I have a great deal of friends who are happily AND unhappily married!!! However, we indeed have LASTING CONVERSATIONS and just talk for hours at a time – NO – I am not married but I used to be…….and knowing God, hearing God, knowing what you want and how things should be is a good START for any conversational piece…..
We have to stop asking of marriage what God never designed it to give — perfect happiness, conflict-free living, and idolatrous obsession.
Instead, we should be able to appreciate what God designed marriage to provide: partnership, spiritual intimacy and the ability to pursue God — together. So, what do you think is the most common misconception Christians have about marriage?
“Finding a ‘soul mate’ — someone who will complete us,” he says. “The problem with looking to another human to complete us is that, spiritually speaking, it’s idolatry. We are to find our fulfillment and purpose in God . . . and if we expect our spouse to be ‘God’ to us, he or she will fail every day. No person can live up to such expectations.”
Everyone has bad days, yells at his or her spouse, or is downright selfish. Despite these imperfections, God created the husband and wife to steer each other in His direction.
When your wife or husband forgives you . . . and accepts you, you SHOULD learn to receive God’s forgiveness and acceptance as well. In that moment, THEY ARE MODELING God , revealing God’s mercy and helping YOU to see with your own eyes a very real spiritual reality. That AGAPE love that Christ himself wants us to exhibit!
While it’s easy to see why God designed an other-centered union for a me-centered world, living that way is a challenge. So when bills pile up, communication breaks down and you’re just plain irritated with your husband or wife, These reminders to help ease the tension:
- God created marriage as a loyal partnership between one man and one woman.
- Marriage is the firmest foundation for building a family.
- God designed sexual expression to help married couples build intimacy.
- Marriage mirrors God’s covenant relationship with His people.