Yes, HE deserves ALL of my Praise –


Lord, you DESERVE all of my praise……. Over and Over and Over and Over and Over…….

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Addiction –


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I never thought in a million years that I would become a Drug and Alcohol Case Manager – It is a field that you MUST care whole heartedly about the people in addiction. If not – it will NOT work for you and it will surely hinder the people that you are supposed to be helping in the long run!

Although many people struggle with addiction in their lives, not all of them are able to overcome it. Your chances of being successful in becoming healthy and making a full recovery depend on many things, including how driven you are to succeed and live a healthier and better life overall. Having support is definitely one of the most important things that can either make or break a person when it comes to trying to beat addiction. Those who have family and friends that support them through their initial recovery period tend to do much better than those who do not have anyone to be there for them.  I ALWAYS tell my them that in order to avoid a relapse you will want to let everyone who you are close to know about what you are going through so they will be able to help you in any way possible.
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Addiction can be tough, which is why you will need to have an action plan that details exactly how you are going to go about overcoming your problems. If you are addicted to drugs for example, detox will not be enough to free you of the stranglehold that they have on you. There is definitely a physical aspect to addiction, but a lot of it is also psychological. Be sure to come up with multiple ways to stay healthy, because it really is a day-to-day process. There is no single miracle cure that will be able to help you overcome your addiction overnight.

Drug courts and mentors and case managers like myself really try our best to help addicts / alcoholics succeed in recovery. However, there are two critical pieces to unraveling the cycles of addiction and therefore to preventing recidivism. Why? Because addiction is a chronic, but treatable, brain disease.
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If addiction is left untreated (and treatment is far more complicated than just stopping drinking or using the substance), the individual with the disease is very likely to relapse after their release from jail, and very likely their relapse will lead to more criminal behavior. Not only that, but treatment of this brain disease requires long-term continuing care to insure the necessary re-wiring (healthy brain changes) and trigger prevention tools are in place that will allow an individual to succeed in their recovery.

Many crimes are committed by addicts/alcoholics because of the characteristics of the disease of addiction, namely: cravings, loss of control, tolerance and physical dependence. It is the “insanity” of the brain disease of addiction that causes them to do bad and/or illegal things, like stealing and what this “insanity “is about).
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Drug courts provides an alternative to jail or prison time by going after the root of the person’s problem — the reason he/she committed the crime — their addiction (whether that be an addiction to drugs or alcohol). Drug court helps a person get and stay clean and sober and if that person succeeds in drug court, they avoid jail or prison time and a record. Last but not least, people who are involved in addiction need pray and help and it takes a great deal of services from the community, government agencies, support from family and friends to help KEEP THEM SOBER –

Marriage Talk


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I have a great deal of friends who are happily AND unhappily married!!! However, we indeed have LASTING CONVERSATIONS and just talk for hours at a time – NO – I am not married but I used to be…….and knowing God, hearing God, knowing what you want and how things should be is a good START for any conversational piece…..

We have to stop asking of marriage what God never designed it to give — perfect happiness, conflict-free living, and idolatrous obsession.

Instead, we should be able to appreciate what God designed marriage to provide: partnership, spiritual intimacy and the ability to pursue God — together. So, what do you think is the most common misconception Christians have about marriage?
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“Finding a ‘soul mate’ — someone who will complete us,” he says. “The problem with looking to another human to complete us is that, spiritually speaking, it’s idolatry. We are to find our fulfillment and purpose in God . . . and if we expect our spouse to be ‘God’ to us, he or she will fail every day. No person can live up to such expectations.”

Everyone has bad days, yells at his or her spouse, or is downright selfish. Despite these imperfections, God created the husband and wife to steer each other in His direction.

When your wife or husband forgives you . . . and accepts you, you SHOULD learn to receive God’s forgiveness and acceptance as well. In that moment, THEY ARE MODELING God , revealing God’s mercy and helping YOU to see with your own eyes a very real spiritual reality. That AGAPE love that Christ himself wants us to exhibit!

While it’s easy to see why God designed an other-centered union for a me-centered world, living that way is a challenge. So when bills pile up, communication breaks down and you’re just plain irritated with your husband or wife,  These reminders to help ease the tension:

  • God created marriage as a loyal partnership between one man and one woman.
  • Marriage is the firmest foundation for building a family.
  • God designed sexual expression to help married couples build intimacy.
  • Marriage mirrors God’s covenant relationship with His people.

