Encouraging Myself –


It is fascinating to hear stories of people who have survived tragic events.  Someone makes it out alive of a landslide. Someone survives a crash. Someone survives after days at sea.  We are never promised to come out alive, but we can know survival in our hearts if we trust Jesus. There is spiritual survival for the believer. How can we survive in the storms of life?

The disciples were told to go over to the other side in Mark 4:35. Jesus was with them in the ship. They did not know, but their survival was due to the fact of the presence of Jesus in their vessel. How can we  experience peace in the storms? The answer is simple, we must have Jesus on board.

Many people are uncomfortable with Jesus in their ship.  Many people want to run their own ship. They don’t want to answer to the Captain, they don’t want to take orders, they want to be at the helm and chart their own course. SURVIVAL……HOW CAN WE SURVIVE in the year 2013?

How can we endure through the storms of this up-coming new year of 2014?  How can we survive the temptations to quit our faith?  How can we survive the pressures of everyday life?  How can we survive family members in disarray? How can we survive in a stormy marriage?  How can we survive criticism?  How can we survive the bad news we will get this year?   If YOU ARE  hoping to go through life without pressure, without criticism, without temptations, without bad news, without tragedy, then you are living on FANTASY ISLAND.

TO SURVIVE…..WE MUST KNOW THAT JESUS IS ON BOARD OUR SHIP. I hope every person has ask Jesus to be the captain of their lives. There are numerous ADVANTAGES OF HAVING JESUS ON BOARD!!!!

WE HAVE PURPOSE.   In Jesus, I know why I’m here!


Letting Go Daily –


I am learning that as my son is getting OLDER …… I have to let him go day by day via treating him like he will NEVER leave the house!  Only a few more years left and I will be saying >>> SEE YA LATER BUDDY BOY!! ( hiding my tears )

The toughest thing about being a parent (or a teacher) is learning when NOT to be one. You don’t have to take my word for it, just ask Marlon. (The mivie Finding Nemo ) His wife was brutally attacked and killed by a man-eating barracuda, thrusting him into the role of a “single dad.” Now we know that in AMERICA there are more single mothers than single fathers. Not discounting single dads at all but ……….. ( LOL )


Although only an animation film, “Finding Nemo” portrays the real life struggles many parents face in “letting go of their children.” I have to say that I have been doing great though….. He has been finding new things to do with his life and his SELF lately…just look at this CRAZY hair cut that HE WANTED!! Inside I was screaming like, baby this isn’t you, is it?

As in real life, most parents (and children) don’t see the potential dangers of a parent being overprotective. And it’s easy to understand why many parents would respond the way Marlon did. Growing up in an inner city ghetto myself, there were many barracudas waiting to devour me.

Like most children, Nemo became very upset with his “loving” father’s obsession with protecting him from unforeseen danger. During one heated exchanged, Nemo uttered the phrase that strikes fear in the heart of every parent, “I hate you.” As a result of his father’s controlling behavior, Nemo intentionally rebels against his father and is consequently “fish-napped” by a diver.

I am letting my son go DAILY…… Keep him grounded in Godly principles and heavily involved and push him even at times when I know that pushing him / teaching him to do MORE will allow him to depend on me LESS. That is a good thing but the love of a mother is something ferocious!  My son calls me MOMMA BEAR because when someone bothers him – a whole NEW PERSON “comes over me”….. LOL I get into a mode that I will crush anything in my when it comes to protecting my son…. ( in a diplomatic and lady like way of course – lol )

I am proud of myself…for “choosing” to start MY PROCESS of letting go daily while he is young. As a parent, you cannot start trying to cope that your child is going to be moving out of the house when they are GRADUATING HIGH SCHOOL! You do know that is WAY too late right? LOL



Expect your child to mess up — all children do. And don’t get so upset when they mess up, when they don’t do what they’re “supposed” to do … because they’re supposed to mess up.

Expect your partner to be less than perfect.

Expect your friend to not show up sometimes or be irritating late.

Expect things to go not according to plan because most things do not.

Expect people to be rude sometimes because a great deal of them are.

Expect coworkers not to come through sometimes more than usual.

Expect teenagers  not to wash their dishes or pick up their clothes, sometimes because most teenagers do not.

Expect the glass to break.

And accept it.


You won’t change these inevitable facts — they will happen, eventually. And if you expect it to happen — even see it as already happening, before it happens — you won’t get so upset.

You won’t overreact. You’ll respond appropriately, but not overreact. You can talk to the person about their behavior, and ask them kindly to consider your feelings when they do this … but you won’t get overly emotional and blow things out of proportion.

Today’s Inspiration 4 Women –

Many women struggle with self-image and insecurity. Some women have based their self-worth around taking care of their family. Others base it on their looks, and they will go to extreme measures to try and measure up with that level of what men or society says is acceptable…….


They’ve lost touch with their true identity because they look for others to tell them how they look or how they feel. So there are a lot of women out there who are insecure in their relationships.

They don’t feel as though they are good enough, and I believe that has everything to do with self-image and early mental conditioning. When women have abdicated their own identity to what others think and say, they tend to be very insecure in their relationships.

They pick the wrong men for all the wrong reasons. They “settle” because they don’t feel as though they are good enough to have a really terrific guy.

Until we take responsibility for everything in our life, good and bad decisions, it is difficult to escape feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. The good news is if you want to change, you can. Where there is a will, there is a way.

Here’s The F- Word….. Again


A book by Neil T. Anderson provided 12 steps to forgiveness……….

1. Ask the Lord to reveal to your mind people you need to forgive.
2. Acknowledge the hurt and the hate.
3. Understand the significance of the Cross.
4. Decide you will bear the burden of each person’s sin (see Galatians 6:1,2). This means you will not retaliate in the future by using the information about their sin against them.
5. Decide to forgive.
6. Take your list to God and pray the following: “I forgive (name) for (list all the offenses and how they made you feel).”
7. Destroy the list.
8. Do not expect that your decision to forgive will result in major changes in the other persons.
9. Try to understand the people you have forgiven, but don’t rationalize their behavior.
10. Expect positive results of forgiveness in you.
11. Thank God for the lessons you have learned and the maturity you have gained as a result of the offenses and your decision to forgive the offenders.
12. Be sure to accept your part of the blame for the offenses you suffered.