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Just because Thanksgiving Day has passed, there’s no reason to stop being grateful……..

Something that has brought a positive change in my life recently has been the practice of turning negative statements around and finding something in the circumstance for which to be grateful.

“I am thankful for my 11 year old – PRE -teen-ager who complained about doing dishes BEFORE he left to go with his dad, because that means he is at home, not out on the streets somewhere.

“I am thankful for the taxes that I pay, because it means that I’m employed. “I am thankful for the mess I have to clean up at my house, because it means I’m more fortunate than thousands of people around the world. I have a home.

“I am thankful for the clothes that fit a little too snugly, because it means I have plenty to eat. “I’m thankful for my shadow that watches me work, because it means I’m outside in the sunshine. “I am thankful for my mother’s house SMELLING HORRIBLE of cooking gizzards..chitlings etc… because that means that she is STILL ALIVE to drive me insane of eating these nasty things and making my clothes stink” LOL

“I’m thankful for my oldest son who is in college being moody over the last few weeks but he makes me smile everytime he CHOOSES to text and call me. Also for my daughter being even MORE moodier but smiles when she emails me.

“I’m thankful for all the complaining about government and politics, because it reminds me I live in a country that allows me freedom of speech. “I’m thankful for the parking spot I found all the way at the end of the lot, because it means I have the strength and ability to walk the distance.

“I’m thankful for my heating bill, because it means I am warm. “I’m thankful for the lady behind me in church who sings off-key, because it means I am blessed with the gift of hearing. “I’m thankful for the pile of laundry that reminds me that I — and my family — have plenty of clothes to wear.

“I’m thankful for weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day, because it means I’m capable of working hard and making a contribution to the lives of others. “I’m thankful each day when the alarm goes off, and I hear it, because it means I’m still alive. There is still time to serve God and others. There are still opportunities to make a difference.

“Each day is a gift. Each burden holds a blessing, and every moment of life offers an opportunity that will come only once in a lifetime.

“I am thankful — just because — I am.”


Thanksgiving 4 My Baby


Glad that MY KID was able to see his father for this holiday… Hope that he can see him more than twice a year…..

Wow, seeing my son smile was sooo Enough for ME and is a very nice start to Thanksgiving. ….

Time is NOT on our sides in this life AND it indeed needs to be realized by everyone living soul in the world….. I am still really Praying that their bond will continue to GROW in a productive, practical, fun and Godly manner……

My desire is for his dad to really be a consistent blessing in the role of fatherhood to our son….

Kids surely need BOTH parents because there are things that each parent is supposed to instill within a child. I can’t be his father AND his father cannot be his mother. …. So my son needs us BOTH. ….

Prayer works! Please continue to pray for major #consistency# fom his dad…….


74 – 40 – 20


My Mommy is 74 and I’m 40 but we have fun like we are 20!

We had sooooo much fun today that she almost had me going to the bathroom on myself!!!!! I’m soooooo serious folk.

We had prank conversations with people today at random…had very RAMDOM people take pictures of us..then sat and “People Watched” while giggling….Okay, I’m lying…we just didn’t ONLY “giggle” because we had our own two cents to add as well as people walked by… Forgive us Lord!
We also passed an Obstetrics office and she was walking in there to ask if someone could deliver her baby right now because it was an emergency! !!


Whew honey, I hollered AND was embarrassed ALL at the same time….but indeed I didn’t care either because she almost died a few weeks ago!!!

Sounds crazy right!  So if my momma wants to prank doctors office’s acting as if she needs special services because she is pregnant. ..Mom, go right ahead!!!

Now do you understand why the blog title is simply only numbers! !!!! LOL.

NEVER act too old or too young to laugh with your family!




What you weigh is really important, but it certainly is not the be all and  end all when it comes to health and fitness.Well I know that is the right thing to say BUT FOR WOMEN…. We need to know that we lost weight…we need to FEEL like we lost inches….we desire to look skinny and KNOW that we look skinny….or at least lost some of our UN -WANTED WEIGHT!!!

Okay…let me go back to being ” like a supporter of natural weight loss”……….  LOL

You can have an ideal weight in  relation to your height, but if you also smoke 40 cigarettes a day then you are  unlikely to be healthy. Don’t get me wrong, if you are clearly overweight or  even obese, then you do need to lose weight, but a lot of people could benefit  from just replacing fat with muscle (you will still get slimmer).

