAS INDEED happy and soooo very proud of my son realizing that the behavior that he saw was NOT normal at all….. My son plays baseball…. and there is no screaming and name calling… My son plays soccer…. and there is no disrespectful marks being said and no fear being put into him if he doesnt score a goal… My son plays the saxophone and the teacher does not make him sit out of a performance because he missed a practice… My son does Tae kwon do and the Grand Master does not scold him for not blocking the right way…. Parents dont speak up apparently…because alot of them complained over in the corner but I heard them say that he has been the coach for about 4 or 5 years and he is good at what he does! UMM >>News Flash.. he is good at the mechanics but NOT at the coaching.. meaning he is a horrid teacher…..
It is like a paralegal… they are more geared to study and dig for tons of research to help the lawyer to win his or her case…. The paralegal does the research…the mechanics …the dynamics of the job BUT the lawyer “presents the evidence” that the paralegal found… It takes a certain type of individual to work with kids…gain their respect..their ear etc.. BUT to gain those same things with parents… is something totally different… and I SAY SHAME TO THE PARENTS who complained about the verbal and semi physical abuse but year after year they continued to bring their OWN CHILD BACK TO THE CHAOS!
They all TALK to him and explain to him what could be done better and still congratulates him on the things that he is already doing right! Sad to say but they are all white coaches and the activities that he participates in are all located in white neighborhoods and we indeed live in an 85% white neighborhood. I AM NOT SAYING that ” white is right “….but my golly, they surely have some “perspectives that a great deal of blacks dont have ” which can help mold your child… uplift your family… etc…
I am venting of course.. but it is NOT ABOUT COLOR but it is about how a person is raised…what they are exposed to…what morals..values ..ethics and beliefs are PLANTED…. However, my black brothers and sisters STILL must get it together in more areas than I would like to admit… but TRUTH IS STILL TRUTH…regardless how it is presented.. Lord thank you for showing me how to raise MY SON!
Wow, I did an awesome blog on parent teacher conferences and it disappeared! As much as I love to write, I am indeed not writing everything over so I will just post photos! Seriously, I will come back and blog for this, im just mad the computer DID NOT save all the good stuff that I wrote about my sons day!
