Helping Self...

A Mental Random –


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How a lot of people measure success is sometimes actually a bit scary –  Do not get me wrong – we all love nice things but nice things do not mold a decent human beings and if a person is not careful – their distorted view of success can deform the morals, values, stances, ethics and beliefs!

“Happiness” equals “success” and “success” equals “blessing.” Success (eudaimonia in Greek) is translated as happiness in English, and happy (makarios) is translated as blessed, or enjoying a share of the divine, living like a god. Animals cannot enjoy success, because they have no share of the divine, and the gods enjoy a different type of ideal existence.

In order to meet success you must use your skills and knowledge to pursue certain goals for the sake of higher goal. For example, a human can either: carry out one goal, such as running a mile, or carry out one objective for a higher purpose, such as being in shape. The single highest objective in life is to live well and fare well, i.e. being successful. An aim in the highest degree is only worth pursuing for itself and never anything else; success is worth pursuing in its own right.

However, you have to learn what success actually is – If your only focus is MONEY – HOUSES – CARS and – LAND …….then you are indeed headed for a heavy fall because those are only temporary THINGS….

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Helping Self...

Irritating Evening –


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Whew…..dealing with VERY DIFFICULT PEOPLE can have the ability to stress you out if YOU let it……

Do you ever try to figure them out. Why are they being so nasty? Are they jealous? Are they  annoyed with you about something specific? Are they stressed out? Are they  afraid? Are they mistrustful? You’ll need to learn what makes them tick before you can stop them from ticking you off.

Avoid appeasing them. You wouldn’t reward a bad dog, so why let a difficult  person get away with bad behavior? If you let them get their way, they’ll only  be encouraged.

Don’t try to change them. It’s impossible to change someone’s entire being. Not  only that, but people usually get pretty indignant if they sense you are trying  to shape their character. Your only hope is deal with their behavior gracefully.
I have QUICKLY LEARNED to choose your mode of confrontation. Don’t lose your cool but be firm and  assertive. Let them know you won’t be pushed around, but don’t exasperate the  situation by fighting an unnecessary fight.

Don’t take things personally. Troublesome behavior is habitual. Difficult people  tend to be difficult to everyone BECAUSE THERE IS SOMETHING ABOUT THEMSELVES THAT THEY ARE UN – HAPPY ABOUT.

Whew…im done!

 

 

Helping Self...

Something Good 2 Chew On…..


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Next time you have a decision to make, and you’re down to two or three options, just pick the one that feels right, and go with it.

Never regret the decisions you make, though.

Just live by the 3 C’s of life: choices, chances, and changes. You need to make a choice to take a chance, or your life will never change.

Inspiration

H-A-P-P-Y


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Happiness — it’s what we all strive to find and keep, even when it’s as elusive as ever. Nobody is happy all the time, but some people are definitely more fulfilled than others. Studies reveal that happiness has little to do with material goods or high achievement; it boils down to your outlook on life, the quality of your relationships, and basic amenities like good governance and community resources.

Look at the glass half-full instead of half-empty.  Now you have the opportunity to find a better one! Adjust your mentality so that, in everything that happens to you, there’s some kernel of good.

Think of your current situation (however hard it may be) and then think of how much harder some other people have it. Just be happy that you are not in that worse situation. Learn to enjoy your life!

 

 

Inspiration

Mental Note


 

Learn not to slip on your own mistakes!

Choose wisely and seek good counsel so that you will not have to repeat the same things over and over again. We all should be just a little bit tired by now at this point in our lives of repeating SILLY things that indeed could have been prevented.

Do not worry about anyone else slipping if your own foundation is NOT sturdy enough to keep you from slipping and falling –

Women's Stuff

For Mom’s Only –


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Many women feel guilty when they take a break for themselves, but that may be a dangerous thing. If you never have any time except reactive time — things you must do for others — you don’t have a sense of control. You are interrupted all the time.

I have been reading up on symptoms and have seen that your brain can have trouble resting even during sleep. Such chronic exhaustion increases the release of stress hormones, and your blood sugar rises. If this is your normal state, then the physical consequences increase your risk of diabetes, heart disease, and memory problems. If that’s not enough to scare you into taking some time for yourself, consider this: The hormonal effects of always being on edge help deposit fat right around your waist.

Many women believe that taking time for yourself is a selfish thing to do.  In fact, the opposite is true:  if you are not at your peak, you cannot take care of others.  I think new moms AND single mothers are especially prone not to take ME time.  They believe ‘the baby’ …..”the kids”…takes precedence over all of their lives, and they must bow to their every whim. 
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But the thing is, that is exhausting, and if you are exhausted, you cannot be a good mom. I have come to a cease halt because I HAVE BECOME VERY EXHAUSTED and this week, I thought that I would literally just keel over from tiredness!

On an airplane, parents are taught to put the mask on themselves first then to place the mask on their kids.  This is because if they have trouble getting the mask on their children, both the parent and the child could die because neither got their mask on properly. 

I believe this applies to life as well:  you have to take care of yourself first!!! I may be VERY LATE just now discovering to put ME FIRST but it is better late than never!
Taking time for yourself needs to be just that:  a few hours where you are not interrupted or wondering when the children are going to need something next.  It needs to be something you do completely for yourself.  Going grocery shopping away from the kids does not count…’me time’ must be something you like to do and you do only for yourself.
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Think about taking a class you’ve always wanted to take, or taking time out to read a book you’ve always wanted to read, or even just sleeping in.

Turn off the cell phone, and inform everyone that you are not to be disturbed, and then follow through with that:  do not allow anyone to disturb you.  The best way to do this is to get away from the kids and husband and go somewhere else. 

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My son now is used to going away to camp at least a few times a year.

How about Don’t take the kids with you, just go somewhere and unwind!! But do it WITH NO KIDS!! I have taken it a step further to send my son to camp for 4 weeks over the summer. One week in June, two weeks in July and one week in August. They are all split apart of course so we can still bond and have our time BUT I have made a very conscious decision to put me first going forward!

I want to LIVE! but live well..be happy..be healthy & remain whole!