Dear ( ME )

Movie Overdose – LOL

The Best Man Holiday movie

I have already seen this many WAY too many times that I would like to actually admit ….. ESPECIALLY since it only came out last week on Thursday….but to me it was indeed just that good…… Okay here is my theory with this movie..

Movie was INSANELY good – they need to have at least 2 more at the least then CLOSE THE STORY. Ride the wave while it is high…make Part 3 RIGHT NOW while the momentum is high and we are all watering at the mouth! (summer 2014)  Then make the 4th one with everyone READY for the story to end but do it with a big bang! ( 2016 )


Babbling With My Son –

It’s not what you achieve, it’s what you overcome. That’s what defines who you are…..   Your outlook upon life, your estimate of yourself, your estimate of your value  are largely colored by your environment. Your whole career will be modified,  shaped, molded by your surroundings, by the character of the people with whom  you come in contact every day…

Honestly, I think everyone should experience defeat at least once during their career. You  learn a lot from it!!!   He always tells me what he wants to do in life via his career and I advise him that he needs to find a career to which he his adapted by nature, and then to work hard at  it, is about as near to a formula for success and happiness as the world  provides. One of the fortunate aspects of this formula is that, granted the  right career has been found, the hard work takes care of itself. Then hard work  is not hard work at all.

Future MLB Player

Future  School Principal

Future Stockbroker



There are many types of mentoring relationships, and it is essential to understand the differences and nuances prior to cultivating and entering into a mentoring agreement. What characteristics do you seek—formal or informal, mandatory or optional, short term or long term?

One of the most important distinctions is whether the mentoring relationship is considered formal or informal. Most mentoring relationships sit somewhere on a continuum between these two extremes. Formal mentoring relationships are often mandatory—leadership assigns mentors to new hires or promising candidates for promotion.

The meetings are scheduled, tracked, documented, and evaluated based on clearly articulated goals and milestones. Informal mentoring relationships are more spontaneous and based on loosely defined results. In fact, many mentoring relationships, while fulfilling the PD needs of the participants, are not acknowledged as such.

Often the mentee enters an informal mentoring relationship because of an intrinsically motivated need to do better. Whereas formal mentoring relationships tend to be more hierarchical, with seniority, status, and even age defining the mentor/protégé relationship, informal mentoring is more likely based on trust or admiration.

Another important thing to remember is that being a Mentor to someone is a blessing and a great opportunity to pour into someone a wealth of knowledge. Event though you are the Mentor, it is also just as important that you learn a variety of things from the people who are your mentees!



Tell, show and PREPARE your kids and let them know that they can do anything as a profession! Good old honest hard work, with morals, values, ethics, beliefs and of course THE FAVOR of GOD can get them there! My son Jared wants to be a middle school principal, a soccer player, a baseball player and a secret service agent…….and I surely tell him that HE IS CAPABLE of even becoming all of them…..

OF COURSE – He asked me how – I did a timeline for a person’s life and showed him HOW on paper and through our conversation many things can be accomplished over a person’s life span. It does not all have to occur all at once…….wisdom tells you to put a plan together and see when and where certain aspirations can come into play. You cant be a football player and a secret service agent at the same time because of time constraints but you can still do both……



You can not be a middle school principal and play baseball because a principal is needed from August to June from different hours between 7 and 5 and baseball season starts in April and Spring Training in March in another state…

You cant do them both at the same time but you can still do them….. I encourage and push him to BE HIM… Dreams are good but as his mother I assist him to make his dreams a reality!

Can’t is a word that is found in the dictionary but NOT in your vocabulary when you are reaching for your goals….is WHAT I tell – teach and show my 9 1/2 year old son!! Now my 18 1/2 year old son…. I have tried to explain this same concept but his desire is to be NFL Bound  and ONLY IF THAT DOES NOT pan out for him – he desires to become and DEA Agent.

Okay great, there is at least some type of back up plan….HOWEVER – even if he makes it to the NFL, that money  and lifestyle can help you LIVE but not SURVIVE…

There is a difference between ” living and surviving”…..