Excitement – 101

Umm…. Maybe I should NOT be so excited that my son is going to be GONE after his band recital tonight? Well that is all apart of Excitement 101′s FIRST STEP! We must EMBRACE IT so that we can effectively enjoy it! LOL

It is Memorial Day weekend and I seem to FORGET about it every year… silly I know but my son’s bday is the following weekend and we always go away and do something lazy, fun and exciting so that is what connects my mind with the month of May.

I will be FREE IN JESUS - LOL Having a good ole’ time……………….  my personal little party will end on Sunday afternoon because he has of course.. ANOTHER baseball game! Lord knows…the Heavens know… even the little flies that irritate me as I am driving knows that  I love my baby DEARLY….  to the point it can be indeed sickening sometimes…

But!!! and thank God for the but… he has been driving me BONKERS over the past month and a half! So yeah.. see ya bye! He will be at cook outs… swimming parties… birthday parties.. movies…amusement parks.. and I will be NO WHERE to be found!

EXCITEMENT 101- embrace what has made you excited and enjoy it to the fullest!!

Drum Roll PLEASE!!   >>>>>>>FOR A CHANGE………….

I can JUST be a woman and not a mommy or SUPER  WOMAN for a few days! WHOO – HOO!!

Dining and Speaking

Had a great evening last night and I almost did not want to leave! It is amazing how much time women put into getting ourselves together for an event!  From hair…make up…to jewelry and also my pin and flower!

I was asked to be 1 of 3 speakers for a “well to do” neighborhood organization and I was indeed honored to have been asked…..  The ONLY pet peeve that I would say that I had is that AGAIN my name was spelled wrong!

 The common way to spell it I am assuming in societ is VALERIE but mine is spelled VALARIE. To some people it may seem a bit silly but let your name be spelled WRONG on your Masters Degree then tell me how you feel about it! LOL

Welp…. I was elated to enjoy the evening and thankful that I am seated next to a few wonderful people as well as seated at a wonderfully interesting table!…..

         

I am indeed OBSESSIVELY – oopps .. LOL I meant to say “carefully” watching my weight since I have gained 5 pounds in a matter of 2 weeks! SO HORRIBLE! STARCH CAN BE A KILLER!

Nonetheless…the food was tastely and you could even taste the $150.00 a plate ingredients! LOL……

Well that it is almost my time to speak – I guess that I need to start paying more attention to the flow of the program and stop mingling and taking photos!

      

The wonderful social lite president of this upscale neighborhood organization took a few photos of me because she felt that my speech was very inspiring to her as well as the room. Talk about a nice compliment!

         

Okay, now that it is over I am …I am able to get back to my table and do MORE NETWORKING! I am so grateful that my father made me literally EAT POLITICS as a child because I had even Congressman Altmire taking a photo with so indeed I was flattered and terribly shocked but happy!

        

God is amazing and being obedient to HIM will allow us to be in the midst of great people, obtain major opportunities and establish favor among men! I had a very enjoyable evening and I have no one but God to thank for that! Oh wait, also my little son Jared because he saw that I was a little nervous because he knew the room was full of politicians and the social lites from a “well off” neighborhood! So guess what he did as I was getting dressed!!?? He gave me a stroy to read and then advised me to read a chapter in Psalm in the bible!

I was TOOO floored… so when that happened – I knew that not only the rest of my afternoon would be great but my whole week! Encouragement goes a MIGHTY long way regardless how it comes and when it comes! God will use anything and anybody to give us what we need! MY SON ROCKS!!!

Now it is time to end the evening with exchanging contact information, hugs, handshakes and of course if you know ME!! >>> MORE PHOTOS!

      

Pep Talk To My Boy

Dear Jared..

Dont ever allow small minds to tell you that YOUR dreams are too big!!!

People like this are obviously unhappy with their lives due to the unability to discover who they are and move forward via their own destiny.

Whether it is with the New York Yankees, Washington Nationals, Philadelphia Phillies or the Pittsburgh Pirates….YOU WILL be playing in the major leagues!

Your dedication and the hard work that you put in blesses me and I am proud to be your mom!

#TeamMLB

Anything!

Tell, show and PREPARE your kids and let them know that they can do anything as a profession! Good old honest hard work, with morals, values, ethics, beliefs and of course THE FAVOR of GOD can get them there! My son Jared wants to be a middle school principal, a soccer player, a baseball player and a secret service agent…….and I surely tell him that HE IS CAPABLE of even becoming all of them…..

