Bday and Valentines LOVE


I could NOT have been blessed with a more amazing Valentine’s Day….. Yes, I hung out with friends, girl pals and even some family.. but this SPECIAL PERSON had really placed a smile on my face….
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My son is indeed the APPLE of my eye!! Mom, women aren’t supposed to pump gas and other things if a MAN is around! I am thanking God for allowing me to have 2 parents that showed me the things of life…. because I surely passed them down. My daddy, RIP ( Norris Coleman) especially showed me what men are to do AND not to do –

Son: Mom tell me what you want from me and I will buy it or do it

Me: Aww baby, you are already doing it – being a good Christian boy and I thank God 4 you

Son: Thanks mom but for real, I want to take care of you

Me: GIGGLE… Jared my love – you have been ever since you were in my stomach!!

Son: Well Here Mom, here is a start……
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Me: I’m crying because he spent his piggy bank money on me to show me he loves his mommy!

Dear Lord, thank you for true Godly inheritance….

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A Mother’s Random-ness


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Just proud of my son – nothing major to blog about at this present moment besides I am just proud of him……. he is almost 12 and things could be so completely different.

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The world that we live in and what is displayed on the television does NOT depict him in any form or fashion. He has been a honor roll student since he was 6, plays 3 sports and 2 instruments and is trying to master 1 foreign language –
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He has great friends – great opportunities -and options for his life – He chooses to be respectful and love Christ – does he have a few not so good days? YES – does he sometimes find himself on punishment? YES does he have to clean and do chores around the house? YES –
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However, I am speaking as the average black male growing up in America being raised in a single parent household and having only a handful of male mentors in his life and none are related to him at all – he is indeed a great boy –
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I am thankful that God has allowed me “to borrow” my son and I pray that I am doing an amazing job in the eyes of The Lord – let my son tell it – everyday he shares with me that I am a good mother – but you never know if he is just trying to “warm me up” for something that he saw in the store! LOL

Letting Go Daily –


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I am learning that as my son is getting OLDER …… I have to let him go day by day via treating him like he will NEVER leave the house!  Only a few more years left and I will be saying >>> SEE YA LATER BUDDY BOY!! ( hiding my tears )

The toughest thing about being a parent (or a teacher) is learning when NOT to be one. You don’t have to take my word for it, just ask Marlon. (The mivie Finding Nemo ) His wife was brutally attacked and killed by a man-eating barracuda, thrusting him into the role of a “single dad.” Now we know that in AMERICA there are more single mothers than single fathers. Not discounting single dads at all but ……….. ( LOL )

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Although only an animation film, “Finding Nemo” portrays the real life struggles many parents face in “letting go of their children.” I have to say that I have been doing great though….. He has been finding new things to do with his life and his SELF lately…just look at this CRAZY hair cut that HE WANTED!! Inside I was screaming like, baby this isn’t you, is it?

As in real life, most parents (and children) don’t see the potential dangers of a parent being overprotective. And it’s easy to understand why many parents would respond the way Marlon did. Growing up in an inner city ghetto myself, there were many barracudas waiting to devour me.

Like most children, Nemo became very upset with his “loving” father’s obsession with protecting him from unforeseen danger. During one heated exchanged, Nemo uttered the phrase that strikes fear in the heart of every parent, “I hate you.” As a result of his father’s controlling behavior, Nemo intentionally rebels against his father and is consequently “fish-napped” by a diver.
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I am letting my son go DAILY…… Keep him grounded in Godly principles and heavily involved and push him even at times when I know that pushing him / teaching him to do MORE will allow him to depend on me LESS. That is a good thing but the love of a mother is something ferocious!  My son calls me MOMMA BEAR because when someone bothers him – a whole NEW PERSON “comes over me”….. LOL I get into a mode that I will crush anything in my when it comes to protecting my son…. ( in a diplomatic and lady like way of course – lol )
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I am proud of myself…for “choosing” to start MY PROCESS of letting go daily while he is young. As a parent, you cannot start trying to cope that your child is going to be moving out of the house when they are GRADUATING HIGH SCHOOL! You do know that is WAY too late right? LOL

My Baby’s Tastebuds….