A Few Things About Boys –


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For generations, mothers have gotten the same old message when it comes to raising sons: beware of keeping him “too close.” A mom who nurtures a deep emotional bond with her boy will prevent him from growing up to be a strong, independent man. By refusing to cut those apron strings, she is on track to create a wimpy, dependent, adjusted “mama’s boy.” There’s just one problem with this theory: it’s not true.
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In fact, pushing boys to separate prematurely from their mothers and encouraging them to “man up” can be damaging to boys. What’s more, there are enormous benefits to a close mother-son bond, starting from the earliest days and continuing into a man’s adult years.
Baby boys who do not have secure attachments with their mothers go on to have behavioral problems later in life. Statistics reveal that boys who do not bond securely with their mothers in the infant years act much more hostile, destructive and aggressive later in life. A close bond with their moms when boys were young helped prevent delinquency when they were older.
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Boys who are close to their mothers perform better in school. Mothers often nurture emotional intelligence in their sons, teaching them to recognize and express their own feelings and to be more attuned to the feelings of others. These boys not only become more articulate–which helps them with reading and writing skills, but also have better self-control in the classroom.
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Few women still admire “the strong silent type,” let alone a man who expresses his anger by punching a wall. Men who can both listen and articulate their emotions are far more attractive. And of course, sons who grow up respecting and loving their mothers tend to respect and love other women. These same skills will also help them in the work place. In today’s economy, brute physical strength and a dominating style is no longer a ticket for success. Rather, men need the ability to work in teams and to have the very communication skills and social intelligence that their mothers have taught them all along.

Always Make Time!


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Mothers and daughters have a tie that runs deep and strong. A bond that cant be severed by time or distance. But, as in every relationship, you must give it love and attention for it to grow and blossom. Spending time with your mom is very important. Mothers and daughters should get together and try to think of ways that will allow them not only to have fun together, but that will strengthen your friendship. It really doesn’t matter where you go or what you do, as long as it appeals to both of you.

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Designate ” a day” and  maybe it can be Sunday as a family day, attend church together, go to dinner, spend an afternoon at the park and watch a movie that night. Whatever you chose, the only thing that’s important is that your spending time together and bonding. You’re developing and strengthening your friendship.

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Spending time with the people we love is important, its really more important than our jobs or any other of the million and one responsibilities we must cater to every day. It really doesn’t matter how we do it, as long as we make some time everyday for those we love.

Cried All Afternoon


Okay – I am OVER my venting rampage that I went through earlier today – BUT my morning and afternoon was just a big ball of emotion…… Being a Drug and Alcohol Case Manager allows me to meet and connect with a diverse group of people… I teach them things BUT I also learn from them too!
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Over the last 3 years I have stayed in consistent contact with only two clients- Jamie and Deanna. In social services, you are taught / trained not to have any connections but it is hard NOT TO CARE when you genuinely care.
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Nonetheless, these two women are no longer a part of the program that I work in so at “this point” it is alright.. Furthermore, these two women specifically were God Chosen and not Valarie Chosen and how our relationship has been is great.
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Nonetheless, my Jamie ( Jamester ) is what I affectionately call her always like for me to meet her friends because she considers me like her spiritual counselor, friend and big sister. Its an honor and we all get together and talk about LIFE and of course the things of CHRIST……. I believe that REAL MINISTRY is outside of the 4 – 8 walls of the church!
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Well this is where this PARTICULAR story gets good then great then bad……. Okay I met a young girl named Nicole but her nick name is SUNSHINE……. We talked about God and his purpose and this girl was ON FIRE FOR GOD ..Do you hear me!!! I mean we started preaching to each other and praying then prophesying and everything..

I told her AT THAT VERY MOMENT that God has connected us and although she is Jesus Follower, she is supposed to come to church with me and IMMEDIATELY she said I would LOVE TO and we planned to meet on Sunday morning at 830 am. I met her on a Friday and we were going to church that Sunday – We had such an amazing Spiritual Connection…it was sooo REFRESHING…. and God was in every aspect of our converstaions…..

Jamie called me and text me saying to call her that it was an emergency… I was praying that she was not in the process of relapsing back on drugs…. So I prayed as I was getting dressed to leave the house to start my full day of running around….. I said to myself.. CALL HER LATER ….she calls you all the time and you guys talk all the time…. God said dont answer the phone but call her back WHEN I GET IN THE CAR……. I  am saying…ok Lord….

I finally call Jamester back and she advises me that SUNSHINE DIED LAST NIGHT IN A CAR ACCIDENT!!

This is her below in the photo…..Nicole Albright 22 Years Old a.k.a. Sunshine

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We first met and took this photo  11 – 29 – 2013

I took her to church 12 – 1 – 2013

She died in car accident 12-8-2013

Links to her story.. Please keep her family lifted in prayer …God Bless

http://www.wpxi.com/news/news/local/1-killed-child-hurt-rollover-accident-bigelow-blvd/ncFt8/

http://www.post-gazette.com/local/breaking/2013/12/09/Victim-identified-in-Bigelow-Boulevard-crash/stories/201312090142

http://pittsburgh.cbslocal.com/2013/12/09/woman-killed-child-injured-in-hill-district-crash/