Inspiration

Another Heart STOPPER –


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Okay – I attend the movies at LEAST twice a week and  when there is ANY TYPE of historical movie that deals with this country via politics AND black history / civil rights …..I DASH him to the movie theater to view it. Okay I have had a tough day folks – My son even had to hug me a few times and hold my hands……….. History is important in general but for my son being an African American boy in these good ole United States, it is IMPERATIVE that he knows.

The more recent black history type movies that I have taken him to see were movies as –

The Help….( My son was very irritated when we were walking out of the movie theater )

The Butler.. ( My son had very mixed emotions & was trying to compare life now vs then via black men )

12 Years of Slave….( My son was in such SILENT SHOCK basically during the whole movie )

Nonetheless, seeing The Help allowed me to REMIND myself of why I act the way that I do in certain situations when I am around “certain types” of white women ………..  The Butler made me honor and respect black men even the more….and 12 Years A Slave …………Welp, – unfortunately for me – I am STILL trying to “get myself together” in the worse way – it is 9 pm at night and I took him to see this movie at 1 pm this afternoon! So please pray for my mind and my emotions….. God knows that I am soooooooo serious right now –

I mean – although sadly……blacks have been in slavery for a little over 400 years – it still made me think of the racism that still goes on today for blacks – ESPECIALLY black men –

It made me feel bad for stereotyping and racial profiling that I do even myself – however – although that those behaviors are indeed WRONG……but before I make myself out to be this bad black woman who discriminates against her own kind – I get upset because “my own kind” have to fight to not only get it together….BUT also keep it together…

Yes we can CLEARLY see that the white men and women years ago played the main blame in slavery BUT we are in 2013 and things are not the way that they used to be…MEANING – I do not like hearing that EVERYTHING “is the white man’s fault”… I have heard that since the late 80’s and I am wondering why I am STILL hearing it.  The white man did not STOP EVERYONE AND EVERY DREAM that the African American people have or may had.

We have to be honest and LOOK around and LOOK from within and ask ourselves…..are we helping each other get ahead? Sadly, there is only a very small number / percentage of African Americans who even care about the American Dream….let alone will fight to even achieve it.

Truth be told… I want to know how many are going to school…. caring about their grades instead of truancy behaviors………. are the favorite subjects in school gym time or science….are we becoming parents too young……if so are we good parents….are we pulling up our pants…are we selling stolen goods….are we being disrespectful to our parents and teachers……are we choosing to have a library card instead of a gun…… are we interested in studying medicine instead of selling medicine……

With all that Mr. Solomon Northup  (real name of the man who was MADE a slave) went through AFTER being a slave for 12 years – he lived the rest of his life fighting for change – he did not choose to be a murderer because he was dealt a wrong hand….he didn’t become a thief ..he didn’t become a womanizer because of the 12 years of no sex etc..etc.etc.. LIFE CAN HURT A LOT OF TIMES….. Life can really give you the choice to give up hope – but it is all about what you believe…. can things get better? Do not worry about when – just believe that they will. Thanking God for people like Brad Pitt ( the part that he played in the movie ) who UNDERSTOOD that slavery was wrong and he risked his own life to make a difference with the start of 1 MAN named Solomon Northup –

Uggghhh – the movie did and still has me a little ticked off but it is HISTORY….it is apart of MY HISTORY – I embrace it …will learn MORE from it….. and find ways to make things better for me – my family – my people.

Thanks for listening –

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Relationships

Dear God – “this is what im talking about”……


OKAY……………………. AFTER I

Smiled 100xs

Giggled 100xs

Laughed 100xs

Screamed 100xs

Said “WOW” 100xs

Teared Up 100xs

Cried 100xs

Said “awww” 100xs

Rejoiced “for her” and “with them” 100xs

Prayed and asked God to bless their union 100xs

I am exhausted…..and ready to go to sleep with a SMILE on my face, knowing God will bless me and my son too!!

Parenting

A Little Wisdom –


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The strength of a man isn’t seen in the width of his shoulders. It’s seen in the width of his arms that circle you. The strength of a man isn’t in the deep tone of his voice. It’s in the gentle words he whispers. The strength of a man isn’t how many buddies he has. It’s how good a buddy he is with his kids.

The strength of a man isn’t in how respected he is at work. It’s in how respected he is at home. The strength of a man isn’t in how hard he hits. It’s in how tender he touches. The strength of a man isn’t in the hair on his chest. It’s in his Heart … that lies within his chest.
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The strength of a man isn’t how many women he’s loved. It’s in how he can be true to one woman. The strength of a man isn’t in the weight he can lift. It’s in the burdens he can carry.
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Honor, Respect, Faith, Relationship with God, Healthy Relationships with Family and Friends, Giving, Compassion, Love and Commitment are “some of the things” that a Single Mother can show HER SON which can aid to help nurture him to be a GREAT MAN.

