Parenting

Road Trip –


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Most people think of the phrase ROAD TRIP with their best buddies and they are going to have a ball…..which there is NOTHING wrong with that.. but when I think of road trip – I think of MY SON and driving to see him up at college… I had such a nice time with him this weekend and just being THERE with him –
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I don’t know who gets happier me, his little brother or him! Nonetheless, I am elated that he knows that his mommy loves him and knows that I am here for him – This boy is my other baby he just happens to be 20 years old! Sitting around his apartment as well as running errands for me MAKES ME FEEL GOOD as his mother –
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My oldest sister is just as AMAZING and my son was telling his girlfriend that he considers her as his second mother…she teared up on the sly of course…. FAMILY is just amazing ya know and I am surely grateful that God is moving His hand our way.
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God heals and restores and that indeed is what God has done for my family – I am so grateful that I just think about the goodness of God and how far me and my babies have come and I just drop a few tears… I am just enjoying MY SON with all of his growth and maturity….him being away at college reminds me that he is really getting older and growing up!

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As I was laying in the bed with MY 20 year old BABY over the weekend in his apartment up at college, I thought to myself that I didn’t want to move! Lol

Honey, I NEVER THOUGHT that I would be HAPPY to dive 3 and 1/2 hours monthly…LOL ( pray for us all please )

Parenting

Letting Go Daily –


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I am learning that as my son is getting OLDER …… I have to let him go day by day via treating him like he will NEVER leave the house!  Only a few more years left and I will be saying >>> SEE YA LATER BUDDY BOY!! ( hiding my tears )

The toughest thing about being a parent (or a teacher) is learning when NOT to be one. You don’t have to take my word for it, just ask Marlon. (The mivie Finding Nemo ) His wife was brutally attacked and killed by a man-eating barracuda, thrusting him into the role of a “single dad.” Now we know that in AMERICA there are more single mothers than single fathers. Not discounting single dads at all but ……….. ( LOL )

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Although only an animation film, “Finding Nemo” portrays the real life struggles many parents face in “letting go of their children.” I have to say that I have been doing great though….. He has been finding new things to do with his life and his SELF lately…just look at this CRAZY hair cut that HE WANTED!! Inside I was screaming like, baby this isn’t you, is it?

As in real life, most parents (and children) don’t see the potential dangers of a parent being overprotective. And it’s easy to understand why many parents would respond the way Marlon did. Growing up in an inner city ghetto myself, there were many barracudas waiting to devour me.

Like most children, Nemo became very upset with his “loving” father’s obsession with protecting him from unforeseen danger. During one heated exchanged, Nemo uttered the phrase that strikes fear in the heart of every parent, “I hate you.” As a result of his father’s controlling behavior, Nemo intentionally rebels against his father and is consequently “fish-napped” by a diver.
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I am letting my son go DAILY…… Keep him grounded in Godly principles and heavily involved and push him even at times when I know that pushing him / teaching him to do MORE will allow him to depend on me LESS. That is a good thing but the love of a mother is something ferocious!  My son calls me MOMMA BEAR because when someone bothers him – a whole NEW PERSON “comes over me”….. LOL I get into a mode that I will crush anything in my when it comes to protecting my son…. ( in a diplomatic and lady like way of course – lol )
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I am proud of myself…for “choosing” to start MY PROCESS of letting go daily while he is young. As a parent, you cannot start trying to cope that your child is going to be moving out of the house when they are GRADUATING HIGH SCHOOL! You do know that is WAY too late right? LOL

Parenting

The Other Baby….


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My 19 1/2 year old big baby….. my son sent me this photo a little bit ago and he looks so mature….. but his ” MOMMY VOICE ” does not match his mega tattoos and tough boy act! LOL Sometimes, he sounds more baby -ish than his  10 1/2 year old brother – he does not want ANYONE to know of course….

He is my other big baby and I just CONSTANTLY pray for some of the various decisions that he makes that may not be “so great”…. The Bible instructs parents to train up a child….. some days I have CRIED TO GOD and asked him did He revise his word because my son acts as if he has lost his way at times……GEESH!! LOL

I am STILL LEARNING how to just pray instead of just screaming and fussing at him….HOWEVER – Lord please help him! As a parent, you can tell when things are not so great EVEN WHEN THEY ARE SMILING…..

I hear things in his voice when I talk to him – but no matter what age a person is in life – we must do what is required of us, respect those who have rule over us, understand that there are rules and regulations wherever you are…..Lord thank you for opening his eyes and ears!

Parenting

Saying Goodbye to Good Teachers


I am happy to have such a great rapport with all of my son’s teachers…. I mean from the time he entered into Pre -K, I was apart of EVERY little event that they had for him. However, with him being basically almost in middle school ( yikes ) It is weird because “IN THE BEGINNING” my son could not stand to look at her which I found it rather odd….. She was very strick and stern as a TEACHER as I am as a PARENT so he should not have been shocked by the way that she ran her classroom!

Nonetheless, now he surely adores her! I did not have the heart to tell him that her last day will be sooner than later and he does not even know! It is great when your kids run into teachers that show that they care…..then of course when the teachers or the kids move on – it is a little sad. Shout out to all of the teachers across America who puts genuine time and effort into their students!

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Today’s Wow Moment –


I am not a huge Oprah #FAN but I really thought that this was very interesting….. I think that it maybe a little “safe to say” that she ONLY replied back, due to the negativity of the comment!

Parenting

Open and Closed Letter


To My Oldest Kids,

I was sitting here thinking and re- evaluations a whole of things that transpired between the 3 of us over the years., Then I also had a talk with one of your previous coaches, talked to a few other relatives, talked to God and even had a tiny conversation with myself about you and your sister over your very LONG teenage years.  I was a little excited because you will both be turning 19 years of age in July and I still ask myself where did the time go! Although you guys are fraternal twins – sometimes I wonder if you are really indeed twins at all because you both just have WAY too, too, too, too, too, too  many differences! ( good and bad )

Nonetheless, as I move on in my life I wanted you to know that I will always – always love you and I am NO LONGER upset with either one of you! Plus, if I desire to get into Heaven, I better not be mad anymore! Plus, it is not worth it at all….

Well, with you both, Please know that  I am just no longer willing to accept your disrespect and your unwillingness to put in the time and effort that it takes for us to build and maintain a loving and healthy relationship….

I am sure that you are shocked but guess what – I was too when I was able to FINALLY come to this point in my life!

Like I said at the beginning of this letter, you both will be turning 19 years of age next month and I have been struggling HARD with the both of you since you were 12 1/2 and I do believe that it is time for ME to see about ME.  You guys have chosen for the last 7 years of what you wanted to do…when you wanted to do it…if you wanted to do it…who you wanted to do it for and with…. and sad to say, None of it INCLUDED ME!

I love you guys to pieces and when “it is time”, we will connect again but it will be on my time and terms…. oh an by the way, I am glad that you both are my kids … EVEN THOUGH YOU DON’T ACT, SPEAK, OR DRESS LIKE IT!

If you need need better interpretation of this quick – blunt – open and closed letter, please consult God!

Love,

Mom

P.S. If you cannot tell by now – I have allowed every year that has passed to MAKE ME better and not bitter!