Helping Self...

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Inspiration

Sometimes –


Sometimes I wish I could live in a drama free world but then I remember even the greatest warriors had to go through pain before making it to paradise. Lessons are best learned through pain. Sometimes, our visions clear only after our eyes are washed with tears. Sometimes, we have to be broken so we can be whole again. Remember: If God made the day to be perfect, He would not have invented tomorrow.

Faith in your dreams and someday your rainbow will come smiling through. No matter how your heart is grieving, if you keep believing, the dream that you wish will come true. God knew……God knows…. nothing surprises HIM –

 

 

Relationships

This Was Soo Good –


Okay – it is no secret that I am NOT a huge “urban film” movie goer …unless it is a love story –  However, earlier today – I took a few hours to run and see this movie and I am sooooooooooooooooooooooo glad that I did! All smiles from me!

The Best Man Holiday knocked my socks off – and made me have a need for A MILLION BOXES OF TISSUE –  The  movie was very well written and done and left me with the feelings of laughter – sadness – happiness – wanting to be married – respecting friends and family even the more – EVERYONE needs to see this movie because the message behind it is just utterly amazing!

I also saw THOR last weekend with my son and this movie was so good! Okay, the movie was great but THOR – GAWWWWD – whew – as I calm down and take my own blood pressure! LOL ….Seriously, it is very nice to be able to take my son to movies that I even grew up enjoying…..he loved it a great deal and I was glad. I am a little strict and I do NOT believe in allowing kids his age to watch abrasive movies, cussing, demonic and basically ANYTHING that is RATED R and to be honest even some PG movies are a bit too much for him. They are surely going to make a THOR 3

Parenting

Blessed Mothers –


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For ANYONE who has read a few of my posts know that besides the other RANTS that I may do from time to time – talking about being a parent – talking about politics – talking about relationships – talking about ministry – I SURELY do a great deal of blogs about who I affectionately call ym “Mommy Cakes” ……… She indeed is utterly amazing!
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Blessed are the Mothers who love God, for their children shall  not be ignorant of their Creator and His plans about them.  Blessed are the Mothers who love the word of God, for their children shall know of the way, the truth and the life.
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Blessed are the Mothers who love the house of God, for their  children shall enter there and sit with them in the presence of God. Blessed are the Mothers who love to pray, for their children  shall feel the power of prayer and many shall find salvation. Blessed are the Mothers who love to give to the cause of Christ,  for their children shall become supporters of the Kingdom of God.
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Blessed are the Mothers who love the family altar, for they  shall have their reward in this world and in the world to come. Blessed are the Mothers who love to speak kind words to their  neighbor’s children, for thereby they shall win  other boys and girls besides their own to Jesus Christ. Blessed are the Mothers who love to be companions to their  children, for they shall be called understanding Mothers.
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Blessed are the Mothers who love to fight life’s battles  bravely with a strong and steadfast faith in God, for their  children shall know where to find strength in time of need. Blessed are the Mothers who, when they are old and gray,  can look back upon memory’s wall with no regret and can say,  “I brought my children up in the fear of the Lord.”  Theirs are the mansions in glory.

Helping Self...

E X P E C T


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Expect your child to mess up — all children do. And don’t get so upset when they mess up, when they don’t do what they’re “supposed” to do … because they’re supposed to mess up.

Expect your partner to be less than perfect.

Expect your friend to not show up sometimes or be irritating late.

Expect things to go not according to plan because most things do not.

Expect people to be rude sometimes because a great deal of them are.

Expect coworkers not to come through sometimes more than usual.

Expect teenagers  not to wash their dishes or pick up their clothes, sometimes because most teenagers do not.

Expect the glass to break.

And accept it.

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You won’t change these inevitable facts — they will happen, eventually. And if you expect it to happen — even see it as already happening, before it happens — you won’t get so upset.

You won’t overreact. You’ll respond appropriately, but not overreact. You can talk to the person about their behavior, and ask them kindly to consider your feelings when they do this … but you won’t get overly emotional and blow things out of proportion.

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That Random “F – Word” Again….


F – O – R – G – I – V- E – N – E – S – S

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Forgiving somebody means that you no longer hold anger or resentment toward a person who has offended or wronged you. Once you do this, you should resume the normal relationship you had with that person before the event occurred. Forgetting is, of course, when you no longer remember what happened. This is the act of “letting it go” or “moving on.” When you finally forget, you no longer associate the person with the offense.
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Forgiving a person and forgetting that person did to you is the only way you can resume a normal relationship with that person. Being able to do this is also a way to build personal character. Nobody is perfect, after all, and there will eventually come a time when you wrong somebody else. You’ll want that person to forgive you and forget what you did when that time comes.

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Forgiving and forgetting is important in most religions as well. For example, Christianity teaches that God will not forgive you for your sins if you cannot forgive people when they hurt you.
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You may not forget that you were wounded, but not focusing on the wound can allow you to forget that the real wound is healing without you even realizing it.

The next time you look up you may recognize that INDEED you do have a SCAR to show that “it did happen” but it will no longer be an issue……… ( MATURITY ) ……it takes time but can be done.

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Irritating Evening –


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Whew…..dealing with VERY DIFFICULT PEOPLE can have the ability to stress you out if YOU let it……

Do you ever try to figure them out. Why are they being so nasty? Are they jealous? Are they  annoyed with you about something specific? Are they stressed out? Are they  afraid? Are they mistrustful? You’ll need to learn what makes them tick before you can stop them from ticking you off.

Avoid appeasing them. You wouldn’t reward a bad dog, so why let a difficult  person get away with bad behavior? If you let them get their way, they’ll only  be encouraged.

Don’t try to change them. It’s impossible to change someone’s entire being. Not  only that, but people usually get pretty indignant if they sense you are trying  to shape their character. Your only hope is deal with their behavior gracefully.
I have QUICKLY LEARNED to choose your mode of confrontation. Don’t lose your cool but be firm and  assertive. Let them know you won’t be pushed around, but don’t exasperate the  situation by fighting an unnecessary fight.

Don’t take things personally. Troublesome behavior is habitual. Difficult people  tend to be difficult to everyone BECAUSE THERE IS SOMETHING ABOUT THEMSELVES THAT THEY ARE UN – HAPPY ABOUT.

Whew…im done!