Note 2 Self…………

Yes, I have GOT to slow down…..

Some Truth 2 This!

It is FUNNY how from ages 10 to 50 our viewpoints CHANGE on how we view our parents, especially Mothers! These are the main focus ages that I feel may be turning points in women’s lives below….Not accurate for everyone but some may be able to connect.

Age 10 -  I love you mommy, you are the greatest

Age 14  – I swear that my mother gets on my everlasting nerves, she does not understand how I feel

Age 18 – I cannot wait to move out of my mother’s house

Age 25 -  I am sorry mom, you were so right about EVERYTHING

Age 30 -  I am so glad that I have you to share in every aspect of my life

Age 50  -  I wish that my mom was still alive

Age 70  – I HOPE AND PRAY that I am as good as a mother as mine was to me

I am SOOO grateful that my mommy is still alive and well……… and I pray that God grants me at least 20 more years with her! I have always realized how important my mother was AND still is in my life. She GAVE me life so how can I keep her out of mine!

 

Finish

Finish each day and be done with it…. Realize that the day is over or at least is coming to a close! ( an end ) Whatever happened – has happened and whatever that was suppose to happen – did not happen for “whatever reason”

Learn not to take your failures to bed and refrain from keeping your bed a cemetary! YES! Some blunders and obscurities have found a way to creep into your day and have shifted some things for the worse… but MOVE ON because you have another day to plan for! Remember that the key here is to reflect on what was and move on because staying mentally in the past is dangerous AND NOT prosperous!

You have an opportunity to FINISH your day strong! – ” dont blow it again”…..

Baffled

This is NOT the look of a 10 year old boy who had a birthday the day before and was given a great deal of things and went a lot of places. This cannot be the same person with this expression on his face can it? I am still confused MYSELF of this little transition from yesterday until today……

His face is displaying the reaction from his AMAZING mother punishing him because of something the he chose to do THIS MORNING! Yes we are SUPPOSE to still be in celebration mode for his birthday BUT when you make the wrong choices in life – THINGS HAPPEN.  The world does not care what day of the week it is….who’s birthday it is….who died… who was born…..who is sad….who is crying…..who got married…who is joyful…..etc..etc..etc.. Learn early son and it will make your life EASIER.

I REMINDED him how good of a Parent that I have been and that he knows that I only request CERTAIN LITTLE things via his behavior. I am raising him as a Christian, God -Fearing and respectful wisdomatic boy. He knows better and that is why it bothered me as well to place him on punishment at 6 am this monring when we had such an awesome time yesterday and the AMAZING things that I had planned for him via the rest of the weekend. Nonetheless, we all have to learn lessons in life and I am glad that I can be the one to teach him a variety of them….all within the confinments of my home.

Happy Birtthday anyway Button Drop!! You will learn from this and respect me for it later! Being disobedient can cause damage to your own life!

Quality Friendships

These are the qualities that each one of us needs if our friendships are going to last. Charity, Humility, Reverence, Inspiration, Sacrifice and Toleration – these enable the real friends to be sifted from the false. If you take the first letter of each one of these qualities and arrange them in order they will form one word:

 C from Charity  H from humility  R from reverence  I from intelligence  S from sacrifice   T from toleration

spell and form the word Christ. In bringing these qualities into your own life you put on Christ. And when you become so Christ-like, then you have the warmth and affection that will cause you to lay down your life for a friend and it will inspire your friends to be willing to lay down their lives for you.

For a friendship to survive each must try to learn and understand the workings of the minds of others. Friendships are not proven by the sounding of words, of the moving of lips. It is achieved through the workings of one’s mind trying to procure the best thoughts, the best motives, the best ideals, for the one whom he wishes to call his friends. This intelligent appreciation of each others mind, produces a greatness that is above jealousies and pettiness. It accounts for the peace and happiness that true friends experience when in each others company.

Sacrifice is always a must in any quality relationship. This simply means giving yourself to others till it hurts and forgiving those who have trespassed against you. A complete emptying of your own personality so that it adds luster to the one who receives it. Sacrifice is the true test of friendship. Only when it is in use can the friendship hope to survive. Christ said, “Greater love than this no one has than he who lays down his life for a friend.”

Tolerating their faults, suffering with their failures. Toleration brings with it a unity of spirit, develops a marriage between hearts and strengthens each one in the desire to be virtuous. Without toleration no friendship can be cultivated. No friendship can ever hope to survive. Because of what you must give to a friend and what he must give to you, it is impossible to have many friends in your life.

My Morning – Observation

Random With Friends…..

Do as little harm to others as you can; make any sacrifice for your true friends; be responsible for yourself and ask nothing of others; and grab all the fun you can. Don’t give much thought to yesterday, don’t worry about tomorrow, live in the moment, and trust that your existence has meaning even when the world seems to be all blind chance and chaos.

We really do not know who we shall ever need in this life so that is why people need to throw out the mind set of the hang ups that they may have with certain cultures……in the end – we all either have O Positive  AB /  B Negative /  A / O blood that could be all be used in a blood transfusion!

There are enough struggles that people endure on a regular basis so realize that life is a gift and the friends that you meet are a blessing. When life lands a hammer blow in your face, do your best to respond to the hammer as if it had been a cream pie. Sometimes REALLY weird humor is the only kind we can summon, but even dark laughter can sustain.

Be open to LIFE! ( in a good way of course )

Men -Woman -Relationships

To keep a marriage healthy, the first thing is to honor the relationship itself. Come to it as something led by spirit. The next step is to acknowledge each other’s soul, acknowledge each other not just as human beings, but as spirits who have chosen a body to come into. Then, through ritual, bring these two souls together.

