Parenting

A Few Things About Boys –


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For generations, mothers have gotten the same old message when it comes to raising sons: beware of keeping him “too close.” A mom who nurtures a deep emotional bond with her boy will prevent him from growing up to be a strong, independent man. By refusing to cut those apron strings, she is on track to create a wimpy, dependent, adjusted “mama’s boy.” There’s just one problem with this theory: it’s not true.
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In fact, pushing boys to separate prematurely from their mothers and encouraging them to “man up” can be damaging to boys. What’s more, there are enormous benefits to a close mother-son bond, starting from the earliest days and continuing into a man’s adult years.
Baby boys who do not have secure attachments with their mothers go on to have behavioral problems later in life. Statistics reveal that boys who do not bond securely with their mothers in the infant years act much more hostile, destructive and aggressive later in life. A close bond with their moms when boys were young helped prevent delinquency when they were older.
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Boys who are close to their mothers perform better in school. Mothers often nurture emotional intelligence in their sons, teaching them to recognize and express their own feelings and to be more attuned to the feelings of others. These boys not only become more articulate–which helps them with reading and writing skills, but also have better self-control in the classroom.
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Few women still admire “the strong silent type,” let alone a man who expresses his anger by punching a wall. Men who can both listen and articulate their emotions are far more attractive. And of course, sons who grow up respecting and loving their mothers tend to respect and love other women. These same skills will also help them in the work place. In today’s economy, brute physical strength and a dominating style is no longer a ticket for success. Rather, men need the ability to work in teams and to have the very communication skills and social intelligence that their mothers have taught them all along.

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Parenting

Snacks –


Did he REALLY want me to pull over for a box of these????? They have 10 grams of protein though! BUT SO WHAT!!!! Ugghhh….  Talking about, Mom….I need some more energy! Boy what you know about energy!!!  Yes, they are good too!

LOL and I wonder with all of this new FOUND energy that he is THINKING that he needs – will this dip over into him keeping his clothes off of the floor in his room? Im just saying – that is a valid point that I am about to ask his butt now!!

SPOILED BRAT ALERT BELOW …..

Parenting

Mother + Son = Coolness!


Mothers and Sons……have a really special type of relationship and it is imperative that it is groomed and molded correctly. I teach my son so many things and allow him to discover things about himself, God and even how he interacts with me. I give him space to learn and to grow…..and I GLOW in the fact that he always asks questions about EVERYTHING.

It takes one woman twenty years to make a man of her son – and another woman twenty minutes to make a fool of him….that sounds harsh but it is the truth! However, I think that via raising a son……. A son is a son till he takes him a wife, a daughter is a daughter all of her life. Maybe it is a woman / female bond that never goes away and women just make a priority.

He who can be a good son will be a good father so that why it is imperative that we make sure as a mother we POUR INTO OUR SONS as much positivity as possible. We also have to be LIVING examples and remember that their first few girlfriends they may compare to us – so “watch” who they bring home! LOL

My son talks about getting married and having 4 kids! He says that he wants his wife to be and act like me but he wants her to be white! I giggled to myself and THEN asked him if color matters to him? He said no mom…. but when I am at school or out, more black girls act ghetto more than white girls….

I said ok.. I can see your point in that and you do not want that type of girlfriend when you get older BUT what if when you get older – you see black girls acting like nice ladies? He said maybe I may change my mind but I just want them to act like you.

I HAVE TO BE HONEST…………….. for a moment that had me worried… I do not raise or want “no momma’s boys” but I do want my son to respect me..honor me…. listen to my opinions and sometimes take my advice because he trust what I am saying to him.

EVENTUALLY as we look back on how we raise our kids…….

Your son at five is your master, at ten your slave, at fifteen your double, and after that, your friend or your foe, depending on his bringing up!! LOL Little joke but it has humor AND truth to it… My son is 10 right now and I rip and run EVERYWHERE with and for that boy. I put my events around his schedule!!! So does that mean I am his slave?…no but I am choosing to just put him first.  Giving your son a SET OF skills in life  is better than giving him money, fame and power…

I am just very grateful that we talk about any and everything – even when it makes me CRINGE! I thank God for the genuine, honest, loving, Christian, caring, nurturing- open relationship.