If our self-image is based on comparing ourselves to others or by what others say or think about us, it can affect us in three ways: lack of confidence, making bad decisions or choices, and low self-esteem. A bad self-image can lead to lack of confidence, so we make bad decisions or choices, which lowers our self-esteem. Our low self-esteem further deteriorates our confidence, which leads to more bad decisions or choices, which leave us feeling worse. This feeling can be paralyzing, which fosters helplessness and hopelessness. We see no way out. We feel trapped. We are victims.
Perhaps you can relate: your relationship, job or business failed, and your self-image and self-confidence takes a nose dive. Don’t beat yourself up about it, and don’t think that you can’t do anything about it. No matter what you have done or what choices you made, it doesn’t mean your life is over.
There is no sense beating ourselves up over mistakes of the past. There are no such things as mistakes, only lessons.