Even without a father – being present and producing a CONSISTENT voice and presence in their son’s lives – I often tell some of my girl pals NOT to become bitter when God has already equipped our sons as well as ourselves to “put in the POSITIVE SEEDS” of Life –

Oh by the way….. Women Rock… and Single Moms are Doing Their Thing –

“God got us AND our boys”……….. just STAY being a light, an example of Christian Living –

Parenting

Hanging With MY Young 2 Boyfriend (s)


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I LOVE spending time with MY young two boyfriends…. They make me laugh…. make me cry… make me OVER SPEND….they are always hungry…..always want something…..think they need everything…..like to touch me and hug me until I can’t breath….. and you know what???? 
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I SIMPLY LOVE IT – I am NOT a cougar ……..I do not like or have ” a thing ” for younger men but the 2 that are in MY LIFE has basically CHANGED MY LIFE….. You cannot help who you love right??? Well I LOVE THEM to pieces! LOL

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My two YOUNG BOYFRIENDS are my two sons!! LOL The oldest is 20 and the baby is 11 and they are BOTH can be a spoiled, irritating mess! They are my loves and would NOT trade them for anything in the world…. even when they drive me CRAZY.
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The relationship between mothers and sons is unique in many ways……Sons indeed are special.

Constantly nurtured in love, frequently this relationship defines young sons that will become and serves as a reservoir from which he later may draw memories and affection that will guide him as a husband and father. Okay did that make sense or too overboard?? Sigmund Freud type stuff? LOL
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From the warmth and security a boy experiences with his mother, he gains confidence and learns about loving and accepting others, listening and expressing his own ideas and feelings, and exploring the world in which he lives.
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The things he learns from his mother will highly influence the kind of relationships he will have someday with his own wife and children. Indeed, this rich relationship will define him in many ways throughout his life.
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I said all of that to say…… Spending time with your kids….. is very important…… I love on MY YOUNG BOYFRIENDS so that they know that I will always be there for them and God shall continue to form our bonds in the loving – caring – God centered  way.

Politics

Would YOUR Pick Be Accurate?


Okay, like AMERICA…. let’s act as if we are at a carnival or playing a GAME on Facebook…. Which photo would you say is an aggressive person?

Martin Luther King Jr.

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New York  State Representatives

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This Grey Hoodie

A Professional Basketball Team

A Radio Talk Host

Law Students

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Politics

The Mindset of Some Cultures


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Although this is a cartoon BUT there is truth all through it. I mean really, which headstone is Trayvon Martin? Martin Luther King Jr.? Emmett Till? Darrell Turner Jr? and thousands of other black INNOCENT males? Huh?

Point is that I do not EVER want any of these tombstones to be be connected to or be a representative for anyone who did no wrong to be there.

Let alone yet ANOTHER “racial profile” black male..  Let alone either one if MY OWN sons!

Relationships

Dating Random Chatter-


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There is all kinds of advice out there about dating today, but a lot of it is about dating in the world rather than Christian dating. Christians need to have a different attitude toward dating. However, even among Christians there are differences as to whether you should or should not date. The choice is up to your and your parents, but Christian teens should still know God’s perspective on dating.  Non-Christians have a different perspective on dating. You see the magazines, TV shows, and movies that tell you how you’re young, hot and beautiful , and you should date a lot of people before you get married. You see certain “role models” jumping from one dating relationship to another.
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Yet God has more in store for you than just jumping from one relationship to another. He is clear on whom you should date and why you should date. When it comes to Christian dating, you live according to a different standard – God’s. Yet it’s not just about following the rules. There are some solid reasons why God asks us to live a certain way, and dating is no different.
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The Bible seriously warns us about dating non-Christians. While you may not be looking at marrying anyone at the moment, it should always be in the back of your head. Why get involved emotionally with someone that you should not marry? This does not mean you cannot be friends with that person, but you should not date them.
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Watch the corny pick up lines and don’t be soooooooo eager to be with someone….. Seriously! !
This also means that you should avoid “missionary dating,” which is dating a non-believer in the hopes that you can convert him or her. Your intentions may be noble, but the relationships rarely work out.
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Some Christians have even gotten married to non-believers, hoping that they can convert their spouse, but often the relationships end up in disaster!