Ministry

Addiction –


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I never thought in a million years that I would become a Drug and Alcohol Case Manager – It is a field that you MUST care whole heartedly about the people in addiction. If not – it will NOT work for you and it will surely hinder the people that you are supposed to be helping in the long run!

Although many people struggle with addiction in their lives, not all of them are able to overcome it. Your chances of being successful in becoming healthy and making a full recovery depend on many things, including how driven you are to succeed and live a healthier and better life overall. Having support is definitely one of the most important things that can either make or break a person when it comes to trying to beat addiction. Those who have family and friends that support them through their initial recovery period tend to do much better than those who do not have anyone to be there for them.  I ALWAYS tell my them that in order to avoid a relapse you will want to let everyone who you are close to know about what you are going through so they will be able to help you in any way possible.
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Addiction can be tough, which is why you will need to have an action plan that details exactly how you are going to go about overcoming your problems. If you are addicted to drugs for example, detox will not be enough to free you of the stranglehold that they have on you. There is definitely a physical aspect to addiction, but a lot of it is also psychological. Be sure to come up with multiple ways to stay healthy, because it really is a day-to-day process. There is no single miracle cure that will be able to help you overcome your addiction overnight.

Drug courts and mentors and case managers like myself really try our best to help addicts / alcoholics succeed in recovery. However, there are two critical pieces to unraveling the cycles of addiction and therefore to preventing recidivism. Why? Because addiction is a chronic, but treatable, brain disease.
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If addiction is left untreated (and treatment is far more complicated than just stopping drinking or using the substance), the individual with the disease is very likely to relapse after their release from jail, and very likely their relapse will lead to more criminal behavior. Not only that, but treatment of this brain disease requires long-term continuing care to insure the necessary re-wiring (healthy brain changes) and trigger prevention tools are in place that will allow an individual to succeed in their recovery.

Many crimes are committed by addicts/alcoholics because of the characteristics of the disease of addiction, namely: cravings, loss of control, tolerance and physical dependence. It is the “insanity” of the brain disease of addiction that causes them to do bad and/or illegal things, like stealing and what this “insanity “is about).
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Drug courts provides an alternative to jail or prison time by going after the root of the person’s problem — the reason he/she committed the crime — their addiction (whether that be an addiction to drugs or alcohol). Drug court helps a person get and stay clean and sober and if that person succeeds in drug court, they avoid jail or prison time and a record. Last but not least, people who are involved in addiction need pray and help and it takes a great deal of services from the community, government agencies, support from family and friends to help KEEP THEM SOBER –

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Parenting

Letting Go Daily –


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I am learning that as my son is getting OLDER …… I have to let him go day by day via treating him like he will NEVER leave the house!  Only a few more years left and I will be saying >>> SEE YA LATER BUDDY BOY!! ( hiding my tears )

The toughest thing about being a parent (or a teacher) is learning when NOT to be one. You don’t have to take my word for it, just ask Marlon. (The mivie Finding Nemo ) His wife was brutally attacked and killed by a man-eating barracuda, thrusting him into the role of a “single dad.” Now we know that in AMERICA there are more single mothers than single fathers. Not discounting single dads at all but ……….. ( LOL )

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Although only an animation film, “Finding Nemo” portrays the real life struggles many parents face in “letting go of their children.” I have to say that I have been doing great though….. He has been finding new things to do with his life and his SELF lately…just look at this CRAZY hair cut that HE WANTED!! Inside I was screaming like, baby this isn’t you, is it?

As in real life, most parents (and children) don’t see the potential dangers of a parent being overprotective. And it’s easy to understand why many parents would respond the way Marlon did. Growing up in an inner city ghetto myself, there were many barracudas waiting to devour me.

Like most children, Nemo became very upset with his “loving” father’s obsession with protecting him from unforeseen danger. During one heated exchanged, Nemo uttered the phrase that strikes fear in the heart of every parent, “I hate you.” As a result of his father’s controlling behavior, Nemo intentionally rebels against his father and is consequently “fish-napped” by a diver.
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I am letting my son go DAILY…… Keep him grounded in Godly principles and heavily involved and push him even at times when I know that pushing him / teaching him to do MORE will allow him to depend on me LESS. That is a good thing but the love of a mother is something ferocious!  My son calls me MOMMA BEAR because when someone bothers him – a whole NEW PERSON “comes over me”….. LOL I get into a mode that I will crush anything in my when it comes to protecting my son…. ( in a diplomatic and lady like way of course – lol )
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I am proud of myself…for “choosing” to start MY PROCESS of letting go daily while he is young. As a parent, you cannot start trying to cope that your child is going to be moving out of the house when they are GRADUATING HIGH SCHOOL! You do know that is WAY too late right? LOL

Politics

Would YOUR Pick Be Accurate?