I have to admit that some days his after school snacks are a break between healthy and unhealthy…… I hate to say unhealthy because he does have a variety of all of the food groups….. We are ALWAYS RIPPING AND RUNNING with his activities and cooking at home is ummmm….. like a 2 day a weekk thing! This boy has something to do EVERYDAY of the week literally…..

I do know that we are cutting out the bread…. well at least he can have bread twice a week but that is it…. He eats tons of fruit…. tons of Gatorade… tons of SPECIAL K Products and even a great deal of protein bars….. However, Wish I had the money to just build a chain of gyms for kids….I know that I would make a killing because at least 85 percent of kids in AMERICA is overweight – INCLUDING MINE!

Crazy thing is that he is in shape like he weighed like a skinny kid….

From martial arts…. he is alright… From soccer..he is alright… From baseball…he is alright… From basketball…he is alright..

I should have went ahead and signed him up for swimming – I know that would have SERIOUSLY helped us both shed some pounds….

Just even THINKING about putting this boy in another activity gives me a panic attack! LOL – It is just plumb exhausting and in a minute… His part time nanny will become his mother because I am tired!

It isnt too late but who wants to pay $300.00 for yet ANOTHER ACTIVITY! I already have to buy another instrument for this kid….. I tell him that he costs too much and needs to get a job… His reply is mom I did ask you to work but you said that I am too youn! UGGHH….. ” HUSH IT BOY ”

Friday Night Arena Football


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Im having a ball and my son Jared is out of control…lol he is having sooooo much fun he is drunk with the giggles!

It is a blessing to be able to expose my son to various things… He is 9 1/2 and has been apart of some amazing things in his life.

Thank you GOD!

Wooo Sighing at 6:30 am!


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Like really…. Like for real…. Like again JARED!!

Okay im sure that i am like number 12,234,767 via moms who want to strangle their kids for acting up and acting out at school!

 

ACTING UP – deliberating doing things, knit picking etc.

ACTING OUT – doing things because they do not know how to express how they are feeling inside etc.

umm.. at this point I need a psychological term for a kid WHO DOES BOTH!! I mean 630 am I am chatting with his teacher at school when I dropped him off then I think that I flipped out for like AN AMAZINGLY GOOD – SO NEEDED – SO WORTH IT 90 seconds!!!!

It felt good but then to chastize your kid for things that he already knows NOT TO DO…. ummm can be just a tad bit annoying…irritating and i was sooo over it!!

Then the more I kept telling him to practice sharing his feelings and it is okay for boys/ men to express themselves I DONT CARE WHAT YOU MAY HAVE HEARD but it is healthy!

After him crying, the teaching showing her frustration, me twirling my hair to keep my hands from choking my son and me saying the word prayer about 15 times…..

By the end of the little 630 to 650 meeting – Jared was HAPPY – the teacher was glad that we had ANOTHER talk – and I felt that we made some progress.

( LORD PLEASE HELP )

Okay Jared’s issues are – misses his 18 1/2 yr old siblings – does not have arelationship with the man who’s name is on his birth certifate and who the Webster’s Dictionary would call father – and his misses his grandfather – the one who he considered as his father.

So it is ALL centered around RELATIONSHIPS!  UGGGHH – this too shall pass! We have been down this road before and God AS USUAL will help Jared once again!

Okay – woo -sighing for ” TODAY” is officially done!

Thanking GOD for direction, love and progress!

#TEAMJARED

bad but GOOD Mom!#@


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Okay I was so so minding my business in Petco or wait was I in Petland? I forget but I just needed some new fish because I dont have time to see about them so they keep dying!

Okay can I blame my almost 10 year old son as well for not taking care of HIS little fishys????

Okay look.’neither one of us have time to even remember to feed ourselves let alone the poor fish!

Seriously im ashamed to even say how many trips I have to take a week to buy new fish….my son woukd not be too happy with me if he knew how GOOD I have become in switching all of his fish!

If he evee found out I just may give him the big ole Psychology treatment by saying that if he wasnt involved in soccee, church activities, basketball, music class and indoor baseball clinics that I could remember to take care of all of his fish!! (im so so wrong, I know)…… Lol

Trust me I feel so horrible…… Well I figure as long as the pet store never runs out of these same 5 fish …im in the #CLEAR!