Parenting

A Mother’s Random-ness


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Just proud of my son – nothing major to blog about at this present moment besides I am just proud of him……. he is almost 12 and things could be so completely different.

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The world that we live in and what is displayed on the television does NOT depict him in any form or fashion. He has been a honor roll student since he was 6, plays 3 sports and 2 instruments and is trying to master 1 foreign language –
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He has great friends – great opportunities -and options for his life – He chooses to be respectful and love Christ – does he have a few not so good days? YES – does he sometimes find himself on punishment? YES does he have to clean and do chores around the house? YES –
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However, I am speaking as the average black male growing up in America being raised in a single parent household and having only a handful of male mentors in his life and none are related to him at all – he is indeed a great boy –
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I am thankful that God has allowed me “to borrow” my son and I pray that I am doing an amazing job in the eyes of The Lord – let my son tell it – everyday he shares with me that I am a good mother – but you never know if he is just trying to “warm me up” for something that he saw in the store! LOL

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Parenting

Why I Didnt Buy My Son ANOTHER Skateboard!


This is not my son BUT listen, he is able to try anything that looks fun and if he happens to be staying at an overnight… I am scared to death that he would try to do something like this with friends –
Kids…especially boys are dare devils most of the time and when he started LOVING skateboards little bit “too much” for my taste – I surely put an end to his skater days! LOL

Parenting

A Little Wisdom –


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The strength of a man isn’t seen in the width of his shoulders. It’s seen in the width of his arms that circle you. The strength of a man isn’t in the deep tone of his voice. It’s in the gentle words he whispers. The strength of a man isn’t how many buddies he has. It’s how good a buddy he is with his kids.

The strength of a man isn’t in how respected he is at work. It’s in how respected he is at home. The strength of a man isn’t in how hard he hits. It’s in how tender he touches. The strength of a man isn’t in the hair on his chest. It’s in his Heart … that lies within his chest.
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The strength of a man isn’t how many women he’s loved. It’s in how he can be true to one woman. The strength of a man isn’t in the weight he can lift. It’s in the burdens he can carry.
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Honor, Respect, Faith, Relationship with God, Healthy Relationships with Family and Friends, Giving, Compassion, Love and Commitment are “some of the things” that a Single Mother can show HER SON which can aid to help nurture him to be a GREAT MAN.

Even without a father – being present and producing a CONSISTENT voice and presence in their son’s lives – I often tell some of my girl pals NOT to become bitter when God has already equipped our sons as well as ourselves to “put in the POSITIVE SEEDS” of Life –

Oh by the way….. Women Rock… and Single Moms are Doing Their Thing –

“God got us AND our boys”……….. just STAY being a light, an example of Christian Living –

Parenting

Letting Go Daily –


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I am learning that as my son is getting OLDER …… I have to let him go day by day via treating him like he will NEVER leave the house!  Only a few more years left and I will be saying >>> SEE YA LATER BUDDY BOY!! ( hiding my tears )

The toughest thing about being a parent (or a teacher) is learning when NOT to be one. You don’t have to take my word for it, just ask Marlon. (The mivie Finding Nemo ) His wife was brutally attacked and killed by a man-eating barracuda, thrusting him into the role of a “single dad.” Now we know that in AMERICA there are more single mothers than single fathers. Not discounting single dads at all but ……….. ( LOL )

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Although only an animation film, “Finding Nemo” portrays the real life struggles many parents face in “letting go of their children.” I have to say that I have been doing great though….. He has been finding new things to do with his life and his SELF lately…just look at this CRAZY hair cut that HE WANTED!! Inside I was screaming like, baby this isn’t you, is it?

As in real life, most parents (and children) don’t see the potential dangers of a parent being overprotective. And it’s easy to understand why many parents would respond the way Marlon did. Growing up in an inner city ghetto myself, there were many barracudas waiting to devour me.