Okay, like AMERICA…. let’s act as if we are at a carnival or playing a GAME on Facebook…. Which photo would you say is an aggressive person?

Martin Luther King Jr.

... Luther King, Jr. in Trayvon Martin’s Hoodie Goes Viral | Alternative

New York  State Representatives

trayvon – hoodies Answers From Men

This Grey Hoodie

A Professional Basketball Team

A Radio Talk Host

Law Students

Trayvon Martin

Trayvon's new hoodie. Oh.

Politics

The Mindset of Some Cultures


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Although this is a cartoon BUT there is truth all through it. I mean really, which headstone is Trayvon Martin? Martin Luther King Jr.? Emmett Till? Darrell Turner Jr? and thousands of other black INNOCENT males? Huh?

Point is that I do not EVER want any of these tombstones to be be connected to or be a representative for anyone who did no wrong to be there.

Let alone yet ANOTHER “racial profile” black male..  Let alone either one if MY OWN sons!

Inspiration

Helping Others….


If you don’t ask the right questions…you can never discover the answers which will move your life in the direction of possibility and purpose. What’s the ONE (?) question that you are holding yourself accountable to answer with your life choices today?
A great deal of people think that age ALWAYS plays a huge part in how individuals react to negative circumstances but that is not the case. It is imperative that we all, NO MATTER WHAT THE AGE have “accountability partners” to help direct us and keep our actions / motives / choices in tact.
“Are you the cause or the effect? Are you the engine or the caboose? Are you making history or watching history be made? Are you the one everyone is talking about or one of those doing the talking? Are you the thermostat or the thermometer? I love to teach these types of strategies to others who may fell that they are  in a tight spot and they need to know that hope is right around the corner. I can say this due to MY OWN crazy and heart wrenching experiences over the years….
Your life has an special purpose that only you can fulfill. It’s not a game….it’s your life. Take a leap of faith and move forward as if you could not fail. State your daily goals, and create forward momentum in your life.
Every day affirm to yourself that there is no emotion that you cannot handle, no difficulty that you cannot surmount, and no challenge that you cannot tackle. Face the future confidently – knowing that you were born for such a time as this!
Are you making things happen or waiting to see what happens? It is your life…play big but safe!”
Family

Standard Meeting Place –


Well although I surely enjoy hanging out with my mom and son – They sure enough are about to drive me bonkers with what is seeming to be our standard meeting hang out spot! LOL I mean – on a hot day, getting a cold slushy is a nice twist but I am voting for only once a week!

My son’s little mentor is amazing but STILL – Rita’s ice is a ONE DAY A WEEK meeting place okay mom and son!!!

Nonetheless, I had a nice time though and we chatted and indeed laughed up a storm. Made me again appreciate every moment that I am able to spend with my loving 72-year-old going strong mother dearest!!!

Today is Monday so im buying Rita’s to go so that we don’t wear out our welcome at our new meeting place!

Different sizes and different flavors to GO!!!!!  I’m not fussing because it is a cheap way to hang out and enjoy each others company –

Oh yeah, we love to sit and PEOPLE WATCH TOO! LOL

Relationships

Dear Women –


 

PLEASE do not wait for the PERFECT MAN because there is not any!!!! The only perfect person is Jesus and you shall see Him “soon enough” okay!! Accept the fact and really embrace that the man God has for you WILL NOT BE PERFECT but God can help mold him into the person who fits securely into the peg of your life. The man is to add to you NOT COMPLETE you! SOME women have a “prison sentence mentality” with this waiting game that they have….

I AM NOT SAYING to lower your standards at all and those who do NOT even have standards, please get some and keep them in tact! However, I am just requesting that women be REALISTIC when it comes to relationships! Know what you want and know what you dont want and GO FROM THERE!! Truth be told when women do not know what they want and who they are as a person they are prime examples to be on the recieving end of broken relationship after relationship.

Just do not desire a Godly man – desire the man that God has for you and pray and BE STILL so that when ANY MAN comes along regardless how wonderful he may seem to be – you will have enough wisdom to see that he is NOT the one and also ENOUGH COURAGE to say no as well! Do not be desperate because that type of behavior gives off an odor that only attracts dogs. Let the men in your life such as uncles, fathers, brothers, cousins, and male friends that you resepct give you some good old fashioned advice when it comes to “their species”…LOL

Also talk to a few God fearing women who have PROVEN to be successful in relationships / marriages who can sit and discuss the things of the heart as well for guidance! If you trust them- then attempt to obtain some wise counsel because other than that – why are your spending time with these people? Seriously!

I do not want women – especially good women who have their heads on straight, educated, kind, saved – followers of Christ, compassionate, prayerful, loyal, family oriented etc..etc..etc.. have ALLLLLLLL of these great qualities but sit – wait – and then DIE like the woman in the photo above!