OF COURSE – He asked me how – I did a timeline for a person’s life and showed him HOW on paper and through our conversation many things can be accomplished over a person’s life span. It does not all have to occur all at once…….wisdom tells you to put a plan together and see when and where certain aspirations can come into play. You cant be a football player and a secret service agent at the same time because of time constraints but you can still do both……

 

 

You can not be a middle school principal and play baseball because a principal is needed from August to June from different hours between 7 and 5 and baseball season starts in April and Spring Training in March in another state…

You cant do them both at the same time but you can still do them….. I encourage and push him to BE HIM… Dreams are good but as his mother I assist him to make his dreams a reality!

Can’t is a word that is found in the dictionary but NOT in your vocabulary when you are reaching for your goals….is WHAT I tell – teach and show my 9 1/2 year old son!! Now my 18 1/2 year old son…. I have tried to explain this same concept but his desire is to be NFL Bound  and ONLY IF THAT DOES NOT pan out for him – he desires to become and DEA Agent.

Okay great, there is at least some type of back up plan….HOWEVER – even if he makes it to the NFL, that money  and lifestyle can help you LIVE but not SURVIVE…

There is a difference between ” living and surviving”…..

Wooo Sighing at 6:30 am!

Like really…. Like for real…. Like again JARED!!

Okay im sure that i am like number 12,234,767 via moms who want to strangle their kids for acting up and acting out at school!

 

ACTING UP – deliberating doing things, knit picking etc.

ACTING OUT – doing things because they do not know how to express how they are feeling inside etc.

umm.. at this point I need a psychological term for a kid WHO DOES BOTH!! I mean 630 am I am chatting with his teacher at school when I dropped him off then I think that I flipped out for like AN AMAZINGLY GOOD – SO NEEDED – SO WORTH IT 90 seconds!!!!

It felt good but then to chastize your kid for things that he already knows NOT TO DO…. ummm can be just a tad bit annoying…irritating and i was sooo over it!!

Then the more I kept telling him to practice sharing his feelings and it is okay for boys/ men to express themselves I DONT CARE WHAT YOU MAY HAVE HEARD but it is healthy!

After him crying, the teaching showing her frustration, me twirling my hair to keep my hands from choking my son and me saying the word prayer about 15 times…..

By the end of the little 630 to 650 meeting – Jared was HAPPY – the teacher was glad that we had ANOTHER talk – and I felt that we made some progress.

( LORD PLEASE HELP )

Okay Jared’s issues are – misses his 18 1/2 yr old siblings – does not have arelationship with the man who’s name is on his birth certifate and who the Webster’s Dictionary would call father – and his misses his grandfather – the one who he considered as his father.

So it is ALL centered around RELATIONSHIPS!  UGGGHH – this too shall pass! We have been down this road before and God AS USUAL will help Jared once again!

Okay – woo -sighing for ” TODAY” is officially done!

Thanking GOD for direction, love and progress!

#TEAMJARED

Saturday “MOM STUFF”

Too much to write about but Jared yet had another Baseball Clinic that he attended Saturday - ” im pooped” – he feels my Saturday mornings should be scheduled for Baseball Clinics!

Took AT LEAST 30 Photos – but I am only uploading a few! (too many to upload)

I am so proud of my son ” sticking ” to his desire and DREAM to become a professional baseball player! He may SWITCH up on what musical instrument he wants to play but Baseball and Soccer he has shown to be his things to do on a CONSISTENT basis! Consistency is key….  I do believe that Jared will surely make it to the Majors!

He ONLY has ever had 4 choices and in this order:

1. New York Yankees - Derek Jeter

2. Washington Nationals – Niger Morgan

3. Pittsburgh Pirates – Andrew McCutchen

4. Philadelphia Phillies – Ron Howard

 The Yankees is his favorite team and the Phillies are my favorite team so go figure! Nonetheless, I am rooting for my baby because he is a COLEMAN – and we always succeed!

Jared doing Tae Kwon Do

Allowing my son to venture into various activities keeps him busy and his mind open to trying new and creative things!

Jared is in the back making me proud!!

Missing Mr. Darrell

Your friends…..your brothers above miss you just as much as I do I am sure of that….. you cant be replaced!

Darrell your birthday isnt until April 29th but I really miss you! Me and Jared was sitting here looking at some of your photos and reading alot of the articles on line from that horrid night that killer GOMEZ took you from your family and friends….. Jaylen WONT admit it, I have no idea why but he is ” silently ” having a hard time over your death ( murder )…..  with his text messages to me saying ” mommy, im sad…i miss Darrell”…..

