Today’s Wednesday Babble


  • Just because someone says they don’t like something about you doesn’t mean it’s bad or you need to change it. Depending on what it is; often it’s a matter of preference.
  • Don’t feel the need to do something spectacular or out of the ordinary to be an individual, all you need to show is who YOU are inside.
  • Change is a constant. So changing who you are over time is inevitable, and is always likely to be a good thing if you’ve stayed informed, relevant, and clued in to the world around you and have allowed your personal development to be a top priority in your life.
  • Even if your friends seem different, don’t hold back. Be yourself and if they don’t accept you they aren’t your real friends.
  • If you need to be yourself, do what your heart tells you to do, say what you feel deep inside.If people bully you, you don’t have to bully them back, just turn around and ignore them. Do what you want to do now it doesn’t mean that you should go insane.Be sane and always put a smile on your face.
  • Striving to be something you’re not can be unhealthy when it involves improving academic, sport, and social interactions skills. It can be highly harmful when you’re striving to “be like” someone else just to have their popularity, appearance, and attitudes rub off on you. Keep unique by keeping your perspective focused on building your strengths through the inspiration of others, not through becoming like them.
  • Fads and trends are a personal decision. While some people avoid them like the plague in the name of “individualism”, it doesn’t mean you’re not being yourself when you choose to follow a trend. It’s all about what you want.
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Marriage Talk


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I have a great deal of friends who are happily AND unhappily married!!! However, we indeed have LASTING CONVERSATIONS and just talk for hours at a time – NO – I am not married but I used to be…….and knowing God, hearing God, knowing what you want and how things should be is a good START for any conversational piece…..

We have to stop asking of marriage what God never designed it to give — perfect happiness, conflict-free living, and idolatrous obsession.

Instead, we should be able to appreciate what God designed marriage to provide: partnership, spiritual intimacy and the ability to pursue God — together. So, what do you think is the most common misconception Christians have about marriage?
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“Finding a ‘soul mate’ — someone who will complete us,” he says. “The problem with looking to another human to complete us is that, spiritually speaking, it’s idolatry. We are to find our fulfillment and purpose in God . . . and if we expect our spouse to be ‘God’ to us, he or she will fail every day. No person can live up to such expectations.”

Everyone has bad days, yells at his or her spouse, or is downright selfish. Despite these imperfections, God created the husband and wife to steer each other in His direction.

When your wife or husband forgives you . . . and accepts you, you SHOULD learn to receive God’s forgiveness and acceptance as well. In that moment, THEY ARE MODELING God , revealing God’s mercy and helping YOU to see with your own eyes a very real spiritual reality. That AGAPE love that Christ himself wants us to exhibit!

While it’s easy to see why God designed an other-centered union for a me-centered world, living that way is a challenge. So when bills pile up, communication breaks down and you’re just plain irritated with your husband or wife,  These reminders to help ease the tension:

  • God created marriage as a loyal partnership between one man and one woman.
  • Marriage is the firmest foundation for building a family.
  • God designed sexual expression to help married couples build intimacy.
  • Marriage mirrors God’s covenant relationship with His people.

Cried All Afternoon


Okay – I am OVER my venting rampage that I went through earlier today – BUT my morning and afternoon was just a big ball of emotion…… Being a Drug and Alcohol Case Manager allows me to meet and connect with a diverse group of people… I teach them things BUT I also learn from them too!
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Over the last 3 years I have stayed in consistent contact with only two clients- Jamie and Deanna. In social services, you are taught / trained not to have any connections but it is hard NOT TO CARE when you genuinely care.
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Nonetheless, these two women are no longer a part of the program that I work in so at “this point” it is alright.. Furthermore, these two women specifically were God Chosen and not Valarie Chosen and how our relationship has been is great.
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Nonetheless, my Jamie ( Jamester ) is what I affectionately call her always like for me to meet her friends because she considers me like her spiritual counselor, friend and big sister. Its an honor and we all get together and talk about LIFE and of course the things of CHRIST……. I believe that REAL MINISTRY is outside of the 4 – 8 walls of the church!
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Well this is where this PARTICULAR story gets good then great then bad……. Okay I met a young girl named Nicole but her nick name is SUNSHINE……. We talked about God and his purpose and this girl was ON FIRE FOR GOD ..Do you hear me!!! I mean we started preaching to each other and praying then prophesying and everything..

I told her AT THAT VERY MOMENT that God has connected us and although she is Jesus Follower, she is supposed to come to church with me and IMMEDIATELY she said I would LOVE TO and we planned to meet on Sunday morning at 830 am. I met her on a Friday and we were going to church that Sunday – We had such an amazing Spiritual Connection…it was sooo REFRESHING…. and God was in every aspect of our converstaions…..

