Losing A Friend Today -


I have to admit that this may be ALL of my fault – admitting it does make the pain a tad bit more bearable…..

I really thought that this thing would be good to me and stay my BEST FRIEND… but things have changed between us and I do not know what to do!! I was in LOVE with ” MR. SCALE” …. he was the PERFECT boyfriend.. told me and showed me all the things I wanted….

Eventually he started changing on me….  So either I have to get rid of HIM or change a few of MY own habits…….

We have been through this battle before and this fight isn’t as bad as they used to be, so maybe there is HOPE..

Always Make Time!


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Mothers and daughters have a tie that runs deep and strong. A bond that cant be severed by time or distance. But, as in every relationship, you must give it love and attention for it to grow and blossom. Spending time with your mom is very important. Mothers and daughters should get together and try to think of ways that will allow them not only to have fun together, but that will strengthen your friendship. It really doesn’t matter where you go or what you do, as long as it appeals to both of you.

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Designate ” a day” and  maybe it can be Sunday as a family day, attend church together, go to dinner, spend an afternoon at the park and watch a movie that night. Whatever you chose, the only thing that’s important is that your spending time together and bonding. You’re developing and strengthening your friendship.

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Spending time with the people we love is important, its really more important than our jobs or any other of the million and one responsibilities we must cater to every day. It really doesn’t matter how we do it, as long as we make some time everyday for those we love.

5 Minute Random -


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Don’t hate, get upset, disgruntled or walk away from God because of the troubles you face everyday …..Leaving CHRIST should be the VERY last thing on your mind – Trouble don’t last always – even when it FEELS like it – I feel it too!

However, the Bible said that you will have troubles , but your Heavenly and lovely Father Jesus promised that He will never leave you lost in them . He is with you . Believe that God is faithful , and if you lost something , HE WILL GIVE YOU SOMETHING BETTER . I can say this with every part of me because I lost not many but dear things to me , and God didn’t betray me . I gained the double ..

Why are you too sad ?The Lord said ” I will repay you” in His Bible . He also said that whatever comes out from His mouth must be done . Believe in Him and put all your trust in Him because He is not like the people you meet , who say ”will do” but never do .
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Life can get REALLY hard…things happen and you wonder why AND how long – trust me I know ….I get it… sometimes you want to throw your hands up and it is “okay”…..just don’t walk away from all the hard work that you ALREADY put in….. This is a time for your trials and tribulations NOT to become in vain..


God bless you!!!!  

P.S. Know that this 5 minute random was for me too!

Longggg BUT Good Day


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One word folks…… #Exhausted………. Nonetheless, Boy did God bless my mother AND I on today…….. Our last few weeks have been a bit ” challenging…. to say the least ” BUT we have managed to remain overcomers in Christ Jesus -

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Oh it’s soo amazingly nice to be friends with people for years and you see each other off and off but when you do, its like YOU NEVER skipped a beat! Oh how I loved BOTH of these women of God…women of Virtue! Sis. Lorraine is a nice size piece of my past that gives me strength everytime that I see her – She is truly one of God’s special people…

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I absolutely adore BOTH of these ladies and thank the Lord that they both have taught ME a multitude of things….

The mental blessings that I obtained on today has once again shifted me onto another path……

Gratefully Blogged…..

Dave and Busters


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I swear this restaurant is such a family atmosphere BUT I’m not too keen on the overall experience there…….
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Besides “the game playing area”…..    it feels like an overly fast paced restaurant that wants to get as many people IN ….just as much as they want to get the people OUT.
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Every time I’m at this place I feel like I’m a part of a herd of CATTLE…. Eat…talk then hirry and get to the play area because we need this table!!!
imageAt LEAST that “the company” was amazing so it made it all worth it!!! …Uggghhh…. not MY favorite restaurant  ….

Friendship With Fellowship


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I really enjoy having a bunch of different friendships in MY LIFE. …. Honey, JUST like Christ, #diversity Rocks!!!!!

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Me and my girlpals have a “standing appointment” every single week that we meet up and hang out…
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After the last few months, weeks, days and hours that I have been having.. ….. Especially worrying about my Mommy!!! Whew, Seeing REAL friends / girlpals is just what I need!!!! LOL ..we eat..laugh..FREELY talk about God..life…relationshops…..work…being angry….being happy etc…etc…etc… ans more etc…etc..
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Having friends BUT no fellowship is NOT a relationship! !!!!! In life, we have to be open to ALL types of friends because YOU will never know who God is trying to connect us to and what God is trying to do for us…..
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Be open!!! I can tell you honestly that it’s been a blessing AND its worth it!