A man was designed by GOD to be a husbandman to a rose. As such, he must care for, nurture, protect, “appreciate” and help her achieve maximum potential. A man was created by GOD from water and dirt. Since a rose needs water and dirt to thrive a woman should be able to receive the nourishment she needs through her husband. The husband must lead his wife to trust him, allow him to clip away her stem and lay gently in his hands.

A woman is like a rose. She has petals that are beautiful, delicate, soft and sweet. But a rose also has a thick stem with thorns. The stem represents the toughness she must have in order to stand against the challenges the world forces her to face. The thorns serve to protect her from men who try to pick her up quickly that do not know how to handle her properly.

A man who wants to be wealthy needs a good woman. A good woman has a heart to do the will of GOD and contains within her heart the qualities of strength, power, and moral excellence. A good wife, brothers, can help a man achieve his purpose as well as provide provision, protection, and peace. That is, she can help him materialize his vision for their marriage, help create wealth for their family, cover his back from the attacks of evil men and wanton women, and provide a quiet comfortable home.

It is amazing to read, share and talk to other people who have the same views  on relationships of all kinds and SOAK up more wisdom!

 

Diversity in Christ

Had a nice morning thus far!! Because Christian friendships are soldered together in the Spirit, anything we do to draw closer to God will in turn strengthen our friendships. Pray for strength, wisdom, and patience. Study Scripture to learn the character of Christ and how he related to his friends. Make use of sacramental graces to unite with Christ and be transformed by Him. The more our friendships are formed by the Spirit, the more these friendships will help us unite even more deeply with God who is Love.

Some people may argue that we should never expect any one friend, including a spouse, to meet all our needs. However, we should look to build many friendships with people having different temperaments, perspectives, abilities, and talents. For example, some friends will be better at encouraging and motivating us, others at challenging us and opening our minds to see things differently, and others at working along side of us. These friendships take longer to form, but can be very enriching as we explore new areas of study, have our assumptions challenged, gain new insights, and enjoy new types of music, art, movies, or food. Heaven is color blind and so should we!  That is what makes LOVE so powerful!

God is love and sees no color and ONLY actions that are done towards one another for HIS SAKE.

 

Yesterday!!!

YESTERDAY!!!! ………  The enemy almost had me jacked up!  Yesterday I wanted to flip out!!! Yesterday I so needed my mother!!! Yesterday I needed a hug from my sister!! Yesterday I wanted to choke my son!! Yesterday I felt like not wanting to be my son’s mother!!!!! Yesterday I needed God to take the pain away!! The bitterness surely was on its way and I am glad that God “blocked it”…… ( that is a true blessing )

Yesterday I was so upset that I could not even cry!!!! Yesterday, God allowed me to go through a very STRONG AND STORMY situation and he then gave me the peace that I needed and allowed me to have and maintain victory over the situation!

Yesterday God reminded me that I have to regroup and refocus to keep my sanity…. Yesterday God advised me that He allowed all of these things that I felt were so bad to transpire… Yesterday God said.. all is well.

OH GOD!!! Is all that I kept saying out loud!I almost felt as if I was INDEED going to lose my mind and the ONLY thing that can shift me toward that direction is when it comes to “family matters/ situations”…..

Welp guess what! The enemy knows that as well so trust me when I tell you that he works in OVERTIME and OVERDRIVE in that area because he loves to see me breakdown…..

Listen as a parent – your kids will surely take “you there” if and when you allow then…..  My kids ….my teenage twins have really put me through it since they were 12 1/2 years old and ask me if things has gotten any better?

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm… umm yeah like maybe like 3 months out of EVERY year that has passed since they have been that age! OH MY GOODNESS – HELP ME! For my teenage ungrateful kids to ONLY desire to reach out when it is a FINANCIAL thing is a sad thing.

It is a HORRIBLE….HORRID….HORRIFIC….UNBEARBALE thing to try and raise your children with another parent who has 100% DIFFERENT WAY of raising them but they are in their care. AGONY I tell you…COMPLETE AND STRAIGHT agony!

Of course children ”rather”  sway toward the mind set of the parent and their family that allows things to be a bit easier on them….. Mother or not – I have feelings and indeed to SEE that they do not care about that but care ONLY the feelings that comes along with my pocket book.

The children also have to take blame in the things that they have done as well as have not done through out this horrid process as well… Allowing his father to think “one way” when it is not the truth and my son not speaking up is basically “co – signing” with what the interperation of me in situations.

I have CARED what my teenage kids as well as their father and family have felt about me via parenting LONG ENOUGH…… at this point in my life I feel soo empowered to move on!

My teenage kids will turn 19 this July and I have not washed my hands of “them” but I am indeed allowing LIFE to take its course! I will continue to pray on their behalf but nothing more and nothing less…… I know that I am not the only mother who has NO RELATIONSHIP with their kids father but it is sad that two parents cannot come together and raise their kids.

I do not beleive in allowing kids “to run the show” and the course of the relationship styles of the parents! Well that is what has BEEN HAPPENEING over the years and of course I am the bad guy because I have ALWAYS stood my motherly / Christian ground! It does not feel good while it is working but I know that it is working for MY GOOD.

Praying that God will save my kids! No wait…. God will save them! So my prayer is that they DESIRE and CHOOSE to become and maintain their salvation with The Lord! It is THEIR choice…..

I feel so much better thanks to waiting patiently to hear the voice of The Lord speak to me…. I am well… all is well and I have peace within “again”….

Honor your parents – that is the Holy Scriptures and no success will come until they can learn to honor! Things may look good and feel good but trust me, God will “shut it down” when people least expect it. You cannot go through life not doing what you are supposed to do and feel that you are going to reap the harvest of The Lord!