Parenting

A Few Things About Boys –


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For generations, mothers have gotten the same old message when it comes to raising sons: beware of keeping him “too close.” A mom who nurtures a deep emotional bond with her boy will prevent him from growing up to be a strong, independent man. By refusing to cut those apron strings, she is on track to create a wimpy, dependent, adjusted “mama’s boy.” There’s just one problem with this theory: it’s not true.
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In fact, pushing boys to separate prematurely from their mothers and encouraging them to “man up” can be damaging to boys. What’s more, there are enormous benefits to a close mother-son bond, starting from the earliest days and continuing into a man’s adult years.
Baby boys who do not have secure attachments with their mothers go on to have behavioral problems later in life. Statistics reveal that boys who do not bond securely with their mothers in the infant years act much more hostile, destructive and aggressive later in life. A close bond with their moms when boys were young helped prevent delinquency when they were older.
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Boys who are close to their mothers perform better in school. Mothers often nurture emotional intelligence in their sons, teaching them to recognize and express their own feelings and to be more attuned to the feelings of others. These boys not only become more articulate–which helps them with reading and writing skills, but also have better self-control in the classroom.
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Few women still admire “the strong silent type,” let alone a man who expresses his anger by punching a wall. Men who can both listen and articulate their emotions are far more attractive. And of course, sons who grow up respecting and loving their mothers tend to respect and love other women. These same skills will also help them in the work place. In today’s economy, brute physical strength and a dominating style is no longer a ticket for success. Rather, men need the ability to work in teams and to have the very communication skills and social intelligence that their mothers have taught them all along.

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Family

Always Make Time!


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Mothers and daughters have a tie that runs deep and strong. A bond that cant be severed by time or distance. But, as in every relationship, you must give it love and attention for it to grow and blossom. Spending time with your mom is very important. Mothers and daughters should get together and try to think of ways that will allow them not only to have fun together, but that will strengthen your friendship. It really doesn’t matter where you go or what you do, as long as it appeals to both of you.

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Designate ” a day” and  maybe it can be Sunday as a family day, attend church together, go to dinner, spend an afternoon at the park and watch a movie that night. Whatever you chose, the only thing that’s important is that your spending time together and bonding. You’re developing and strengthening your friendship.

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Spending time with the people we love is important, its really more important than our jobs or any other of the million and one responsibilities we must cater to every day. It really doesn’t matter how we do it, as long as we make some time everyday for those we love.

Parenting

A Mother’s Random-ness


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Just proud of my son – nothing major to blog about at this present moment besides I am just proud of him……. he is almost 12 and things could be so completely different.

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The world that we live in and what is displayed on the television does NOT depict him in any form or fashion. He has been a honor roll student since he was 6, plays 3 sports and 2 instruments and is trying to master 1 foreign language –
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He has great friends – great opportunities -and options for his life – He chooses to be respectful and love Christ – does he have a few not so good days? YES – does he sometimes find himself on punishment? YES does he have to clean and do chores around the house? YES –
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However, I am speaking as the average black male growing up in America being raised in a single parent household and having only a handful of male mentors in his life and none are related to him at all – he is indeed a great boy –
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I am thankful that God has allowed me “to borrow” my son and I pray that I am doing an amazing job in the eyes of The Lord – let my son tell it – everyday he shares with me that I am a good mother – but you never know if he is just trying to “warm me up” for something that he saw in the store! LOL

Helping Self...

Moms….. TAKE Time!


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Most women already know what the statistics bear: You are still carrying most of the load. You juggle kids, work, home, volunteering and everything else in between. Are you really enriching your life by doing everything?

“When we are stressed, overwhelmed and tired, we have a shorter fuse. We become irritable, and it’s more difficult to handle the challenges of being with children,”…………..
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Logically, you know that running yourself on empty isn’t good for your health or your family. But the instinct to be a devoted mother means operating in overdrive…….. MENTAL BREAK DOWN is what we should avoid!  You want your children to be happy, and you desire to give them every possible life experience, even at the expense of your own needs. You feel guilty if your children don’t have everything you think they should have.

Now that you know it is healthy and even productive to take a “time out,” how can you actually take one when you can’t possibly drop one thing on your schedule?
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Take stock of what you are doing now. Do you really need to bake three dozen cookies for every parent meeting? Or chaperone the next field trip? Will your children really be scarred for life if they don’t have a dinner made from scratch? Do you…… DO I …… LOL, have to put my son in EVERY kind of activity? Honey, I do stay EXHAUSTED because of it!!
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Seriously think about what your own goals are. Focus on your interests and the opportunities at hand. Once you have your focus on target, the wasted time that goes along with being pulled in too many directions will be a thing of the past.

Dear ( ME )

Happy Monday People


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Glad that I woke up to see yet another day! God is soo good, I was up and have been in a fantastic mood and did not know why I was EXTREMELY gitty this morning!
 
I was on a roll with my happy self then my alarm went off on my phone!!
 
It was a reminder that TODAY February 18, 2013 marked the 5 year anniv. of my wonderful father’s passing.
 
For the first 20 seconds I MUST ADMIT that it stopped my happy moment momentum………… However, I did pull it together!!!
 
I am well and although it is his 5 year anniv. I AM STILL HAPPY as I was this morning……
 
Just like the enenmy to try and quench your happiness out of the blue – but it did NOT work!!!……. Im free from the bondage of being depressed of my father’s passing…and it feels soooooo soooo great!!!
 
 
Let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions louder than your words. God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us. Ephesians 3:20
 
Family

God, Creation, Birth and Purpose


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In the beginning, God could have populated the earth with people by just blinking and continuing to blink when He needed more. But instead He took time to CREATE a grown man and construct a grown woman.

And while God was forming man in His image, He decided to give that man/woman the intricate tools to “CREATE” so man/woman could populate the earth.

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The ability to bring a child into this world is a special gift from God. He doesn’t CREATE babies, rather gave us the INCREDIBLE tools to bring life into this earth. image

At the very least we owe God by being responsible and creating babies within the guidelines of His original plan. Just randomly CREATING life without someone who is not your spouse is NOT a part of God’s original plan.

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With that being said…..I LOVE MY SONS!!

Family

You and My Son…..


  Darrell Turner

                                                                            Jaylen C. Coleman

Darrell, you and my son Jaylen were like brothers and I wish that I could come home and see you asleep on my couch again!!!!! Although you are no longer here to share your smile with us….. just know that my son and your brother / friend misses you dearly. June 23, 2011 changed the lives of soooo many people because that is the night that you were taken away so suddenly….

We cannot imagine how your parents and family are feeling about your life being taken a year ago but we know that you are with the Lord. Thank you Darrell for allowing me to get to know you and choosing to also becoming apart of The Coleman FAMILY. I love you dearly….

I pray that the person who murdered you will receive what is deserved and justice on your behalf will indeed be served. 

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