Another Heart STOPPER -


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Okay – I attend the movies at LEAST twice a week and  when there is ANY TYPE of historical movie that deals with this country via politics AND black history / civil rights …..I DASH him to the movie theater to view it. Okay I have had a tough day folks – My son even had to hug me a few times and hold my hands……….. History is important in general but for my son being an African American boy in these good ole United States, it is IMPERATIVE that he knows.

The more recent black history type movies that I have taken him to see were movies as -

The Help….( My son was very irritated when we were walking out of the movie theater )

The Butler.. ( My son had very mixed emotions & was trying to compare life now vs then via black men )

12 Years of Slave….( My son was in such SILENT SHOCK basically during the whole movie )

Nonetheless, seeing The Help allowed me to REMIND myself of why I act the way that I do in certain situations when I am around “certain types” of white women ………..  The Butler made me honor and respect black men even the more….and 12 Years A Slave …………Welp, – unfortunately for me - I am STILL trying to “get myself together” in the worse way – it is 9 pm at night and I took him to see this movie at 1 pm this afternoon! So please pray for my mind and my emotions….. God knows that I am soooooooo serious right now -

I mean – although sadly……blacks have been in slavery for a little over 400 years – it still made me think of the racism that still goes on today for blacks – ESPECIALLY black men -

It made me feel bad for stereotyping and racial profiling that I do even myself – however – although that those behaviors are indeed WRONG……but before I make myself out to be this bad black woman who discriminates against her own kind – I get upset because “my own kind” have to fight to not only get it together….BUT also keep it together…

Yes we can CLEARLY see that the white men and women years ago played the main blame in slavery BUT we are in 2013 and things are not the way that they used to be…MEANING – I do not like hearing that EVERYTHING “is the white man’s fault”… I have heard that since the late 80′s and I am wondering why I am STILL hearing it.  The white man did not STOP EVERYONE AND EVERY DREAM that the African American people have or may had.

We have to be honest and LOOK around and LOOK from within and ask ourselves…..are we helping each other get ahead? Sadly, there is only a very small number / percentage of African Americans who even care about the American Dream….let alone will fight to even achieve it.

Truth be told… I want to know how many are going to school…. caring about their grades instead of truancy behaviors………. are the favorite subjects in school gym time or science….are we becoming parents too young……if so are we good parents….are we pulling up our pants…are we selling stolen goods….are we being disrespectful to our parents and teachers……are we choosing to have a library card instead of a gun…… are we interested in studying medicine instead of selling medicine……

With all that Mr. Solomon Northup  (real name of the man who was MADE a slave) went through AFTER being a slave for 12 years – he lived the rest of his life fighting for change – he did not choose to be a murderer because he was dealt a wrong hand….he didn’t become a thief ..he didn’t become a womanizer because of the 12 years of no sex etc..etc.etc.. LIFE CAN HURT A LOT OF TIMES….. Life can really give you the choice to give up hope – but it is all about what you believe…. can things get better? Do not worry about when – just believe that they will. Thanking God for people like Brad Pitt ( the part that he played in the movie ) who UNDERSTOOD that slavery was wrong and he risked his own life to make a difference with the start of 1 MAN named Solomon Northup -

Uggghhh – the movie did and still has me a little ticked off but it is HISTORY….it is apart of MY HISTORY – I embrace it …will learn MORE from it….. and find ways to make things better for me – my family – my people.

Thanks for listening -

A Female “Jim Crow”……


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This story has LITERALLY floored me this evening…. I mean really? Some black folk kill me with their LACK of respect of their own identity – It is a SAD DAY in America with it being 2013 and this JIM CROW Black Woman acting like this!

An African North Carolina pastor is facing backlash after she requested “only  white people” work as greeters at the church she leads. This woman has a smile on her face but her mind and intentions toward her own race CLEARLY says something different.

In an email, Pastor Makeda Pennycooke of Freedom House in Charlotte said  “first impressions matter,” and the church wants “the best of the best on the  front doors.”

“We anticipate having an increase in the number of people visiting and  attending Freedom House over the next few weeks,” she wrote. “We are continuing to work to bring our racial  demographic pendulum back to mid-line, so we would like to ask that only white  people be on the front doors.”

The church said the pastor apologized, and released a full statement that  said Pennycooke was writing because “the greeting team was no longer reflecting  the racial diversity of our entire congregation.”

“She made an error in judgment in requesting all white greeters at the front  door, going overboard in placing emphasis on any one race over another in trying  to highlight diversity within the greeting team,” the statement continued. “She  admits this was a grave lapse in judgment and is sincerely sorry for her  actions.”

I bet this AFRICAN AMERICAN PASTOR ….had a POOR lapse in judgement but I do NOT feel that she is sorry – She is sorry that the members of her church told the media about!

Never thought I would see a BLACK …Jim Crow ..ESPECIALLY in the “form of” a Pastor! This country is full of surprises!