Mother’s Teachings

My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE…
“If you’re going kill each other, do it outside – I just finished cleaning!”

My mother taught me RELIGION…
“You better pray that will come out of the carpet.”

My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL…
“If you don’t straighten up, I’m going to knock you into the middle of next week!”

My mother taught me LOGIC…
“Because I said so, that’s why.”

My mother taught me LOGIC… #2
“If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you’re not going to the store with me.”

My mother taught me FORESIGHT…
“Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you’re in an accident.”

My mother taught me IRONY…
“Keep crying and I’ll give you something to cry about.”

My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS…
“Shut your mouth and eat your supper!”

My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM…
“Will you LOOK at the dirt on the back of your neck!”

My mother taught me about STAMINA…
“You’ll sit there ’till all that spinach is finished.”

My mother taught me about WEATHER…
“It looks as if a tornado swept through your room.”

My mother taught me how to solve PHYSICS PROBLEMS…
“If I yelled because I saw a meteor coming toward you, would you listen THEN?”

My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY…
“If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you a million times: Don’t exaggerate!”

My mother taught me about BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION…
“Stop acting like your father!”

My mother taught me about ENVY…
“There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don’t have wonderful parents like you do!”

Funny right? You gotta love the teachings of your parents…. I wish my dad was still here to teach me more things and I PRAY that my mother lives a great deal longer to remain teaching me things! HONOR your parents….. >>>>please


A Day Filled With Love –

Being able to spend time in ANY form or fashion with loved ones is something that we should never take for granted…. Just appreciating the little silly things is indeed a blessing and with so many people just dying like a drop of a hat, the things that would make me upset before does not now. Not saying that I too, am not a work in progress woould not be very accurate! LOL, However, praying and asking God to show me what battles “are worth fighting” at the moment is key and has really helped me grow –

Spending time with loved ones and family is an incredible experience. Kids liek me! ( LOL ) love to spend time with their families and bask in the love and joy that comes with it, so it’s not surprising that quality family time ranks up there as one of the most important values in the lives of average people.

A lot of people unfortunately cannot find time to spend with their families, making quality family time a luxury instead of a normal occurrence. With a little bit of planning and some creativity, however, any family can have some quality family time and can enjoy the company of loved ones.

Then of course everyone that is considered like family to you does NOT have to share the same biological DNA  but they have a consistent source of love !

Seeing all of these amazing people in one day and being able to share what is on my heart has blessed me tremendously….. Yup,  I am grateful


Mother + Son = Coolness!

Mothers and Sons……have a really special type of relationship and it is imperative that it is groomed and molded correctly. I teach my son so many things and allow him to discover things about himself, God and even how he interacts with me. I give him space to learn and to grow…..and I GLOW in the fact that he always asks questions about EVERYTHING.

It takes one woman twenty years to make a man of her son – and another woman twenty minutes to make a fool of him….that sounds harsh but it is the truth! However, I think that via raising a son……. A son is a son till he takes him a wife, a daughter is a daughter all of her life. Maybe it is a woman / female bond that never goes away and women just make a priority.

He who can be a good son will be a good father so that why it is imperative that we make sure as a mother we POUR INTO OUR SONS as much positivity as possible. We also have to be LIVING examples and remember that their first few girlfriends they may compare to us – so “watch” who they bring home! LOL

My son talks about getting married and having 4 kids! He says that he wants his wife to be and act like me but he wants her to be white! I giggled to myself and THEN asked him if color matters to him? He said no mom…. but when I am at school or out, more black girls act ghetto more than white girls….

I said ok.. I can see your point in that and you do not want that type of girlfriend when you get older BUT what if when you get older – you see black girls acting like nice ladies? He said maybe I may change my mind but I just want them to act like you.

I HAVE TO BE HONEST…………….. for a moment that had me worried… I do not raise or want “no momma’s boys” but I do want my son to respect me..honor me…. listen to my opinions and sometimes take my advice because he trust what I am saying to him.

EVENTUALLY as we look back on how we raise our kids…….

Your son at five is your master, at ten your slave, at fifteen your double, and after that, your friend or your foe, depending on his bringing up!! LOL Little joke but it has humor AND truth to it… My son is 10 right now and I rip and run EVERYWHERE with and for that boy. I put my events around his schedule!!! So does that mean I am his slave?…no but I am choosing to just put him first.  Giving your son a SET OF skills in life  is better than giving him money, fame and power…

I am just very grateful that we talk about any and everything – even when it makes me CRINGE! I thank God for the genuine, honest, loving, Christian, caring, nurturing- open relationship.


Dear Mommy Cakes

You have gotten older my dear and to see you age has been a blessing. I want you to know that I will always – always be here for you and with you. This indedd is my promise to you! Thru the years, I have seen you go through the pain and the sorrow thru every tomorrow. It has been an honor to lend a shoulder to lean on when your feeling blue. To have an open ear to listen to you Mommy Cakes – at your age of 72 I AM HERE!

