Parenting

A Mother’s Random-ness


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Just proud of my son – nothing major to blog about at this present moment besides I am just proud of him……. he is almost 12 and things could be so completely different.

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The world that we live in and what is displayed on the television does NOT depict him in any form or fashion. He has been a honor roll student since he was 6, plays 3 sports and 2 instruments and is trying to master 1 foreign language –
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He has great friends – great opportunities -and options for his life – He chooses to be respectful and love Christ – does he have a few not so good days? YES – does he sometimes find himself on punishment? YES does he have to clean and do chores around the house? YES –
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However, I am speaking as the average black male growing up in America being raised in a single parent household and having only a handful of male mentors in his life and none are related to him at all – he is indeed a great boy –
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I am thankful that God has allowed me “to borrow” my son and I pray that I am doing an amazing job in the eyes of The Lord – let my son tell it – everyday he shares with me that I am a good mother – but you never know if he is just trying to “warm me up” for something that he saw in the store! LOL

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Inspiration

Friday Thoughts –


imageNo one said it was going to be easy, the day you were born. Your mother never said that life would be a breeze and it will be clear sailing without any struggles, risks, or obstacles to overcome. Instead, you realized that things might not always go your way. Even as an infant, you got hungry, thirsty, bored, tired, sick, cold, hot, constipated, upset, startled, scared, confused, and frustrated by a myriad of circumstances you couldn’t possibly comprehend.

As you grew up, you began to understand how you could control certain elements of your environment, yet still suffered from all the troubles I just listed. Even as an adult, we are subjected to these same issues that invade our lives. It appears that life is, and shall stay, a struggle until the day we die. It’s how we cope and view these incidents that find our character and the quality of our existence.

It’s all about our attitude. With constant news reports about catastrophes striking every country in the world, how can we feel good about ourselves? There are starving people, natural disasters, political strife, warring nations, terrorism, pollution, health concerns, and over-crowding, both local and nationally. The news apparently is never good.

Add to that, daily confrontations with employers, store clerks, other drivers, and family members, you get the picture. You face a never-ending sea of bills, relationship challenges, and on-the-job dilemmas. Where will it end? Only at death, I’m afraid and some depressed individuals have already decided to end their lives sooner than later. But, for the rest of us that face these facts of daily life, what are our options?

We have to accept why we are on this planet in the first place. Assuming we have only one crack at a lifetime, we get to make the most out of it as possible. Through our own free will and perhaps some divine intervention, we control our fate. We can choose to allow the constant bombardment of negativity ruin our psyche, or ignore the obvious taunts and move forward with a good attitude. It’s takes a commitment and constant effort to overcome the flow of obstacles, but it can be done. It begins with the simple things.

Women's Stuff

Good Girlfriends –


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Have you ever asked yourself if you a good person, and do you push the act of empowering strength to other women? What do you bring to the table in a good girlfriend relationship? A great deal of women think that they are not able to find and maintain good girlfriends… but guess what,, YOU CAN!

We all have our specific qualities and in a friendship, we must to have something that benefits the other person if we are to be of value. What is it that you provide? Dependability? An ear to listen? Good advice? Positive feedback?

We have all had a friend or two that may have a few negative qualities but you try to love them through thier process. Do not ever jump into the gossip rut or complaining trap or do you empower and boost women and cheer them on?
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If you find you’re not a positive influence on your friends, you can easily develop some skills to be more so. Keep in mind, if you have negative friends and you become more positive, they may take a while to catch on to the new, more positive you or may choose to leave the friendship. However, when you even meet new friends is a blessing when the spirit of UNITY is there

Women who gain attention by always complaining are unlikely to warm up to a positive-minded person. After all, being positive means taking responsibility for your choices, situation and life and this is completely opposite of what negative people do.
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Five great qualities to bring to the friendship table:

Dependability – Dependability is underrated. If you are a dependable friend with personal boundaries, you are priceless. Without personal boundaries, many dependable friends get taken advantage of.
Respect – Respect is earned, not aged into. If you respect your friends and what they stand for and it is mutual, your bonds will be stronger and more long lasting than others.
Positive Feedback – A realistic positive outlook and encouragement are two of the most powerful things you can give a friend in crisis.
Alternate Perspective – Looking at a situation from a different perspective is crucial to making good decisions. Helping a friend to do this is admirable.
Honesty – Honesty is not synonymous with agreement. Tough love is sometimes necessary in friendships and is appreciated by true friends.

Dear ( ME )

MINISTRY – Note 2 Self….


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“Never underestimate the power of dreams and the influence of the human spirit. We are all the same in this notion: The potential for greatness lives within each of us.”

My LIFE is so bigger than “me”……. the things that I do…don’t do…the things that I say or even dont say etc…etc….

One reason why some of the ones that you have given to, poured into, helped and ministered to are not the same ones who are there for you now, is because  the were not your friends, but your assignment.

You can not build a relationship or set up a friendship in the “natural” off an assignment that is “spiritual.”