Relationships

Marriage Talk


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I have a great deal of friends who are happily AND unhappily married!!! However, we indeed have LASTING CONVERSATIONS and just talk for hours at a time – NO – I am not married but I used to be…….and knowing God, hearing God, knowing what you want and how things should be is a good START for any conversational piece…..

We have to stop asking of marriage what God never designed it to give — perfect happiness, conflict-free living, and idolatrous obsession.

Instead, we should be able to appreciate what God designed marriage to provide: partnership, spiritual intimacy and the ability to pursue God — together. So, what do you think is the most common misconception Christians have about marriage?
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“Finding a ‘soul mate’ — someone who will complete us,” he says. “The problem with looking to another human to complete us is that, spiritually speaking, it’s idolatry. We are to find our fulfillment and purpose in God . . . and if we expect our spouse to be ‘God’ to us, he or she will fail every day. No person can live up to such expectations.”

Everyone has bad days, yells at his or her spouse, or is downright selfish. Despite these imperfections, God created the husband and wife to steer each other in His direction.

When your wife or husband forgives you . . . and accepts you, you SHOULD learn to receive God’s forgiveness and acceptance as well. In that moment, THEY ARE MODELING God , revealing God’s mercy and helping YOU to see with your own eyes a very real spiritual reality. That AGAPE love that Christ himself wants us to exhibit!

While it’s easy to see why God designed an other-centered union for a me-centered world, living that way is a challenge. So when bills pile up, communication breaks down and you’re just plain irritated with your husband or wife,  These reminders to help ease the tension:

  • God created marriage as a loyal partnership between one man and one woman.
  • Marriage is the firmest foundation for building a family.
  • God designed sexual expression to help married couples build intimacy.
  • Marriage mirrors God’s covenant relationship with His people.
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Parenting

Co – Parenting 101


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REALIZE that you have to do it!

It is important and a healthy act towards any type of surface friendship that you can keep up with your child’s father.

My son will 11 next week and his father has FINALLY seen the light and really trying to do better……..(fingers crossed)

First and foremost you have your children in common. Raising them and helping them to grow into well-adjusted adults should be what you have in common and should be the main goal for both of you.

You want them to feel safe and secure and the best way to do this is by keeping your relationship with your ex husband friendly and non-confrontational to keep some of the stress away from your children.

In the blending of households and the juggling of visitations, kids often feel they have no rights. In some ways this is true, because the adults are making so many decisions on behalf of the child. Remember that your child loves the other parent. When a parent complains about the other parent, that can set a negative tone, even if what you are saying is true.To reduce their feelings of helplessness, give the child as much control as you can over the little things. There is a lot of give-and-take that happens in families. TRY to cooperate with your ex to accommodate changes in schedules and activities, and honor the child’s preferences when you can.

 
It is not mandatory but DO MAKE EVERY ATTEMPT to do so if he has shown consideration as well because it is nice to be nice right???
 
Such flexibility establishes a good co-parenting pattern. Most mother’s make all the sacrifices but hopefully there are SOME FATHERS who are actually willing to sacrifices as well.
Hopefully the fathers can see that they too are important in the process!
 
 
Relationships

Whoa – China Has Indeed Shocked Me!


Clicking and reading this link below made me a little MAD!…… After I was confused for about 20 minutes…

http://news.yahoo.com/man-sued-wife-birthing-ugly-baby-110500995.html

I mean like seriously? Regardless if you are in America…..Canada….Europe etc.. Why would something like this even make to COURT?

Ugghh, I know God is like soo super disgusted….. I can see Americans trying to do this FOOLISHNESS! The father needs to be banned from marriage as well as having kids himself for these super duper crazy allegations. Praying for the wife’s ” SANITY ” after dealing with this!

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Marriage Message


 
***SEX AND MARRIAGE SOMETHING THE CHURCH DOESNT TALK ABOUT***
I have soo soo many….. Ooopps! I meant to say that I have way TOOO TOOO many girl pals who have a bucket load of marital issues and never seem to be able to obtain the counseling that they need WITHIN the church that they belong to.
Or even the couples who are dating and may be thinking of marriage have TONS of complaints of not being able to TRUST the leadership within their church to discuss their issues…. Of course MY MIND SET is .. ” why why in the WORLD are you attending and apart of that church”……… it is 2012 and to be STUCK in that area is just plumb crazy…
We are so busy building titles, offices and gifts that we forget about the title Mr. and Mrs. and the office of marriage and the gift of sex. Its time to start praying intimacy back into the marriage if we want to overcome divorce, adultery and homosexuality. Let’s keep it real people and stop acting like these things are impossible maybe you want go cheat but your spouse will. Close the doors that have been open for the enemy.
The church is scared or untrained to deal with the WHOLE MATTER at heart…. either way – things need to be re – evaluated and re adjusted so that families have a chance to SUSTAIN themselves within this crazy world that we live in.
Okay I am done….. for now
Relationships

A Great Tip!


This is an AMAZING tip for Christian Singles!!! ( actually anyone ) but if they do not understand nor believe in God granting …blessing….connecting you with the God given mate rather than just “the right mate”…. this may NOT be for them!

I have watched movies and then fell all super duper in love with “the thought” of LOVE! Movies like P.S. I Love You had me crying for like a month and then made me fall totally head over heels in love with actor Gerard Butler

You know, the main star who played in the Roman movie called 300 with his favorite phrase >>> THIS IS SPARTA!! LOL ( love it )

 

I ” all of a sudden ” had an interest in going to Ireland! LOL What am I doing going to Ireland!!!LOL How many black Irishmen / Irishwomen do you know or? Okay, maybe 2 huh!!?? LOL

Welp, God helped me really quick because he allowed me to see another movie that the star played in called The Ugly Truth as well as seeing him go from woman to woman in the Hollywood lifestyle! Geesh, I woke up really quick!!!!  LOL

Dear ( ME )

The BREAK UP – LOL


I met Facebook, hung out with Facebook, dated Facebook, fell in love with Facebook, got engaged to Facebook and happily married Facebook !! However, I then felt that it was in MY best interest to go and get divorced from Facebook. It was a little hard at first and we went through small spurts of seperation and then finally I knew that I had to end it!

After prayer and sleepness nights and not being able to focus on the normal things of Life….. I finally FORCED myself to “let go” of Facebook a l little over 2 years ago…..  I realized that my life was better WITHOUT it than with it!! ( insert tears here ) LOL

Like any other relationship, who could forget all the nights of staying up until the late hours into the morning! Getting in the car, catching the subway, walking down the public street, getting waited on in a restaurant holding up the line, almost getting hit by cars and buses because I was so focused reading what you had to say or wrote on my time line, what new photos were being put up, where did you go last night, what were you planning for the day etc!! Who would want to give all of that up!! ( LOL )

Nonetheless, I had to grow up and realize that it was indeed taking a vicious toll on my life that I didn’t like! LOL Blogging is better and more therapeutic for ME anyway….. Being on social networking sites can be great but being on a “social” site everyday like IT IS APART OF YOUR DAILY ROUTINE is “not normal”……..  If you do not believe me check YOUR OWN routine and see how many SOCIAL sites you actively participate on.

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WOW – Again!


I am soooooooooooooo glad that at the end, he realized what he was going to be getting for the rest of his marriage!

He gave his wedding ring BACK to her during the reception!

I hate divorce just as God does but it took him until the evening of his wedding and seeing how disrespectful his wife was toward his family for him to obtain his SENSE!

Geesh.. this was soo soo horrible!