Dear ( ME )

Asking God For Things –


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I asked God to take my pain away. God said, No. It is not for me to take away,
but for you to give it up. I asked God to make my dying father better 5 years ago. God said, No. His spirit was whole, his body was only temporary.

I asked God to grant me patience. God said, No. Patience is a by-product of tribulations, it isn’t granted, it is earned. I asked God to give me happiness. God said, No. I give you blessings, Happiness is indeed up to you.

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 I asked God to spare me pain in regards to my my 11 year old’s father being an absentee father and 20 year old twin kids wordly actions. God said, No. Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me.

I asked God to make my spirit grow. God said, No. You must grow on your own,
but I will prune you to make you fruitful. I asked for all things that I might enjoy life. God said, No. I will give you life so that you may enjoy all things.
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I ask God to help me LOVE others, as much as he loves me. God said…….. Ahhhh, finally you have the idea!!!!

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Relationships

Hanging With My Bestie


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Welp, as usual……my momma needs / wants to run around and 5 stops will be the minimum! !!

She loves just being on the go and never really has a prime destination!.  Just getting out of the house to just rip and run…LOL

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I don’t mind running around with MY MOMMY because with her being a very young 73 years of agr, I better never complain right!!!

You would think the mall would be her firat or favorite place to atop…NO!!! It’s the regular grocery store folks!!! LOL

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Its sooooooooo weird because I’m telling the truth too!! Hower, I’m grateful that God allows her to continually wake up everyday….  it’s a blessing because we all know that a great deal of folk didn’t wake up today. .  But My Mommy did!

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Family

Family Laughter


Times like these make me appreciate the SIMPLE things of life…… Nothing major but just having fun and realizing that the BEST things in life are indeed FREE!

Being able to spend quality time is always priceless and it is something that seemingly cannot be made up for. You are either there or you are not there…… Pick your choices wisely and remember that time does not wait for anyone!……..

The moments that we share with my family are precious and I fight to forgive daily….. Relationships take so much work and things will transpire that may not be apart of our plans but time, pray and faith does wonders!!

My kids…..my kids…my kids are very special to me- even when they do not act right!! ( i guess ) LOL

 

Family

This could be……


I am assuming that this could be the beginning of something great

This could be the turn that that ignites PIECES of  my family together

This could be God showing me where things need to be re – evaluated

This could be setting the tone for the next phase in their lives

This could be allowing individuals to hear and love one another

This could be an opportunity to show forgiveness AGAIN

 

This could be a chance for my mother to finally exhale

This could be the answer to SOME of my mother’s prayers

This could be an amazing journey that the Lord had already prepared

This could be an epiphany of all parties involved to rediscover LIFE

This could be the real meaning of love at its finest hour >>God’s AGAPE

This could be laughter, healing & reconciliation all at the same time

Relationships

Hanging in The Heat!


I still managed to have fun in 99 degree heat today! LOL I kept telling the Lord that He can turn down the heat because I DO NOT NEED A SUN TAN on my skin – GEESH! I woke up feeling so wonderful that I scared myself! LOL …Sounds a tad bit weird I know but when so many NEGATIVE things have transpired over a time frame – genuine and non motive happiness from people at times can shock you!

When there is massive shopping, eating, laughing, fellowship, coupons, cook outs, swimming involved – so is FUN!

YES!! I spent waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much green currency today BUT oh my goodness, it was kind of worth it! LOL My pocket book may have been hollering like crazy but my heart was smiling brighter THAN THE SUN!!! So yeah, it was worth it all! Right when I feel like that there are no HONEST people left in the world… ( IM JOKING ) But for real……. it just feels so amazing to have great friens…

Parenting

Conversation To My 10 Yr Old Son


This is why you shouldnt complain that there is nothing in the refrigerator when in it fact – it stays FULL

This is why you shouldnt pout when I take you to Olive Garden instead of T.G.I. Friday’s

This is why you shouldnt be mad when you want Rita’s ice but I say no when we have a blender & slushy mix at home

This is why you shouldnt ask why we cant go to subway when I can just stop at the store and buy our own lunch meat

AT LEAST ……. >>.YOU<< have options because a lot of others do not!

