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My Mental Massage


Just because Thanksgiving Day has passed, there’s no reason to stop being grateful……..

Something that has brought a positive change in my life recently has been the practice of turning negative statements around and finding something in the circumstance for which to be grateful.

“I am thankful for my 11 year old – PRE -teen-ager who complained about doing dishes BEFORE he left to go with his dad, because that means he is at home, not out on the streets somewhere.

“I am thankful for the taxes that I pay, because it means that I’m employed. “I am thankful for the mess I have to clean up at my house, because it means I’m more fortunate than thousands of people around the world. I have a home.

“I am thankful for the clothes that fit a little too snugly, because it means I have plenty to eat. “I’m thankful for my shadow that watches me work, because it means I’m outside in the sunshine. “I am thankful for my mother’s house SMELLING HORRIBLE of cooking gizzards..chitlings etc… because that means that she is STILL ALIVE to drive me insane of eating these nasty things and making my clothes stink” LOL

“I’m thankful for my oldest son who is in college being moody over the last few weeks but he makes me smile everytime he CHOOSES to text and call me. Also for my daughter being even MORE moodier but smiles when she emails me.

“I’m thankful for all the complaining about government and politics, because it reminds me I live in a country that allows me freedom of speech. “I’m thankful for the parking spot I found all the way at the end of the lot, because it means I have the strength and ability to walk the distance.

“I’m thankful for my heating bill, because it means I am warm. “I’m thankful for the lady behind me in church who sings off-key, because it means I am blessed with the gift of hearing. “I’m thankful for the pile of laundry that reminds me that I — and my family — have plenty of clothes to wear.

“I’m thankful for weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day, because it means I’m capable of working hard and making a contribution to the lives of others. “I’m thankful each day when the alarm goes off, and I hear it, because it means I’m still alive. There is still time to serve God and others. There are still opportunities to make a difference.

“Each day is a gift. Each burden holds a blessing, and every moment of life offers an opportunity that will come only once in a lifetime.

“I am thankful — just because — I am.”


Happy Blessed Day!

Happy birthday to my big sister!!! She means SOOOOO MUCH to me and has always been there for me when I did not feel like BEING BOTHERED with myself if that even makes even sense!! LOL I have spoiled her REAL GOOD!! She is going to really enjoy the WHOLE rest of the month of November 2012…… I have had sooo many wonderful things planned for her and God knows that it is MY PLEASURE

She is just SIMPLY amazing…..and deserves ALL the happiness that her sweet BIG HEART can surely hold! Last year was great for her too because I celebrated her birthday until New Years!


Chicken and Red Meat Have UNITED!

Wow!! I may eat a hamburger and Chicken sandwich today!!!! #NOT 

They are STANDING UP “for something” or the CEO’S of Chik Fa La and McDonalds are Dating! LOL


Dining and Speaking

Had a great evening last night and I almost did not want to leave! It is amazing how much time women put into getting ourselves together for an event!  From hair…make up…to jewelry and also my pin and flower!

I was asked to be 1 of 3 speakers for a “well to do” neighborhood organization and I was indeed honored to have been asked…..  The ONLY pet peeve that I would say that I had is that AGAIN my name was spelled wrong!

 The common way to spell it I am assuming in societ is VALERIE but mine is spelled VALARIE. To some people it may seem a bit silly but let your name be spelled WRONG on your Masters Degree then tell me how you feel about it! LOL

Welp…. I was elated to enjoy the evening and thankful that I am seated next to a few wonderful people as well as seated at a wonderfully interesting table!…..


I am indeed OBSESSIVELY – oopps .. LOL I meant to say “carefully” watching my weight since I have gained 5 pounds in a matter of 2 weeks! SO HORRIBLE! STARCH CAN BE A KILLER!

Nonetheless…the food was tastely and you could even taste the $150.00 a plate ingredients! LOL……

Well that it is almost my time to speak – I guess that I need to start paying more attention to the flow of the program and stop mingling and taking photos!


The wonderful social lite president of this upscale neighborhood organization took a few photos of me because she felt that my speech was very inspiring to her as well as the room. Talk about a nice compliment!


Okay, now that it is over I am …I am able to get back to my table and do MORE NETWORKING! I am so grateful that my father made me literally EAT POLITICS as a child because I had even Congressman Altmire taking a photo with so indeed I was flattered and terribly shocked but happy!


God is amazing and being obedient to HIM will allow us to be in the midst of great people, obtain major opportunities and establish favor among men! I had a very enjoyable evening and I have no one but God to thank for that! Oh wait, also my little son Jared because he saw that I was a little nervous because he knew the room was full of politicians and the social lites from a “well off” neighborhood! So guess what he did as I was getting dressed!!?? He gave me a stroy to read and then advised me to read a chapter in Psalm in the bible!

I was TOOO floored… so when that happened – I knew that not only the rest of my afternoon would be great but my whole week! Encouragement goes a MIGHTY long way regardless how it comes and when it comes! God will use anything and anybody to give us what we need! MY SON ROCKS!!!

Now it is time to end the evening with exchanging contact information, hugs, handshakes and of course if you know ME!! >>> MORE PHOTOS!