Friendship With Fellowship


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I really enjoy having a bunch of different friendships in MY LIFE. …. Honey, JUST like Christ, #diversity Rocks!!!!!

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Me and my girlpals have a “standing appointment” every single week that we meet up and hang out…
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After the last few months, weeks, days and hours that I have been having.. ….. Especially worrying about my Mommy!!! Whew, Seeing REAL friends / girlpals is just what I need!!!! LOL ..we eat..laugh..FREELY talk about God..life…relationshops…..work…being angry….being happy etc…etc…etc… ans more etc…etc..
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Having friends BUT no fellowship is NOT a relationship! !!!!! In life, we have to be open to ALL types of friends because YOU will never know who God is trying to connect us to and what God is trying to do for us…..
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Be open!!! I can tell you honestly that it’s been a blessing AND its worth it!

The Substance of Women……..


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To discover what it means to be a woman of substance, we must define the term.  Dictionary.com lists a variety of meanings for substance. One is: “substantial  or solid character or quality.” Other definitions included “consistency, body”  and “something that has separate or independent existence.”

Based on  these definitions, a woman of substance would be a woman who has strong  character, is consistent, has more to her than meets the eye and has a variety  of interests outside and within her home and family. She is interesting to get  to know; she possesses a depth of personality and character.
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A woman of substance conducts herself with patience. Even when her life, job,  friends, children or husband drive her crazy, she knows that it is better to  respond with patience than to react in anger. Because there is more to her life  than just her friends or her job, she knows that she has hobbies and goals that  she can look forward to beyond the present frustrating moments.
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A woman of substance conducts her life with honesty and integrity. She is  aware that it is better to get a fair promotion than a promotion gained from  dishonesty or hurtfulness to a co-worker. She knows that life consists of more  than money, so she would not have the desire to cheat on her taxes  or keep an extra dollar of change the cashier gave her at the grocery store.

Other character qualities a woman of substance should have include  peacefulness, love, patience and steadfastness—to name a few. She possesses  virtues that make others around her notice that she is not shallow.
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Besides virtue and other character qualities, a woman of substance has  knowledge. This does not mean just knowledge about makeup or hairstyles, but  knowledge about subjects of interest to others. A woman of substance will educate  herself fully about current issues.
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She will know about crises and concerns  within her city, state and nation. She understands that what goes on around her affects her family just as much, starting with HER CHILDREN!

She will want to take action to do all she  can to help, whether by writing a letter to the editor or running for office.  She will be aware of and participate in the political process. OF COURSE, there is MUCH more for her to do but…..

Okay – THAT’S ALL 4 NOW

Good Girlfriends –


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Have you ever asked yourself if you a good person, and do you push the act of empowering strength to other women? What do you bring to the table in a good girlfriend relationship? A great deal of women think that they are not able to find and maintain good girlfriends… but guess what,, YOU CAN!

We all have our specific qualities and in a friendship, we must to have something that benefits the other person if we are to be of value. What is it that you provide? Dependability? An ear to listen? Good advice? Positive feedback?

We have all had a friend or two that may have a few negative qualities but you try to love them through thier process. Do not ever jump into the gossip rut or complaining trap or do you empower and boost women and cheer them on?
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If you find you’re not a positive influence on your friends, you can easily develop some skills to be more so. Keep in mind, if you have negative friends and you become more positive, they may take a while to catch on to the new, more positive you or may choose to leave the friendship. However, when you even meet new friends is a blessing when the spirit of UNITY is there

Women who gain attention by always complaining are unlikely to warm up to a positive-minded person. After all, being positive means taking responsibility for your choices, situation and life and this is completely opposite of what negative people do.
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Five great qualities to bring to the friendship table:

Dependability – Dependability is underrated. If you are a dependable friend with personal boundaries, you are priceless. Without personal boundaries, many dependable friends get taken advantage of.
Respect – Respect is earned, not aged into. If you respect your friends and what they stand for and it is mutual, your bonds will be stronger and more long lasting than others.
Positive Feedback – A realistic positive outlook and encouragement are two of the most powerful things you can give a friend in crisis.
Alternate Perspective – Looking at a situation from a different perspective is crucial to making good decisions. Helping a friend to do this is admirable.
Honesty – Honesty is not synonymous with agreement. Tough love is sometimes necessary in friendships and is appreciated by true friends.

Is Thuggish the NEW Gay ?


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Like can ANYONE advise me on what is REALLY going on with all of the OUTBREAK of this type of behavior…. I know that there are gay men in EVERY CULTURE / ETHNIC GROUP but it has been an OPENLY TABOO for blacks…..let alone the black man – So to even see this has me throwing up EVEN AS I AM TYPING at this very moment……. Thug is the new black maybe?  Hope Not…

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I mean REALLY………… you cannot tell me that you are not shocked seeing the thugged up…..tatted up…urban looking ….sagging and drooping pants wearing men being seen in ” this interesting light “……………

ARE there ANY single…… STRAIGHT…… Heterosexual….STRAIGHT….. men LEFT  These Days?  KEY WORD >>>>>>>>>>> STRAIGHT just like this line _________________________________________ !!!!!  uuggghhhh –

Today’s Inspiration 4 Women –


Many women struggle with self-image and insecurity. Some women have based their self-worth around taking care of their family. Others base it on their looks, and they will go to extreme measures to try and measure up with that level of what men or society says is acceptable…….
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They’ve lost touch with their true identity because they look for others to tell them how they look or how they feel. So there are a lot of women out there who are insecure in their relationships.

They don’t feel as though they are good enough, and I believe that has everything to do with self-image and early mental conditioning. When women have abdicated their own identity to what others think and say, they tend to be very insecure in their relationships.

They pick the wrong men for all the wrong reasons. They “settle” because they don’t feel as though they are good enough to have a really terrific guy.

Until we take responsibility for everything in our life, good and bad decisions, it is difficult to escape feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. The good news is if you want to change, you can. Where there is a will, there is a way.