Yup that about sums up a great deal of things I would say!!
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Tag Archives: New Beginnings
The Mindset of Some Cultures
Although this is a cartoon BUT there is truth all through it. I mean really, which headstone is Trayvon Martin? Martin Luther King Jr.? Emmett Till? Darrell Turner Jr? and thousands of other black INNOCENT males? Huh?
Point is that I do not EVER want any of these tombstones to be be connected to or be a representative for anyone who did no wrong to be there.
Let alone yet ANOTHER “racial profile” black male.. Let alone either one if MY OWN sons!
My Sister – Friend……
I have to say I have one of the best sisters in the world. We are best buddies, we have built a friendship that has been intended to last forever. Have we always got along? Absolutely not!!!! We fought, slapped, griped, connived, deceived and a bunch of other unmentionables. Why are we best friends? Distance, Pain and Love – that’s why! I was a spoiled BRAT as a child – shame on ME.
But there is no reason why sisters should not be close…..I mean well, why not? Although, GOD KNOWS that we are very different from one another, but yet share the same blood, that is one good reason to love each other. Even though I feel that I was a “mean girl” to her when I was 12 years old and wanted to cause her pain….. love soon resolved the matter and we tearfully made it right and moved on. A moment of forgiveness is more powerful than years of resentment, refrain, abandonment, discord, degrading and avoiding.
There is a certain amount of love and commitment when you are of kindred blood, but if that isn’t enough then we have to selflessly invest into the relationship and be a die-hard mediator that pursues unity. Oh, I almost forgot to say that I love her and feels that she indeed is pretty awesome! LOL
Making Time
It is already Thursday….. So ask yourself if you have YET placed aside any time for yourself? If not, then you need to re – evaluate and re – adjust your schedule weekly. How can it already be Thursday morning and you have spent EVERY MOMENT focusing on other things and people but you yet again you obviously IGNORED YOURSELF?
How about start caring about yourself a little bit more than you are doing? You will LOVE yourself for it but you will then KICK YOURSELF after you see / realize how much that you needed it and you should have been “taking care of you”…….
During the time you take for yourself, look at your goals and what you want to do with your life. Think about your goals and how you are going to reach them. Think about the things that make you happy and think about what you are going to do to ensure you reach your goals. Taking time for yourself is a lot about goal setting because you can sit back and determine what goals you want to reach and how you are going to reach each of those goals.
Talk to your friends and family and let them know that you are taking time for yourself. Tell them that this time is for your personal reflection and that means no interruptions. Do not take phone calls from anyone and ensure those in your house know to leave you alone.
During your time, turn off the television, turn off the computer and sit down and surely let’s NOT FORGET to cut off that incredibly distracting CELL PHONE!! LOL
This is so you can be in your own mind. This keeps distractions from becoming a problem and it keeps you from worrying about things, or thinking about anything beyond what you need to.
Personal development will change your life but you need to make time for it and that means making time for yourself. Do not skimp on time for yourself because you want to ensure that you do everything right and reach the goals you want. Time for yourself allows you to think, plan and implement towards that end.
Never Be Too Proud – (asking 4 forgiveness)
Encouraging Myself –
The difficult teen will do things their own way, in their own time, regardless of your wishes or schedule.
The good teen will do what you ask, when you ask, even though they may complain a little.
It’s easy to love a good child.
The difficult teen will try your patience and understanding every day. They will challenge the depths of your love, the core of your soul numerous times throughout each day, until you wonder if you have any strength left. The good teen will try your patience and understanding from time to time. They will challenge your ability to see just how many extracurricular activities you can cram into each day, until you wonder if you have any energy left.
It’s easy to love a good child.
The difficult teen will sneak out of the house at night to buy drugs, only to have the police knock at your door at 3am on a work night so you can come down to the station to pick them up. They’ve been arrested.
The good teen will sneak out of the house at night (on a weekend) to TP the soccer coach’s house after a big win, only to go back to the coaches house the next morning. To help clean up.
It’s easy to love a good child.
The difficult teen will skip school, even when you drop them off out front and watch them walk inside. No matter how hard a parent tries to help or force a child, the difficult teen may not graduate from High School. The difficult teen won’t be going off to college. The good teen might consider skipping a class or two, but doesn’t want to get caught. A parent doesn’t have to make an effort to keep a good kid in school. The good teen ponders which college they should attend.
It’s easy to love a good child.
The difficult teen is often withdrawn from family. They don’t smile a lot, they don’t get real enthusiastic about much. A parent’s heart breaks a little more every day. The good teen is often tells family about things that happened during their day. They smile and laugh a lot, and are enthusiastic about a lot of things. A parent’s heart soars a little more every day.
It’s easy to love a good child.
So many people give up on the difficult teen. Write them off as being unworthy of their efforts. Distrust, because they don’t understand. Give up because it’s the easiest thing to do. So many people cheer for the good teen. Try to help them in any way they can. Trust them, because it’s not hard to do so. Encourage them to succeed because they seem to want to.
It’s easy to love a good child.
It’s easy to love the good teen. The parent’s of them, thank God their life is going as planned. That they have good children to love. Sure, a parent loves their good teen unconditionally. But they haven’t really had to put that to the test. They haven’t had to test the limits of their understanding and forgiveness. Their souls and faith are intact because they haven’t been shattered. Do they realize that the most important things in life are the little things? The path of the good teen may not be exactly what a parent would have chosen, but they know that everything will turn out all right.
It’s not easy to love the difficult teen. But I thank God for them, for without the difficult teens, how can we possibly understand what unconditional love really is? How would we know just how deeply we can love, and how easily we can forgive? How would we otherwise test the endurance of our souls, the depths of our faith? How else would we realize just how strong we really are? How else would we know what is TRULY important in life.
The path of the difficult teen may not be what a parent would have chosen, but it is the hand that they were dealt.
