This weekend was so so emotional for me watching the ” HOMEGOING SERVICE” for the lovely Whitney Houston. I grew up on her music and I was a fan then and I remained her fan until the time of her passing.
From my own experience being a Drug and Alcohol Case Manager, I have a WHOLE NEW position and view point on people in recovery. The group Narcotics Anonomys is something DEEP and you have to at least attend a few of their meetings to get ” a better grasp” on the disease. I am still blown away but hearing some of the stories from the recovering addicts because they are so transparent!
You have to attend a meeting to understand where I am coming from… I was just as judgemental as people WHO ARE NOT in addiction as well as the chuch world who felt may have looked their noses up or down at people who chose to live a certain life…. SHAME ON US ALL…..
She was someone’s Daughter – Sister – Aunt – Niece – God Daughter – Friend
I know that, indeed, nobody can force anyone to start taking drugs, yet for various reasons, many seemingly sane and normal folks decide on day to snort a line, puff a joint or shoot up.
These are bad decisions, but they are almost always accompanied by the idea that “I won’t get hooked, I’m different.” This willful blindness is not unusual. It is, in its own way, no different than folks who engage in extreme sports.
For those who dont know what extreme sports are, here you go!
People who like to ” TRY ” these extreme sports but end up dying behind it, I wonder if they too would get that type of back lash.
People who smoke and the SURGEON GENERAL has a warning label stating that these cigarettes can be harmful to your health… Do people who die from Lung Cancer get ridiculed?
None of them does so with the idea that they could become paralyzed or killed, but a good deal of them do. The fact is that NOT everyone who uses cocaine, smokes pot or injects heroine becomes addicted. I have heard some of my clients stating that they did a casual line and no small amount of pot before settling on alcohol as THEIR “drug of choice.” (It was easier to get and seemed to be safer.)
They felt that they did not become addicted to any of it until a number of years passes. My point is merely to urge those of you who smugly blame Whitney for her addiction without looking at it as a little less cut and dry.
Yes, Whitney is responsible for reckless actions, but she would not be the first celebrity taken in by the lure of narcotics. Sometimes its fun for a star like Whitney to shed the “good girl” image and take a few risks. It is profoundly sad that she passed, and who knows what role Bobby played in any of this.
But please do not discount the fact that addiction is, in the parlance of the 12-step community, “cunning, baffling and powerful.” I know many good folks who, while battling chronic pain, became addicted to prescriptions of such drugs as Oxycontin and Vicodin. One does not have to be the victim of bad choices to become an addict.
Unless you walked in Whitney’s or Bobby’s shoes, you have no idea and should not judge. Whitney even talked about how her mother raised her and although her mother supported her singing career, she didnt want her to be apart of the “worldly business” of Hollywood Stardom. Whitney was raised and groomed by good stock, yes she had Aretha Franklin, Dionne Warwick and countless unamed people who supported her but it was HER MOTHER who always had her ear…. and Jesus Christ had her heart!
I totally know that sin, wrongful acts, disobedience, weight gain, stress, depression, addiction and a WHOLE HOST of other negative acts that can indeed destroy a person’s life >>>>>> does not discriminate…
SIN ITSELF / WRONGFUL ACTS are all very, very cunning, baffling and powerful.
If you want to blame ANYONE for Whitney’s death…… Blame Whitney and MILLIONS of other people around the world for their decision to try drugs; do NOT blame her for her addiction.
If ANYTHING, I wonder how many even prayed for her soul and thank God if addiction has not come to visit your life.
I have always loved Whitney…prayed for her….supported her… and I always will….
Praying for the WHOLE family….. Bobby Kristina and Cissy Houston, Dionne Warwick, cousins, aunties, uncles, grandparents, Godparents, and close friends…….
And YES!!! My prayers are extended also to >>>>> Bobby Brown