Helping Self...



My God shall supply all of our needs even when a man is foolish and devours what he has. We always want things but we must learn to be content with what we have before God can trust us with the bigger things in life.

The problem is not having nice things though, the problem is when those nice things have us. So be a good farmer and don’t eat your seed meant for your harvest. Remember If it is not your season then don’t get out of your timing, listen to the Spirit of God and His principles and stop trying to be like the Jones when you don’t even know them!.

One thing for sure is If you make enough errors in God, you’ll learn. But If we’re going to be blessed in our homes we must be rich toward the house of God. In closing the quickest way to be cursed is to not pay your tithes.

When you don’t pay your tithes it’s the same as riding in a stolen car cause you didn’t pay for that blessing. Have some accountability! (LOL -amen shdonna)


Examples ……

Do you set a good example for others?  Are you proud of your words and actions?  As Albert Einstein accurately observed, setting a good example is the only means of influencing another person.  A major cause of stress is trying to change someone.  It’s hard enough to change yourself.  It’s virtually impossible to change someone else.

Setting a good example isn’t an attempt to change someone.  Rather, it’s showing by your words and deeds what is possible.  Some people will pick up on your example while others won’t.  You have no control over how other people act.

Regardless of how others see it, setting a good example always works to your benefit.  Besides the possibility of influencing others, you attract positive people and situations by your positive actions.

Start setting a good example by always being courteous and polite to all those you come into contact with.  Have respect for and show kindness to others.  Even if you are treated poorly, resist the temptation to react in kind.  I have seen this approach bring a smile to even the surliest individuals.

Have your life shine as an example to others.  You don’t have to be perfect but you should always be striving to improve.  Regardless of your past, you can direct your future in any direction you chose.



Teacher – Nanny – Friend – Sister

It is amazing how many titles one person can become in a matter of two years!!! Oh how I love and adore her!! She is such an amzing person!!

She moved away last year and it was all of a sudden and I was of course sad and my son felt super bummed about it! However, lo and behold I found out that she temporarily moved back to the area for at least another 6 months or so – been here since this past Saturday and contacted me today! Yeah I choked her for just now getting in contact with me! But wait…. it has ONLY been 4 days! LOL Plus she is a newlywed so I have to remember my old school values and respect her schedule with her new hubby… BUT SHE MY FRIEND and I missed her! LOL

It is easy to get wrapped up in our own wounds, our own feelings of ambivalence and our fears of feeling alone in the world. After all, a love that remains unexpressed is a love that nobody knows about.  Women are KNOWN to be catty…..sneaky and of course unreliable but that is not everyone ya know!

It is not until someone finds the courage to share their feelings and open up and have a genuine sisterly relationship that they are then blessed with the knowledge that they, too, are worthy of the love they are giving.

My son OF COURSE…….. was soo elated to see her and hang out this evening! He has a crush and just cant stop grinning! LOL It is a major blessing having great friends and when your kids love them and they return love your kids ” AS IF THEY ARE THEIRS “… is amazing!

Okay before we departed…. I HAD TO GO and find a blessing for myself……. I did and look what I found! SOOO HOTT!!!


A Pass –

Wouldn’t it be incredible if we as a human race could drop our defenses for just one day, and be completely expressive without fear? We would have the capacity to just tell people the honest meaning they carry in our lives, the effect they have on us, and the course we would like to see the relationship grow even when we are already in the relationship. Omission of expression is nearly the same thing as taking one for granted. Nobody dies with the regret of telling someone too often how much they cared, but people die everyday with their hearts still wounded from a love they never truly expressed.


Children, spouses, and the people in our life that we truly love need daily reminders of the fact that they are loveable. After all, the world can leave such horrific dents on our outer layers, and we can easily get caught in living within those layers. It’s cold out there.

It’s painful out there. People are rude out there and often even a stranger can sting us with our own vulnerable fears and hang ups. What keeps us going in times of self doubt, fear, pain, and anguish is not just the hope of love, but the knowledge of love.

There is truly no underestimating the importance of saying, “I love you.” Those three little words are, in the author’s opinion one half of the most important sentence in the world, “I love you, accept you, and how can I help you.”

The term love implies both acceptance and the willingness to place someone’s needs ahead of our own. The term love implies more than a simple selfish passing moment, but a deep understanding of who someone is, and the knowledge that they are good enough without their perfections we are so often seeking. Without love and acceptance, what really do we have from each other?

Money, power, prestige, and fame can never buy the same feeling that your heart gets the first time the love of your life confesses their feelings. That wonderful little flutter in the tummy is irreplaceable, and who would want to replace it? It lets you know you’re alive.

While there is no valid argument to deter the notion that to love someone is to risk losing someone, there is a valid argument against using that as an excuse. It is easy to hide, but not very fulfilling. Loving openly and honestly and taking the risk that someone precious and dear to us might not be in our lives one day is part of the risk of daring to live fully. A heart that hasn’t broken can’t grow. A heart that hasn’t loved grows cold. And a heart that lives in fear shrinks with time.

Loving someone, and telling them often, is a gift. And not just to the recipient of your love, but to yourself as well. When you truly love someone and find the courage to express it well and express it often, you are giving more of a gift to yourself than anyone.

You are claiming your will and right to live fully and completely and to bask in life’s joys just as quickly as you are able and willing to hurt from life’s pain. Why live the one sided coin lifestyle. You’re destined to feel pain no matter how hard you try to close off your heart. As humans, we are simply not designed that way. We are social creatures, put on this planet to nurture each other. Living alone without recognized love is just as painful, if not more so, than living with love and losing it.

