Helping Self...

Constantly Forgiving –

You can’t forgive under your own strength… this is the problem and why you’re so bitter! Only through the Grace of God can you forgive….. SERIOUSLY!

There are different types of forgiveness. For example, there is personal forgiveness and divine forgiveness. Personal forgiveness takes place between people mostly on a personal level but can take place on an impersonal level as well. To clarify, personal forgiveness occurs when a person chooses not to hold any animosity or resentment toward a friend, relative or co-worker who may have committed an offense toward him or her.
 Impersonal forgiveness occurs when a person chooses to forgive a stranger who has done harm to him, a family member or has caused damage in some manner. Impersonal forgiveness may apply to someone who has committed a crime such as murder, rape, property damage or some other offense.Forgiveness often doesn’t come immediately.
The process may take time. A disagreement between spouses may be forgiven quickly, but if the hurt is deep enough, forgiveness may be a gradual process. You may have to work through the pain to get to the place in your heart where forgiveness can take place. Prayer or meditation can help you reach that place.
imageIt is also important to be honest with yourself, to acknowledge and accept your feelings rather than denying them. Be honest and sincere, whether you’re forgiving someone or asking for forgiveness. Even if you’re not willing to forgive right away or someone isn’t willing to forgive you, making the attempt represents a critical step.
You also should remember that it is more difficult to forgive others if you cannot forgive yourself. Forgiveness heals the spirit and sets your mind and heart free. It is a necessary component to living a healthy life.

Co – Parenting 101


REALIZE that you have to do it!

It is important and a healthy act towards any type of surface friendship that you can keep up with your child’s father.

My son will 11 next week and his father has FINALLY seen the light and really trying to do better……..(fingers crossed)

First and foremost you have your children in common. Raising them and helping them to grow into well-adjusted adults should be what you have in common and should be the main goal for both of you.

You want them to feel safe and secure and the best way to do this is by keeping your relationship with your ex husband friendly and non-confrontational to keep some of the stress away from your children.

In the blending of households and the juggling of visitations, kids often feel they have no rights. In some ways this is true, because the adults are making so many decisions on behalf of the child. Remember that your child loves the other parent. When a parent complains about the other parent, that can set a negative tone, even if what you are saying is true.To reduce their feelings of helplessness, give the child as much control as you can over the little things. There is a lot of give-and-take that happens in families. TRY to cooperate with your ex to accommodate changes in schedules and activities, and honor the child’s preferences when you can.

It is not mandatory but DO MAKE EVERY ATTEMPT to do so if he has shown consideration as well because it is nice to be nice right???
Such flexibility establishes a good co-parenting pattern. Most mother’s make all the sacrifices but hopefully there are SOME FATHERS who are actually willing to sacrifices as well.
Hopefully the fathers can see that they too are important in the process!

Morning Note –


Time decides who you meet in life

Your heart decides who you want in your life

and your behavior decides who stays in your life

Many people have searched for a life with happiness. Some state that they have found such life, while others belief that such a life does not exist in reality. In fact, happiness is different for every individual; it has different definitions and values for everyone. Many people find happiness in small achievements, while others want to be successful in order to be happy. Every individual has different opinions about happiness.

Now, many of you must be thinking if we can actually find and lead a happy life. Honestly, it solely depends on you, whether you are prepared to do anything to live with happiness or you are just lying in a couch and dream of a happy life.

You need to find out the things that make you happy and then achieve those things. You can know that you are on the right track or not, if you feel comfortable and start enjoying your everyday tasks. You need to struggle hard to get the happiness. However, if you feel that you are not on the right track, do not think that you deserve to be unhappy.