I love my babies and raising sons and daughters can be a bit different and challenging but it also depends on the parenting styles as well. Indeed these two boys in the photo are related by blood and love one another but my goodness does the trail of traits differ in over a hundred ways!
I have been in an uphill battle for a few years with my NOW 18 year old son….. love him to NO END but when BOTH parents do not share the same morals, values, ethics, stances and beliefs you are in for some very disheartening things ahead… My 18 year old is growing up and there are some roots that I would just LOVE to dig up and pluck out… the way that some of his branches in life has grown has turned into weeds…. and we know that weeds have the potential and HIGH CAPABILITY to kill the rest of what has been planted….it can disrupt the whole garden and appearace wise…..can make it look SOOOO UGLY when indeed it really is SOOOO BEAUTIFUL but the weeds have just taken over….
So prayer, faith and patience is what I have been “banking on….. depending on”….. to remind my baby that he is a beautiful garden… peer pressure are weeds…. both parents not co parenting are weeds… not having a true and solid ( not surface ) relationship with Christ in your life is weeds……
So the Holy Spirit is indeed MY PERSONAL WEED WACKER…… so I will wait patiently for the gardne to “bloom again”…
My 18 year old has soo many qualities of me but do not ACT OUT those positive qualities these days….. talk about seeing your OWN SEED living out and showing displays of charactherisitics that is NOT of him and God…… Really praying that my handsome, smart, loving son will one day see the BIG PICTURE and not settle for the few colors of paint that represent the picture!
He is a Kingdom son, young man and future Kingdom man…… just wish that he could see what I see… and know what I know…..
I dont want to make my son’s life easy….but I would like to make my son’s life pleasing to the Lord… inspirational, productive and a host of other things that will, can and should benefit him for the LONG HAUL.
My 18 year old was like my 9 1/2 year old were the exact same way when at that time in his life. I just believe God to do all that He has promised me pertaining to my 9 year old as well as my 18 year old twins. It is a cold cold world out here and it is my desire to protect them…. However, you cant force anything on anybody… Peer pressure is an UGLY THING and has damaged so many kids lives and when they turn into adults….the seeds and behaviors have already taken root >>> unfortunately.
However, the baby out of the bunch…the 9 1/2 year old…. I have almost blogged, taken a photo and documented about his every move it seems! LOL…. Having twins then just having 1 child at a time was different but just as fun as well…. Honestly, I felt that it was soo easy that I could not ever understand when I heard people complain about how hard it was only having 1 child. I am not talking about the financial part of raising the child, I mean more so just spending time with the child, being emotionally available with the child, teaching the child, loving the child and being soley RESPONSIBLE to the child…
MY CHILD.. I have shown and documented how AMAZING my 9 year old is….. he indeed is not a perfect child… but as a parent, we all would want something at least close to perfect right? Well here he is…. front and center!
Of course I am NOT silly enough to think that in the future that I wont have any trials and tribulations with my 9 year old.. BUT.. I will enjoy what I can while I can and will certainly CONTINUE raising him IN CHRIST………..
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