Thank you for being such an amazing role model to me…a great grandmother….a great wife…a great friend….a great mentor…a great mom

When I hear your SILENT cries, I promise to give you spiritual advice and never ever criticize. Please know that your will never have to feel alone when your weathering a storm. I will be the light that you see thru the clouds, no matter how dark your surroundings are, know that I am there thru the mist and the rain lending a helping hand to help ease the pain.

Regardless where I live, You never need to feel alone. No matter how near or far we are, know that I am here as your shining star. When you look up at the sky at night know that I am thinking of you even though your not in sight, my heart is with  you. I will cheer you on and be proud when life take a turn and is better for you. I am NEVER too busy or tired to come and see about you!!

 There are many tomorrows in your life you see, don’t ever give up because you have me. You have someone here who loves you and cares and will never give up on you even on a dare.

I’m here for the long run be good or bad your part of my life  now with pages to fill with memories and friendship until the earth stands still.

So this is my promise to you Mommy Cakes. Remember it always for I am right here. Think of me often and find comfort in knowing I care…

Thank you for being a GREAT MOTHER TO ME!!!



This is NOT the look of a 10 year old boy who had a birthday the day before and was given a great deal of things and went a lot of places. This cannot be the same person with this expression on his face can it? I am still confused MYSELF of this little transition from yesterday until today……

His face is displaying the reaction from his AMAZING mother punishing him because of something the he chose to do THIS MORNING! Yes we are SUPPOSE to still be in celebration mode for his birthday BUT when you make the wrong choices in life – THINGS HAPPEN.  The world does not care what day of the week it is….who’s birthday it is….who died… who was born…..who is sad….who is crying…..who got married…who is joyful…..etc..etc..etc.. Learn early son and it will make your life EASIER.

I REMINDED him how good of a Parent that I have been and that he knows that I only request CERTAIN LITTLE things via his behavior. I am raising him as a Christian, God -Fearing and respectful wisdomatic boy. He knows better and that is why it bothered me as well to place him on punishment at 6 am this monring when we had such an awesome time yesterday and the AMAZING things that I had planned for him via the rest of the weekend. Nonetheless, we all have to learn lessons in life and I am glad that I can be the one to teach him a variety of them….all within the confinments of my home.

Happy Birtthday anyway Button Drop!! You will learn from this and respect me for it later! Being disobedient can cause damage to your own life!


Cartoons Come 2 Life

If you dont understand the 4 part photo here it goes…

1. little girl heard someone curse and is mocking it but instead of correcting the girl, the mom laughs

2. child starts to like the degrading music that the mom listens to & starts doing familiar dancing – mom thinks its cute

3. mom expressing to her daughter that she can make alot of money shaking her body around

4. child became pregnant from all of her booty popping

Moral of the story…… dont co – sign on the negative things that your child does and be an example at all times!

STOP crying over what you could have been prevented!


The Hardest Job!

I dont care what anyone says…. I feel that being a parent is the hardest thing to do on the planet! I dont care what type of work that anyone does, they punch in and punch out. However, being a parent – YOU DONT!

I mean it is a NON – STOP mental….spiritual….personal…..emotional… physical….and financial committment.  The bad times and the good times take a serious toll at times and especially if you are either “winging it alone” or you are attempting to “co – parent” and it indeed is not working! The funny thing is that my youngest is about to turn 10 and my two oldest are about to turn 19 and I am just NOW really getting this crazy visual of parenthood! That is probably because my two oldest have taken me to “earthly” – mountain top HELL and back so many times that it feels as if I never left!

I have a headache even as I am trying to blog this because just thinking about all of the things that I do and have done makes me EXHAUSTED even thinking about it….. and to think that I am not EVER going to be finished unless I am dead! GEESH…..Seriously that is a huge pill to “digest”…….. If your kids are semi good then I guess that it is “not so bad”….. well no! I am lying because it is still a great deal that “productive” parents do!

Dear God,

Is this how you feel about us “at times” too? If so, my goodness I am sooooooooooooo sorry for ripping your heart out a million times after I promised to do better!

Whew – that hot or cold scenario that is clearly explained in scripture is what I have been dealing with over the last 7 years with my oldest….. and I am now to the point of just spewing them out of my mouth until they can CONSISTENTLY choose correctly. I have heard that your kids act out via what you put your own parents through………… Well I am here to say that is indeed false!! I did not EVER act the way my almost 19 year old teenagers behave, let alone their horrid potty mouths!

Emotionally being tapped out is my main concern at this juncture…… it feels like I am working on a relationship when it feels like divorce is in the air when it comes to my two older kids…. and when my youngest has his days – I really stand and stare in the mirror…..HONESTLY saying – WOW!! I wanted to be a mother??????????

Seriously? what ever happened to me adopting 1 child and planning my life as early as high school? I had my life planned out as early as the 11 grade in high school, funny right!!

That is the BEST way to make God laugh is for us to plan our own lives and ASSUME that it will all come to pass without “acknowledging” God in the process!