Don’t Get Frustrated

A lot of people become very frustrated when their healthy new lifestyle doesn’t result in the weight loss they feel their efforts deserve.This could be down to the fact that their fat is being turned into muscle as they get fitter. It would be useful to know the difference between losing body fat and losing body weight, before judging how successful your new healthy lifestyle has been. If you are actually doing rather well, you need to know about it.

The Difference Between Fat Loss And Weight Loss

When people go on crash diets, they can lose a lot of weight very quickly,  but this is mainly down to losing body fluids and not fat. This is why the  weight loss is rarely permanent and the weight inevitably comes back. The scales  do not tell you how much of your weight is made up of muscle and how much is  fat. Weight loss can be temporary as your weight fluctuates from day to day, but  changing the composition between fat and muscle in your body should result in  more permanent results.

Other Ways To Measure Progress

It is essential that you realise the success you are achieving in order to  stay focused and motivated. Using scales should not be the only way you measure  your progress. How your clothes, watch and rings now fit you is an excellent  guide to how well you are progressing, if they are getting looser then you are  on the right track. You should also record your measurements (BMI. waist, hips,  chest and thighs) on a regular basis to see if the inches are coming off.  Remember that muscle weighs more than fat, so don’t just rely on the scales.  There are also ways that you can check your body fat and body composition (ratio  of lean body mass to fat).

Don’t become a martyr to your scales, LIKE I HAVE TURNED ITO!!!!! It can and just may drive you crazy.  Understand the difference between weight loss and fat loss, adopting healthy  eating habits along with regular exercise. Use numerous methods to record your  progress and gauge your weight loss success. You can lose inches without losing  weight.

I wish I could just gt LIPOSUCTION for real….. ( so truthful )



Dave and Busters


I swear this restaurant is such a family atmosphere BUT I’m not too keen on the overall experience there…….

Besides “the game playing area”…..    it feels like an overly fast paced restaurant that wants to get as many people IN ….just as much as they want to get the people OUT.

Every time I’m at this place I feel like I’m a part of a herd of CATTLE…. Eat…talk then hirry and get to the play area because we need this table!!!
imageAt LEAST that “the company” was amazing so it made it all worth it!!! …Uggghhh…. not MY favorite restaurant  ….


Mothers and Sons


As much as my kid works my nerves… I do love hanging out with him…. Just going out to hang out with friends is soo relaxing mentally.. It’s been just me and him for so long that as a single parent..I need space a few times a week.

However, it is rightfully so (in my son’s mind of course) that if we aren’t together…he needs to know my very whereabouts! ! I used to tell him ALL 10 things…  BUT know I had to literally scale it back / down to like 4 things.. . .  I set up an atmosphere that he felt as if it was his RIGHT TO KNOW my every single whereabouts!!! Lol
WhileI’m out doing MY own thing and just breathing my own air without my kid trying calculate how much I breathed WITHOUT HIM…..

When I pick him up to head home….I actually have the nerve to miss him as well…LOL – He indeed is a special kid…

Dear ( ME )

Wow = Thank You


Even when it gets hard, we should fight to never let anyone talk us out of what God has already said to us / promised us / showed us…. God never takes back what HE has said, let alone done in our lives –

With that being said – never worry about the things that are in front of you are going crazy!! ( im speaking indeed from PERSONAL EXPERIENCE ) There is nothing in the world that we are going through that God did not already forsee happening –

It is amazing how sometimes we can have soo much authority in our very being and can hear God ever so clearly but in that same BREATH, MIND SET and TOUNGE – we will doubt Him when things seem to get a little shaky and haywire….

Think of it as a REAL relationship with a human being that is in your life that you see and talk to on a daily basis –

Your sister, brother, mother, father, nephew,niece, son, daughter, husband or wife WOULD NOT EVEN WANT TO BE BOTHERED with you anymore!

That is the difference when you are dealing with God and people – God does NOT like the fact that WE put our relationship with Him on a rollercoaster but He seems to ALWAYS understand and waits for “us to get our acts together”……

Whew – I am a mess…..and God STILL chooses me daily!