Jamie called me and text me saying to call her that it was an emergency… I was praying that she was not in the process of relapsing back on drugs…. So I prayed as I was getting dressed to leave the house to start my full day of running around….. I said to myself.. CALL HER LATER ….she calls you all the time and you guys talk all the time…. God said dont answer the phone but call her back WHEN I GET IN THE CAR……. I  am saying…ok Lord….

I finally call Jamester back and she advises me that SUNSHINE DIED LAST NIGHT IN A CAR ACCIDENT!!

This is her below in the photo…..Nicole Albright 22 Years Old a.k.a. Sunshine

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We first met and took this photo  11 – 29 – 2013

I took her to church 12 – 1 – 2013

She died in car accident 12-8-2013

Links to her story.. Please keep her family lifted in prayer …God Bless

http://www.wpxi.com/news/news/local/1-killed-child-hurt-rollover-accident-bigelow-blvd/ncFt8/

http://www.post-gazette.com/local/breaking/2013/12/09/Victim-identified-in-Bigelow-Boulevard-crash/stories/201312090142

http://pittsburgh.cbslocal.com/2013/12/09/woman-killed-child-injured-in-hill-district-crash/

Nelson Mandela –


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Listen, I am soooo saddened to hear about the passing of Africa’s FATHER – Black men and Black women’s HUMAN HERO ……….. one of my childhood…… pre – teen…..teen and adult hero……The one and ONLY – Mr. Nelson Mandela – I just heard that he passed 30 minutes ago and I am REALLY bothered…. I have been praying for him and screamed when I found out – My son Jared came running and asked me what was the matter  –

I said baby Nelson Mandela passed – he said what mom…for real… I said do you know who he is / who he was? He said yes mom, you told me about him several times like you do about other black leaders….. That made me feel so good that he not only remembered who this great man was ….but Jared also KNEW that with this man dying that it meant something for black men and women around the world……..  My heart really is hurt…. It makes me also think of my father because it indeed was the late Mr. Norris Coleman who taught me ALL about important political leaders…….

 

My Mental Massage


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Just because Thanksgiving Day has passed, there’s no reason to stop being grateful……..

Something that has brought a positive change in my life recently has been the practice of turning negative statements around and finding something in the circumstance for which to be grateful.

“I am thankful for my 11 year old – PRE -teen-ager who complained about doing dishes BEFORE he left to go with his dad, because that means he is at home, not out on the streets somewhere.

“I am thankful for the taxes that I pay, because it means that I’m employed. “I am thankful for the mess I have to clean up at my house, because it means I’m more fortunate than thousands of people around the world. I have a home.
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“I am thankful for the clothes that fit a little too snugly, because it means I have plenty to eat. “I’m thankful for my shadow that watches me work, because it means I’m outside in the sunshine. “I am thankful for my mother’s house SMELLING HORRIBLE of cooking gizzards..chitlings etc… because that means that she is STILL ALIVE to drive me insane of eating these nasty things and making my clothes stink” LOL
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“I’m thankful for my oldest son who is in college being moody over the last few weeks but he makes me smile everytime he CHOOSES to text and call me. Also for my daughter being even MORE moodier but smiles when she emails me.

“I’m thankful for all the complaining about government and politics, because it reminds me I live in a country that allows me freedom of speech. “I’m thankful for the parking spot I found all the way at the end of the lot, because it means I have the strength and ability to walk the distance.

“I’m thankful for my heating bill, because it means I am warm. “I’m thankful for the lady behind me in church who sings off-key, because it means I am blessed with the gift of hearing. “I’m thankful for the pile of laundry that reminds me that I — and my family — have plenty of clothes to wear.

“I’m thankful for weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day, because it means I’m capable of working hard and making a contribution to the lives of others. “I’m thankful each day when the alarm goes off, and I hear it, because it means I’m still alive. There is still time to serve God and others. There are still opportunities to make a difference.

“Each day is a gift. Each burden holds a blessing, and every moment of life offers an opportunity that will come only once in a lifetime.

“I am thankful — just because — I am.”

Dave and Busters


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I swear this restaurant is such a family atmosphere BUT I’m not too keen on the overall experience there…….
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Besides “the game playing area”…..    it feels like an overly fast paced restaurant that wants to get as many people IN ….just as much as they want to get the people OUT.
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Every time I’m at this place I feel like I’m a part of a herd of CATTLE…. Eat…talk then hirry and get to the play area because we need this table!!!
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Round 2 Same Day


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Okay!!! Just got back to the hospital hospital again…. I wrote and posted this but forgot to hit upload! !!

Welp…  from not sleeping at all yet..I’m feeling just a little great right now… LIFE is such a beautiful thing when ALL hell seems to break loose BUT YOU STILL have what is most  important to YOU! !!!
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Well, my Mother indeed is it…the most important thing to ME. .. (So serious) and as she slept…..sooo peacefully!! Then cracked open one eye making sure we was STILL there was hilariously funny BUT also made it hard to leave!!!!
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So we acted silly (silently) until we knew she was OUT for the count!!!

Thanking God…..AGAIN