Whew…..dealing with VERY DIFFICULT PEOPLE can have the ability to stress you out if YOU let it……
Do you ever try to figure them out. Why are they being so nasty? Are they jealous? Are they annoyed with you about something specific? Are they stressed out? Are they afraid? Are they mistrustful? You’ll need to learn what makes them tick before you can stop them from ticking you off.
Avoid appeasing them. You wouldn’t reward a bad dog, so why let a difficult person get away with bad behavior? If you let them get their way, they’ll only be encouraged.
Don’t try to change them. It’s impossible to change someone’s entire being. Not only that, but people usually get pretty indignant if they sense you are trying to shape their character. Your only hope is deal with their behavior gracefully.
I have QUICKLY LEARNED to choose your mode of confrontation. Don’t lose your cool but be firm and assertive. Let them know you won’t be pushed around, but don’t exasperate the situation by fighting an unnecessary fight.
Don’t take things personally. Troublesome behavior is habitual. Difficult people tend to be difficult to everyone BECAUSE THERE IS SOMETHING ABOUT THEMSELVES THAT THEY ARE UN – HAPPY ABOUT.