Good friends are not just kind to you; they are kind to others as well. They are affable and smile a lot. This makes their personal interactions relaxed and enjoyable. People like being around them because they are positive people. The kindness they spread emanates from of happiness and self-confidence.
As a friend, you look forward to your next encounter with people who show these qualities. In contrast, social aggression, such as meanness, is a quality that demonstrates lack of respect for others and discontent with oneself. These feelings outwardly manifest and eventually prevent communications and genuine friendships from forming.
Although honesty is important to friendships, it may be one of the most difficult qualities to keep up. When you ask a friend for honesty, she may prefer preserving the peace over telling you what she really thinks. But honesty promotes trust. In the absence of trust, confidence erodes and communication is strained.Good friendships are unlikely to survive. A good friend cares enough to tell you the truth and has enough confidence in the relationship to be assured of a positive outcome.
Good friends are easy to talk to because they accept your warts and all. They understand the things that are important to you and the values that you hold. Although they may not necessarily agree with all of your beliefs and actions, they will never judge you. People who can accept you also are better able to accept themselves. High self-esteem and self-acceptance are intertwined.
Friends who feel good about themselves are not afraid to be vulnerable with others. They allow others into their lives and are able to develop intimate connections.