Never underestimate the importance of saying, “I love you.”  With a deep breath and a leap of faith, close your eyes, whisper the words and you can be sure when you open them again your life will have changed for the better.


Practical Thoughts

As Christian parents, following God through His Word, we learn, “In all thy  ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths (Proverbs 3:6).” But what  does this mean to us? How can we make this practical in helping our children  through their schooling over which we have been given stewardship? It is a  curious word, this word “acknowledge.”


It means “to know,” “to learn to know,”  “to perceive,” “to see,” “to find out,” “to discern,” “to distinguish,” “to know  by experience,” “to recognize,” “to admit,” “to confess,” “to consider,” “to be  acquainted in or with,” “to have know-how in or be skillful in,” “to have  knowledge of or be wise of,” “to be instructed in,” “to be known in,” “to make  known or declare,” or “to make oneself known or to reveal oneself in.”


Now if we go back to this Proverbs 3:6 passage and re-read it by placing any  or each of these definitions (to learn to know, to perceive, to see, etc.) where  we read the term “acknowledge,” we can readily see the fuller meaning of this  passage. We will do this  shortly.


The one thing that every Christian comes to the point of asking God, when  they come to the point of wanting to do His will above their own, is, “What do  you have planned for my life?” We are practical and searching people. We are  taught, in this world, to make plans and set goals. We also pass this teaching  on to our children. But, even if the plans we make are successful for a time,  they are always doomed to eventual failure when they are different from those  plans God has for us. This is true for the rocket scientist as well as for you  and me. You probably are saying, “Great! How are we supposed to know what God  has planned for us?” Proverb 3:6 and other verses in scripture reveals the  answer to this question for us.


The major reason why “our ways” often do not match “His ways” is actually  comprised of a couple reasons. One reason is that there is sin in the world and  in us that causes us not to think correctly and that only leads us down wrong  paths in life (Prov.14:12; 16:25). Psalm 48:14 tells us that “…for ever and  ever: [God] will be our guide even unto death.” Another reason is that our  understanding is so limited. God takes His position of supreme  knowledge of all things, which is more knowledge than we can have at any time or  level of our education (Isaiah 55:9).




Remember that DIVERSITY is an open doorway of opportunity to find things out about LIFE.

I am a follower of Jesus Christ but WISDOM allows me to also gather some truth and understanding in other ways as well. Even a sinner can help show you things about yourself that you seemed to not have been able to gain from the most popular Christian Pastor in the world!

So with that being said… this statement is VERY TRUE and it was supposedly quoted from a religion that I DO NOT FOLLOW!

However, that is not the most important thing because the message “is still very true”…… we have to learn to take what WE NEED and let the rest of the message just “simply dissolve” if it is not for us! Got it? Get it? Good!


Blacks, Republicans and President Ronald Reagan

The good that Reagan did for black America

I am IN NO WAY a President Ronald Reagan ” fan “… however he is the one who signed the bill into legislation that ( most ) African Americans celebrate and the rest of America enjoys their “day off ” from work. January 16th is a day that if you are in America, “you get something” out of it.

But the reality is, the 1980s, with a conservative, free-market Republican in the White House, were a boom time for black America.

Indeed, Andrew Brimmer, the Harvard-trained black economist, the former Federal Reserve Board member, estimated that total black business receipts increased from $12.4 billion in 1982 to $18.1 billion in 1987, translating into an annual average growth rate of 7.9 percent (compared to 5 percent for all U.S. businesses.

The success of the black entrepreneurial class during the Reagan era was rivaled only by the gains of the black middle class.

In fact, black social scientist Bart Landry estimated that that upwardly mobile cohort grew by a third under Reagan’s watch, from 3.6 million in 1980 to 4.8 million in 1988. His definition was based on employment in white-collar jobs as well as on income levels.

All told, the middle class constituted more than 40 percent of black households by the end of Reagan’s presidency, which was larger than the size of black working class, or the black poor.

The impressive growth of the black middle class during the 1980s was attributable in no small part to the explosive growth of jobs under Reagan, which benefited blacks disproportionately.

Indeed, between 1982 and 1988, total black employment increased by 2 million, a staggering sum. That meant that blacks gained 15 percent of the new jobs created during that span, while accounting for only 11 percent of the working-age population.

Meanwhile, the black jobless rate was cut by almost half between 1982 and 1988. Over the same span, the black employment rate – the percentage of working-age persons holding jobs – increased to record levels, from 49 percent to 56 percent.

The black executive ranks especially prospered under Reagan. The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission reported that the number of black managers and officers in corporations with 100 or more employees increased by 30 percent between 1980 and 1985.

During the same period, the number of black professionals increased by an astounding 63 percent.

The burgeoning of the black professional, managerial and executive ranks during the 1980s coincided with a steady growth of the black student population at the nation’s colleges and universities in the 1980s.

Even though the number of college-aged blacks decreased during much of the decade, black college enrollment increased by 100,000 between 1980 and 1987, according to the Census Bureau.

Meanwhile, the 1980s saw an improvement in the black high school graduation rate, as the proportion of blacks 18 to 24 years old earning high school diplomas increased from 69.7 percent in 1980 to 76 percent by 1987.

On balance, then, the majority of black Americans made considerable progress in the 1980s.

More of us stayed in high school, graduated and went on to college. More of us were working than ever before, in better jobs and for higher wages.

The black middle class burgeoned to unprecedented size, emerging as the dominant income group in black America. And black business flourished, creating wealth in the black community.

But “THIS ONE TIME”, the credit goes to Ronald Reagan, who initiated the policies that fostered the economic growth and job creation of the 1980s, which produced the prosperity that most black Americans enjoyed.