Marriage Talk


I have a great deal of friends who are happily AND unhappily married!!! However, we indeed have LASTING CONVERSATIONS and just talk for hours at a time – NO – I am not married but I used to be…….and knowing God, hearing God, knowing what you want and how things should be is a good START for any conversational piece…..

We have to stop asking of marriage what God never designed it to give — perfect happiness, conflict-free living, and idolatrous obsession.

Instead, we should be able to appreciate what God designed marriage to provide: partnership, spiritual intimacy and the ability to pursue God — together. So, what do you think is the most common misconception Christians have about marriage?

“Finding a ‘soul mate’ — someone who will complete us,” he says. “The problem with looking to another human to complete us is that, spiritually speaking, it’s idolatry. We are to find our fulfillment and purpose in God . . . and if we expect our spouse to be ‘God’ to us, he or she will fail every day. No person can live up to such expectations.”

Everyone has bad days, yells at his or her spouse, or is downright selfish. Despite these imperfections, God created the husband and wife to steer each other in His direction.

When your wife or husband forgives you . . . and accepts you, you SHOULD learn to receive God’s forgiveness and acceptance as well. In that moment, THEY ARE MODELING God , revealing God’s mercy and helping YOU to see with your own eyes a very real spiritual reality. That AGAPE love that Christ himself wants us to exhibit!

While it’s easy to see why God designed an other-centered union for a me-centered world, living that way is a challenge. So when bills pile up, communication breaks down and you’re just plain irritated with your husband or wife,  These reminders to help ease the tension:

  • God created marriage as a loyal partnership between one man and one woman.
  • Marriage is the firmest foundation for building a family.
  • God designed sexual expression to help married couples build intimacy.
  • Marriage mirrors God’s covenant relationship with His people.
Dear ( ME )

Movie Overdose – LOL

The Best Man Holiday movie

I have already seen this many WAY too many times that I would like to actually admit ….. ESPECIALLY since it only came out last week on Thursday….but to me it was indeed just that good…… Okay here is my theory with this movie..

Movie was INSANELY good – they need to have at least 2 more at the least then CLOSE THE STORY. Ride the wave while it is high…make Part 3 RIGHT NOW while the momentum is high and we are all watering at the mouth! (summer 2014)  Then make the 4th one with everyone READY for the story to end but do it with a big bang! ( 2016 )


Dear God – “this is what im talking about”……

OKAY……………………. AFTER I

Smiled 100xs

Giggled 100xs

Laughed 100xs

Screamed 100xs

Said “WOW” 100xs

Teared Up 100xs

Cried 100xs

Said “awww” 100xs

Rejoiced “for her” and “with them” 100xs

Prayed and asked God to bless their union 100xs

I am exhausted…..and ready to go to sleep with a SMILE on my face, knowing God will bless me and my son too!!


A Simple Conversation


Well, since I have established a foundation that my son can come to be about ANY AND EVERYTHING….. I have molded myself to be alright with whatever with his answers are to the things that we discuss –

However but when it comes to relationships, we talk about several things and some of his replies have me astounded more so because of his age bracket!

Marriage – he says he does not want to get a divorce so he will take his time     ( whew I am so proud of my baby) and I am glad that he understands divorce which – he is a victim of it so he understands.


ME: Jared so what is your type because I know that you are starting to think that girls are cute! I see all those little girls at school screaming and saying Hi to you all at the same time! They sound like a bunch of cats that are in pain!

SON: Mom what do you mean my type

ME: What type of girls do you think is pretty, what type of career do you want her to have, do you want her

SON: I like tiny blonde girls at school, you know white girls mom

ME: Oh okay, is that the only type that you like? Just white girls?

SON: I like only a few black girls but they have to act normal like you

ME: Baby what is normal?

SON: Not loud and stuff mom, they are smart, short, pretty dress nice  and have a lot friends

ME: Awww baby, that is sweet baby but the things that you named are only a small part of what a woman is about

SON: What do you mean mom

ME: The things that you want in a woman should be things that cannot always be seen ONLY on the outside. How does she make you feel, what are some things that you would want your wife to do for you

SON: Do you mean like talking and praying and stuff?

ME:  (I am laughing so hard ) YES! Things like that baby

SON: Oh well I want her to be just like you because we talk all the time, you always ask me what is the matter, you ask me what do I want to do with my life and when I tell you something different each week, you bring information about that field. See mom, I want someone who is like you, always there for me and telling me that I can do it!

ME: Now, it makes me feel good that you want someone who shares some of the same qualities that I have but remember you do NOT want to marry your mother or someone like your mother. You want and should marry your best friend. I can’t be her and she can’t be me.

SON: Mom, I know, that is why you are always fussing at me so I don’t be a baby and lazy in life

ME: Okay???  We will talk more later



Dating Random Chatter-


There is all kinds of advice out there about dating today, but a lot of it is about dating in the world rather than Christian dating. Christians need to have a different attitude toward dating. However, even among Christians there are differences as to whether you should or should not date. The choice is up to your and your parents, but Christian teens should still know God’s perspective on dating.  Non-Christians have a different perspective on dating. You see the magazines, TV shows, and movies that tell you how you’re young, hot and beautiful , and you should date a lot of people before you get married. You see certain “role models” jumping from one dating relationship to another.

Yet God has more in store for you than just jumping from one relationship to another. He is clear on whom you should date and why you should date. When it comes to Christian dating, you live according to a different standard – God’s. Yet it’s not just about following the rules. There are some solid reasons why God asks us to live a certain way, and dating is no different.
The Bible seriously warns us about dating non-Christians. While you may not be looking at marrying anyone at the moment, it should always be in the back of your head. Why get involved emotionally with someone that you should not marry? This does not mean you cannot be friends with that person, but you should not date them.
Watch the corny pick up lines and don’t be soooooooo eager to be with someone….. Seriously! !
This also means that you should avoid “missionary dating,” which is dating a non-believer in the hopes that you can convert him or her. Your intentions may be noble, but the relationships rarely work out.

Some Christians have even gotten married to non-believers, hoping that they can convert their spouse, but often the relationships end up in disaster!

Women's Stuff

Is Thuggish the NEW Gay ?


Like can ANYONE advise me on what is REALLY going on with all of the OUTBREAK of this type of behavior…. I know that there are gay men in EVERY CULTURE / ETHNIC GROUP but it has been an OPENLY TABOO for blacks…..let alone the black man – So to even see this has me throwing up EVEN AS I AM TYPING at this very moment……. Thug is the new black maybe?  Hope Not…


I mean REALLY………… you cannot tell me that you are not shocked seeing the thugged up…..tatted up…urban looking ….sagging and drooping pants wearing men being seen in ” this interesting light “……………

ARE there ANY single…… STRAIGHT…… Heterosexual….STRAIGHT….. men LEFT  These Days?  KEY WORD >>>>>>>>>>> STRAIGHT just like this line _________________________________________ !!!!!  uuggghhhh –