Family

3 generations


3 Generations of Love, Laughter and Life!!!

Strong families communicate easily and well – frequently, openly, clearly and directly. They do a good deal of sharing of themselves – their feelings, hopes, dreams, fears, joys, sorrows, experiences, growth, and needs. Perhaps the most important communication skill is listening. Active listening is essential to effective family communication and is vital to hearing and being heard in the family unit. 

Strong families base their life style on what they can afford and can reasonably enjoy – on a concept of stewardship that stresses gratitude for what they have, not whining after what they do not have. Contentment is the state of being happy enough with what one has or is, not desiring something more or different. Contented families are steadfast and do not allow others to define for them what they have to be and have as a family.

Strong families have a need for connection to the past – they have a history and are affected by that history. Family history provides roots – a sense of belonging. Family history can be promoted by telling favorite family stories; teaching important events/activities to family members; keeping up with family members when they move away; going to family gatherings; communicating through letters, emails, video tapes, audio tapes etc.; making sure children know their family members; keeping family traditions alive; and remembering special family vacations or outings.

Welp, the Coleman Family surely LACKS IN THIS AREA!!! >>>>Families who have joy in their lives are more likely to feel good about themselves. It also seems fairly obvious that having a sense of humor helps families cope with life’s stressors and crises. Humor can ultimately be used as a coping tool for families. Humor is very beneficial in strengthening families. It gives families perspective and sense of power. Humor also dispels anger and aggression and relieves tension among family members. Families that learn to find humor even in some of the grim realities and emotion-packed challenges of daily life have an edge on peace of mind. Changes in this mind set take practice.

Family resiliency is the family’s ability to cultivate strengths to positively meet the challenges of life. Strong families help children learn resilient behavior when they teach problem-solving skills and provide non-critical support and sense of togetherness. The values and skills learned at home give individuals the power to shape their lives. Families that learn how to cope with challenges and meet individual needs are more resilient to stress and crisis. Strong families solve problems with cooperation, creative brainstorming, and openness to others.

High self-esteem, feeling good about oneself, makes it easier to meet the challenges of life. Families that believe in their ability to succeed are most often able to carry it out. Good self-esteem provides the basis for a strong family unit. Families that encourage and foster high self-esteem are able to accept some failure as normal and not let it keep them from trying again; able to cope with the day to day challenges or problems that come their way; and able to look toward their future with excitement and confidence while working toward fulfilling their goals. Families with high self-esteem are not likely to let others make their decisions for them or to influence them to do things they do not want to do.

Strong families recognize that there are benefits and pleasures to be gained from sharing time and activities together. They also realize that they have contributions to make to the family and its members and some obligation to do so. They value the family bond that makes efforts to preserve time together for family activities and interaction. Family unity encourages families to create daily routines as well as special traditions and celebrations, which affirm members, connect them to family roots, and add creativity and fun to ordinary events.

Values are a reflection of who we are, our culture and our own unique heritage. Being clear about our values enables and empowers us to establish priorities and make decisions that we can live with and by. What we learn from our families in childhood serves us throughout our lives. Families guide personal growth and education, while offering love and protection. When families are strong, our neighborhood is strong, and our nation is strong, and we can be more hopeful about the future. Values have an influence at every stage of making a choice. Values shape what we perceive. They influence our goals, the alternatives we select, and the ranking of these alternatives.

Strong families change their focus from what they have not done to what they can do; from what they do not have to what they do have; from where they have not been to where they can go; and from their weaknesses to their strengths. Optimism, or positive thinking, can help families feel hopeful during times of negative situations. They tell themselves “I can” rather than “I cannot.” They see the glass as “half full” rather than “half empty.”

 Families with a sense of spirituality carry a gratitude and sense of hope that recognizes even the little things of life as special events. However, spirituality of America’s families has diverse meaning, extended beyond as well as among family members. The spirit that transcends “self” is seen in many forms. Spirituality provides a way to deal with successes and also failures, especially in family relationships.