A Woman & Her Pen

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By Definition……………..

By definition, a FATHER is someone who conceived the child: but many have unfortunately experienced,…… the FATHER doesn’t always stick around…. Some bolt before the child is born…..Some bolt in the early years… some bolt in the teenage years….some bolt as soon as they have the chance….

To say the least…its a sad reality that many grow p without a father…but not every abandoned child….regardless MALE OR FEMALE grows up without a positive role model…

Therefore… FATHER’S DAY should indeed be called “DAD’S DAY”…. The main difference between a father and a dad is that the father is biological: HOWEVER – a dad’s relationship is emotional and ATTACHED to the child with a genuine bond being established no matter how close or far away either party may be…

Dad is someone who actively and consistently PARTICIPATES in the child’s growth, development and maturity process…”DADDY”…..is a term of affection….endearment…familiarity…. Fathering is merely an act out of NATURE and what the bible talked about being fruitful and multiply. ( that is not the only definition of fruitful / multiple ) but we can discuss that in a later post….

Adding that it is much easier to become a father and many do it even unintentionally: however, it is also much harder to COMMITT to becoming a DAD…. DAD’S a leader, provides affection, and caring with balanced strong guidance..and of course will do whatever is necessary to make sure all the natural and spiritual things are met..Then grant some of the wants and needs as well based off of behavior and their ability to obey and have discipline under their tutelage.

A FATHER could have potential to be a great DAD…it all depends on many different factors…choices…but to make it plain…. – IT IS A CHOICE of the PARENT….Children do not / did not ask to be created nor birthed…

I indeed honor those DAD’S who are just simply THERE…..who chose to stay through ANY type of “personal” hardships etc… Yes, I say personal because it is!! Kids don’t have nothing to do with what you go through on a daily basis..!

>>No HONOR/ respect >> No PEACE via ANY relationship!

I am so grateful that I had a FATHER and a DAD……My son and I both miss him tremendously….

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Current Mood –


I had a long day in which I’ve unfortunately found myself whining and complaining on quite a few things…. Life has been indeed very interesting lately…..

Nonetheless, I heard this today and thought I would end the long and draggy work day  with it.

“Never lie, steal, cheat or drink. But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. If you must steal, steal away from bad company. If you must cheat, cheat death. And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away.”

I enjoyed this deeply –

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Today’s Lesson 2 My Son


My son and I literally celebrate our lives, relationship and roles that we each hold on a daily basis.

Today is mother’s day and he wanted to spend money on me and I told him to make it limited when he asked me what I wanted.

Explained to him that as he gets older, he shall see that it really isn’t about what you buy or how much you spend for your loved ones….


In the end, we just would like to enjoy the fact knowing that YOU REMEMBERED!!! YOU ARE ACKNOWLEDGE our hearts, desires etc….


He “got it” …smiled and giggled and simply said, Happy Mother’s Day Mom! …..then kissed me!

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Respect The Day


Although I am grateful that today is recognized on all legislative calendars that TODAY……. Has been honored to be The National Day of Prayer….

Nonetheless, I wonder why America has this on the calendar when they chose to take PRAYER out of schools!!!

Does that make ANY SENSE? For the families that do not desire to participate in prayer, that’s fine but to totally take it out of schools when we have God / Christ like wordings and saying on our money, court houses, legal papers etc..etc..etc…

Well, where were the church leaders to protest WAAAAAY BACK THEN?


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My Growing Boy –


No amount of gold could ever compare to the gift of love that my son shares.  I’ve been blind and I couldn’t see that all the love I’ve wanted is right here in front of me. He gives me reason to get through another day.

Maybe it’s how he loves me in his special little way.  And when it gets hard for me to sleep at night….
He wraps his little arms around me and says God will make things right!  From sweet gentle touches to his bear hugs and a kiss…  He make some of my hard days on earth seem more like a peaceful bliss.

That great big kool-aid smile and the twinkle in his eyes…. Every time I look at him it makes me want to cry.

But they’re not tears of sorrow; they’re tears of pride and joy…. To know that all the love in heaven is wrapped around my little boy is shown towards me everyday!


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