Helping Self...

Makes Me FEEL Better…..


 

When Im stressed out just a tad and I NEED a little pick me up – this song / group / bands makes my heart SMILE…..

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Parenting

Mother + Son = Coolness!


Mothers and Sons……have a really special type of relationship and it is imperative that it is groomed and molded correctly. I teach my son so many things and allow him to discover things about himself, God and even how he interacts with me. I give him space to learn and to grow…..and I GLOW in the fact that he always asks questions about EVERYTHING.

It takes one woman twenty years to make a man of her son – and another woman twenty minutes to make a fool of him….that sounds harsh but it is the truth! However, I think that via raising a son……. A son is a son till he takes him a wife, a daughter is a daughter all of her life. Maybe it is a woman / female bond that never goes away and women just make a priority.

He who can be a good son will be a good father so that why it is imperative that we make sure as a mother we POUR INTO OUR SONS as much positivity as possible. We also have to be LIVING examples and remember that their first few girlfriends they may compare to us – so “watch” who they bring home! LOL

My son talks about getting married and having 4 kids! He says that he wants his wife to be and act like me but he wants her to be white! I giggled to myself and THEN asked him if color matters to him? He said no mom…. but when I am at school or out, more black girls act ghetto more than white girls….

I said ok.. I can see your point in that and you do not want that type of girlfriend when you get older BUT what if when you get older – you see black girls acting like nice ladies? He said maybe I may change my mind but I just want them to act like you.

I HAVE TO BE HONEST…………….. for a moment that had me worried… I do not raise or want “no momma’s boys” but I do want my son to respect me..honor me…. listen to my opinions and sometimes take my advice because he trust what I am saying to him.

EVENTUALLY as we look back on how we raise our kids…….

Your son at five is your master, at ten your slave, at fifteen your double, and after that, your friend or your foe, depending on his bringing up!! LOL Little joke but it has humor AND truth to it… My son is 10 right now and I rip and run EVERYWHERE with and for that boy. I put my events around his schedule!!! So does that mean I am his slave?…no but I am choosing to just put him first.  Giving your son a SET OF skills in life  is better than giving him money, fame and power…

I am just very grateful that we talk about any and everything – even when it makes me CRINGE! I thank God for the genuine, honest, loving, Christian, caring, nurturing- open relationship.

Dear ( ME )

fingers that speak!


I really wish that I did not QUIT playing the guitar when I was in middle school because music has the ability to bring life to a lot of dead situations. From elementary school, to middle school to high school, I have played a few instruments but did not stick with none of them and it still bothers me to this day!

That is why I stay on my son via his dedication and hard work with sticking with things that interest him. He has played the drums, the tenor saxophone and the piano and has enjoyed them all. Having the ability to USE YOUR FINGERS to make a sound that can make a person feel better, nod their heads, think about love, pray, sing etc is an amazing thing!!!