This past weekend he walked into my house and said mom, I feel like going crazy it feels like the summer all over again…

We felt very weird even re – hashing the situation..but we talk about you all the time…..  I started to grab a photo album and he sat on the couch where you always slept then felt horrible for sitting there….. You should have seen the look that he gave me! He looked as if he saw a ghost… not literally of course but he just felt weird about sitting there. Of course, I told him that it was okay and he needs to take the time to mourn you…… he played it off but slowly scooted down further on the coach as if he didnt want to sit in your old spot…. he just placed the laptop there and changed the subject…..

You will NEVER be forgotten Mr. Darrell! I Love you and miss you!  Monroeville, Pa will never be the same, Gateway High School will never be the same, Gateway Gators will never be the same, PA SWAG Team will never be the same, your friends will never be the same, your FAMILY will never be the same! Praying for your mom Rose…your Dad Darrell Sr and your sweet sister!

G – O – N – E     2    S- O – O -N!

LINKS BELOW

http://www.wtae.com/high-school-playbook/28343318/detail.html

 http://www.pittsburghlive.com/x/pittsburghtrib/sports/highschool/football/s_751545.html

http://m.post-gazette.com/local/neighborhoods-east/da-student-killed-over-peanut-shells-1165629

Believing in Jared

J  – A – R – E – D   C.   C- O -L – E – M – A – N

Jared advised me as early as 4 years old that he wanted to be a Professional Baseball Player and by 6 years old! Awesome right!

 Then he told me that he wanted to also be a Professional Soccer Player as well.  He loves England, Spain and Braziliam teams  but not America!

As his mother, of course I told him that HE CAN DO BOTH and he does!

 He has been playing baseball since he was 4 and soccer since he was 6 and he will be 10 in May of this year.  It is very imperative that you not only rear your children, groom your children, discipline your children BUT YOU MUST ALSO “Listen and Believe in” your children.

Jared and his friend Jaired!! Both pronounced Jared and both wanting to be baseball players had another Baseball Clinic this saturday morning.

I love that my son not only has a creative athletic side but he also inspires to dabble into music and education. He has played the drums, the piano and now is studying the Tenor Sax. Via the educational system, he wants to be a middle school principal!  Amazing that the things that interest him, allows him to stand out and be different.

This morning along with last Saturday gave him yet another opportunity to strengthen his baseball technique and unless he says otherwise, I will continue pushing him, signing him up for programs and everything else that he may need to secure his dream as being a baseball player.

If you have children, please take the time to talk with them and ask them what would “they like to do / be” when they get older. It not only allows you to obtain a glimpse at what you child desires to do with his or her life BUT it also forces your children to think about it. Dont wait until your children are in high school to push them into discovering what they desire to do with their lives….

Be supportive in every way that you are able to in word and in action because they will definately remember it. Parenting is one of the most HARDEST but yet REWARDING things that can be experience……

Jared means Ruler

I was just thinking of the meaning of my sons name and the story in the bible via where his name came from.

My then 7 year old daughter Moo Moo (what I still call her at 18! ) is the person who named jared.

She was very serious about a biblical name for her brother and after two days of sifting through the bible said God said her future baby brothers name should be Jared Caleb.

However, just re reading the story in Genesis 4 and Genesis 5 still blesses me. Especially knowing the good stock that came from the passage of scripture!  Enoch, the son of Jared, a great-grandfather of Noah, and father of Methuselah……now that is GOOD GROUND!

 According to the Bible, Enoch and Elijah are the only two people God took to heaven without them dying. Genesis 5:24 tells us, “Enoch walked with God; then he was no more, because God took him away.” Second Kings 2:11 tells us, “…suddenly a chariot of fire and horses of fire appeared and separated the two of them, and Elijah went up to heaven in a whirlwind.” Enoch is described as a man who “walked with God for 300 years” (Genesis 5:23). Elijah was perhaps the most powerful of God’s prophets in the Old Testament. There are also prophecies of Elijah’s return (Malachi 4:5-6).

Why did God take Enoch and Elijah? The Bible does not specifically give us the answer. Some speculate that they were taken in preparation for a role in the end times, possibly as the two witnesses in Revelation chapter 11:3-12. This is possible, but not explicitly taught in the Bible. It may be that God desired to save Enoch and Elijah from experiencing death due to their great faithfulness in serving and obeying Him. Whatever the case, God has His purpose, and while we don’t always understand God’s plans and purposes, we know that “His way is perfect” (Psalm 18:30).