Well, since I have established a foundation that my son can come to be about ANY AND EVERYTHING….. I have molded myself to be alright with whatever with his answers are to the things that we discuss –
However but when it comes to relationships, we talk about several things and some of his replies have me astounded more so because of his age bracket!
Marriage – he says he does not want to get a divorce so he will take his time ( whew I am so proud of my baby) and I am glad that he understands divorce which – he is a victim of it so he understands.
THE SIMPLE CONVERSATION
ME: Jared so what is your type because I know that you are starting to think that girls are cute! I see all those little girls at school screaming and saying Hi to you all at the same time! They sound like a bunch of cats that are in pain!
SON: Mom what do you mean my type
ME: What type of girls do you think is pretty, what type of career do you want her to have, do you want her
SON: I like tiny blonde girls at school, you know white girls mom
ME: Oh okay, is that the only type that you like? Just white girls?
SON: I like only a few black girls but they have to act normal like you
ME: Baby what is normal?
SON: Not loud and stuff mom, they are smart, short, pretty dress nice and have a lot friends
ME: Awww baby, that is sweet baby but the things that you named are only a small part of what a woman is about
SON: What do you mean mom
ME: The things that you want in a woman should be things that cannot always be seen ONLY on the outside. How does she make you feel, what are some things that you would want your wife to do for you
SON: Do you mean like talking and praying and stuff?
ME: (I am laughing so hard ) YES! Things like that baby
SON: Oh well I want her to be just like you because we talk all the time, you always ask me what is the matter, you ask me what do I want to do with my life and when I tell you something different each week, you bring information about that field. See mom, I want someone who is like you, always there for me and telling me that I can do it!
ME: Now, it makes me feel good that you want someone who shares some of the same qualities that I have but remember you do NOT want to marry your mother or someone like your mother. You want and should marry your best friend. I can’t be her and she can’t be me.
SON: Mom, I know, that is why you are always fussing at me so I don’t be a baby and lazy in life
ME: Okay??? We will talk more later
TO BE CONTINUED…….