Like most children, Nemo became very upset with his “loving” father’s obsession with protecting him from unforeseen danger. During one heated exchanged, Nemo uttered the phrase that strikes fear in the heart of every parent, “I hate you.” As a result of his father’s controlling behavior, Nemo intentionally rebels against his father and is consequently “fish-napped” by a diver.
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I am letting my son go DAILY…… Keep him grounded in Godly principles and heavily involved and push him even at times when I know that pushing him / teaching him to do MORE will allow him to depend on me LESS. That is a good thing but the love of a mother is something ferocious!  My son calls me MOMMA BEAR because when someone bothers him – a whole NEW PERSON “comes over me”….. LOL I get into a mode that I will crush anything in my when it comes to protecting my son…. ( in a diplomatic and lady like way of course – lol )
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I am proud of myself…for “choosing” to start MY PROCESS of letting go daily while he is young. As a parent, you cannot start trying to cope that your child is going to be moving out of the house when they are GRADUATING HIGH SCHOOL! You do know that is WAY too late right? LOL

Parenting

Hanging With MY Young 2 Boyfriend (s)


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I LOVE spending time with MY young two boyfriends…. They make me laugh…. make me cry… make me OVER SPEND….they are always hungry…..always want something…..think they need everything…..like to touch me and hug me until I can’t breath….. and you know what???? 
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I SIMPLY LOVE IT – I am NOT a cougar ……..I do not like or have ” a thing ” for younger men but the 2 that are in MY LIFE has basically CHANGED MY LIFE….. You cannot help who you love right??? Well I LOVE THEM to pieces! LOL

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My two YOUNG BOYFRIENDS are my two sons!! LOL The oldest is 20 and the baby is 11 and they are BOTH can be a spoiled, irritating mess! They are my loves and would NOT trade them for anything in the world…. even when they drive me CRAZY.
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The relationship between mothers and sons is unique in many ways……Sons indeed are special.

Constantly nurtured in love, frequently this relationship defines young sons that will become and serves as a reservoir from which he later may draw memories and affection that will guide him as a husband and father. Okay did that make sense or too overboard?? Sigmund Freud type stuff? LOL
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From the warmth and security a boy experiences with his mother, he gains confidence and learns about loving and accepting others, listening and expressing his own ideas and feelings, and exploring the world in which he lives.
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The things he learns from his mother will highly influence the kind of relationships he will have someday with his own wife and children. Indeed, this rich relationship will define him in many ways throughout his life.
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I said all of that to say…… Spending time with your kids….. is very important…… I love on MY YOUNG BOYFRIENDS so that they know that I will always be there for them and God shall continue to form our bonds in the loving – caring – God centered  way.

Politics

Would YOUR Pick Be Accurate?


Okay, like AMERICA…. let’s act as if we are at a carnival or playing a GAME on Facebook…. Which photo would you say is an aggressive person?

Martin Luther King Jr.

... Luther King, Jr. in Trayvon Martin’s Hoodie Goes Viral | Alternative

New York  State Representatives

trayvon – hoodies Answers From Men

This Grey Hoodie

A Professional Basketball Team

A Radio Talk Host

Law Students

Trayvon Martin

Trayvon's new hoodie. Oh.

Politics

Same old ….Same old In – JUSTICE


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Ugghh…. of course by NOW everywhere in America is either screaming, crying, protesting, yelling, screaming or talking about the unlawful and racial profiling killing Trayvon Martin case right….. How about I was NOT EVEN SHOCKED that the verdict went the way that it did….. Honey, look at the CASEY ANTHONY CASE……….enough said huh??
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Well, I will just not only pray but I will ALSO find other ways to be of an help to make a difference….. Sign petitions… show up for rallies…show up & PARTICIPATE in town hall conversations etc.. ( THIS COULD HAVE EASILY BEEN MY KID )

It is MORE than just praying – you also have to do something as well…..before the black males in this country becomes an endangered species! ! #truth