A book by Neil T. Anderson provided 12 steps to forgiveness……….
1. Ask the Lord to reveal to your mind people you need to forgive.
2. Acknowledge the hurt and the hate.
3. Understand the significance of the Cross.
4. Decide you will bear the burden of each person’s sin (see Galatians 6:1,2). This means you will not retaliate in the future by using the information about their sin against them.
5. Decide to forgive.
6. Take your list to God and pray the following: “I forgive (name) for (list all the offenses and how they made you feel).”
7. Destroy the list.
8. Do not expect that your decision to forgive will result in major changes in the other persons.
9. Try to understand the people you have forgiven, but don’t rationalize their behavior.
10. Expect positive results of forgiveness in you.
11. Thank God for the lessons you have learned and the maturity you have gained as a result of the offenses and your decision to forgive the offenders.
12. Be sure to accept your part of the blame for the offenses you suffered.
I am STILL trying to figure out what is so attractive about tattoos and thugs!!
Women BLASTS rap music with the latest beat that is CLEARLY talking about women being hoes, bi*&%$#, sex, 3 somes, cussing, stealing, killing, drugs and ANY and EVERYTHING else that is deemed negative, disrespectful and demonic and beautiful women pull up to stop lights bobbing their heads to these LYRICS and thinks that it is okay and will tell you in a minute ….. that it does NOT OFFEND THEM because it is just a song!!!
The more that I see women go crazy over rappers wearing Fort Knox around their necks, carrying bottles of alcohol, driving 500k cars reminds me of how material things are people’s best friends and everything else is non in -void.
I cannot stand the phrase that every woman wants a bad boy in her life…..Well honey, MY VERSION of bad boy would be jumping inf front of the line in the movie theatre, tasting a few pieces of candy on the shelf at a grocery store, buying too many NFL Jerseys when I told him not to, sneaking and eating extra potato salad at dinner when he is working on his much-needed diet, forgetting to pick up what I needed from the dry cleaners because he stopped to go play basketball with his friends and forgot or forgetting to put the toilet seat down when he left the bathroom…NOT THIS MESS here!!
Remember Andy Rooney from the CBS Sunday Evening Show called 60 Minutes? Well here is an interesting set of views from him – ( LOL )
If a woman over forty doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it’s usually something more interesting.
A woman over forty knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of forty give a hoot what you might think about her or what she’s doing.
Women over forty are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.
Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.
A woman over forty has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn’t trust the guy with other women. Women over forty couldn’t care less if you’re attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won’t betray her.
Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over forty. They always know.
A woman over forty looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over forty is far sexier than her younger counterpart.
Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jerk, if you are acting like one! You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.
Yes, we praise women over forty for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of forty-plus, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some twenty-two-year-old waitress.
Ladies, I apologize.
For all those men who say, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free,” here’s an update for you. Now 80 percent of women are against marriage, why? Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire pig, just to get a little sausage.
First and foremost – if you are PLEASE STOP IT! You are worth more than the SILLY TIME that you are spending disrupting the lives of other people who clearly and obviously was NOT thinking of you -
When people are feeling bad about themselves, they sometimes think they’ll feel better if there were someone worse off than they are. It’s like, it’s okay being near the bottom, as long as they’re not actually on the bottom. The easiest way for them to make sure someone else is on the bottom is to make up a rumor that puts him or her there.
To feel like part of the group
If everybody else is gossiping or spreading rumors, you might feel you have to do the same thing in order to fit in. When you’re “in on the secret,” you’re in the group. Unfortunately, the person who the gossip or rumor is about is usually left out of the group for the same reason that you’re let into it.
When you know a secret that nobody knows, or are the first person in your group to hear a rumor, it can make you the center of attention. A rumor or piece of gossip is sometimes like money; telling it to people is like buying their attention, if only for a few minutes. You might even save up a really scandalous rumor, waiting for the right moment to blab so you get the greatest amount of attention
Out of boredom
This has to be the #1 reason people spread rumors! They are bored and have nothing PRODUCTIVE going on in their OWN LIVES. Sometimes, a period where everyone is happy and getting along just seems kind of-dull. Spreading juicy dish might shake things up a bit, or get two people to start a fight, and that would make life a little more exciting. All those tabloid newspapers and TV shows full of celebrity gossip are pure proof that rumors are a popular form of entertainment.
For control or power
Certain people always want to be in control and at the top of the latter. You probably know at least one person who needs to be the leader, say what goes, and make all the decisions. When people are at the top of the popularity scale, or are determined to climb higher, one way they do this is by reducing the “status” of another person. Spreading rumors and gossip is one of the main ways people cut another person’s status, especially among girls. It’s like one caveman beating up another caveman for control of the tribe-only it’s done with cruel whispers and petty remarks instead of fists.
Out of jealousy or a need for revenge
If you’re jealous of someone’s looks, popularity, or money, you might gossip about that person to hurt him or her. If you feel that someone’s done something bad to you, or deserves to be hurt, making up a rumor might satisfy your sense of justice.
Now, if you have ANY traits of this then you have to just admit that you indeed are a gossiper….
It is okay, because now you can “Get a Life”…. and work on it!
Many women feel guilty when they take a break for themselves, but that may be a dangerous thing. If you never have any time except reactive time — things you must do for others — you don’t have a sense of control. You are interrupted all the time.
I have been reading up on symptoms and have seen that your brain can have trouble resting even during sleep. Such chronic exhaustion increases the release of stress hormones, and your blood sugar rises. If this is your normal state, then the physical consequences increase your risk of diabetes, heart disease, and memory problems. If that’s not enough to scare you into taking some time for yourself, consider this: The hormonal effects of always being on edge help deposit fat right around your waist.
Many women believe that taking time for yourself is a selfish thing to do. In fact, the opposite is true: if you are not at your peak, you cannot take care of others. I think new moms AND single mothers are especially prone not to take ME time. They believe ‘the baby’ …..”the kids”…takes precedence over all of their lives, and they must bow to their every whim.
But the thing is, that is exhausting, and if you are exhausted, you cannot be a good mom. I have come to a cease halt because I HAVE BECOME VERY EXHAUSTED and this week, I thought that I would literally just keel over from tiredness!
On an airplane, parents are taught to put the mask on themselves first then to place the mask on their kids. This is because if they have trouble getting the mask on their children, both the parent and the child could die because neither got their mask on properly.
I believe this applies to life as well: you have to take care of yourself first!!! I may be VERY LATE just now discovering to put ME FIRST but it is better late than never!
Taking time for yourself needs to be just that: a few hours where you are not interrupted or wondering when the children are going to need something next. It needs to be something you do completely for yourself. Going grocery shopping away from the kids does not count…’me time’ must be something you like to do and you do only for yourself.
Think about taking a class you’ve always wanted to take, or taking time out to read a book you’ve always wanted to read, or even just sleeping in.
Turn off the cell phone, and inform everyone that you are not to be disturbed, and then follow through with that: do not allow anyone to disturb you. The best way to do this is to get away from the kids and husband and go somewhere else.
My son now is used to going away to camp at least a few times a year.
How about Don’t take the kids with you, just go somewhere and unwind!! But do it WITH NO KIDS!! I have taken it a step further to send my son to camp for 4 weeks over the summer. One week in June, two weeks in July and one week in August. They are all split apart of course so we can still bond and have our time BUT I have made a very conscious decision to put me first going forward!
I want to LIVE! but live well..be happy..be healthy & remain whole!