A book by Neil T. Anderson provided 12 steps to forgiveness……….
1. Ask the Lord to reveal to your mind people you need to forgive.
2. Acknowledge the hurt and the hate.
3. Understand the significance of the Cross.
4. Decide you will bear the burden of each person’s sin (see Galatians 6:1,2). This means you will not retaliate in the future by using the information about their sin against them.
5. Decide to forgive.
6. Take your list to God and pray the following: “I forgive (name) for (list all the offenses and how they made you feel).”
7. Destroy the list.
8. Do not expect that your decision to forgive will result in major changes in the other persons.
9. Try to understand the people you have forgiven, but don’t rationalize their behavior.
10. Expect positive results of forgiveness in you.
11. Thank God for the lessons you have learned and the maturity you have gained as a result of the offenses and your decision to forgive the offenders.
12. Be sure to accept your part of the blame for the offenses you suffered.