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Through the ups, downs, backflips, super highs, incredible lows… My son….My kid…My buddy still makes me happy when skies are gray, he’s still my sunshine.

As parents, Im sure that I am not the only one who goes through or has been through a VARIETY of things…. Some of it you have to think to yourself and either…..

Ponder…Wonder…Daze and Say… No way or Oh God, not MY kid!!! Well honey, yes our kids!!!

Eery test that you have experienced is the kind that normally comes to people.  But God keeps his promise, and he will not allow you to be tested beyond your power to remain firm: at the time you are put to the test, he will give you the strength to endure it, and so provide you with a way out.



Co – Parenting 101


REALIZE that you have to do it!

It is important and a healthy act towards any type of surface friendship that you can keep up with your child’s father.

My son will 11 next week and his father has FINALLY seen the light and really trying to do better……..(fingers crossed)

First and foremost you have your children in common. Raising them and helping them to grow into well-adjusted adults should be what you have in common and should be the main goal for both of you.

You want them to feel safe and secure and the best way to do this is by keeping your relationship with your ex husband friendly and non-confrontational to keep some of the stress away from your children.

In the blending of households and the juggling of visitations, kids often feel they have no rights. In some ways this is true, because the adults are making so many decisions on behalf of the child. Remember that your child loves the other parent. When a parent complains about the other parent, that can set a negative tone, even if what you are saying is true.To reduce their feelings of helplessness, give the child as much control as you can over the little things. There is a lot of give-and-take that happens in families. TRY to cooperate with your ex to accommodate changes in schedules and activities, and honor the child’s preferences when you can.

It is not mandatory but DO MAKE EVERY ATTEMPT to do so if he has shown consideration as well because it is nice to be nice right???
Such flexibility establishes a good co-parenting pattern. Most mother’s make all the sacrifices but hopefully there are SOME FATHERS who are actually willing to sacrifices as well.
Hopefully the fathers can see that they too are important in the process!

I Have Enough Hats!


Soccer Mom

Tennis Mom ……yeah he plays!

Basketball Mom……yeah he plays!

Chess Mom……..yeah he plays!

Baseball Mom….yeah he plays!!

Tenor Saxophone Mom…..yeah he plays!

Mothers and sons really do have a unique relationship. Mothers are as much  responsible for how their sons are raised as fathers, and while it should be a  great time in your life to grow a young man, it should not be taken lightly. 


Mothers are really the key to how your son will treat his wife one day! Knowing  your balance in the relationship and keeping open communication are so  important.

Really, your son is taking all sorts of mental notes about how you  react to him and others, and he is learning more than you think!


Seriously! Dont Worry – Be Happy


Whew!!!!! Sometimes it can appear that life throws more obstacles in our path than we can  handle. However, even in the face of the most challenging circumstances, you can  make the choice to be happy by following these 9 paths to happiness.

Dont stress yourself with useless people who do NOT deserve to be even an issue in your life…. Never invest too much emotion at one thing because if you. you will end up hurting yourself…. learn balance quick! Learn to live life without worries because GOD will take care of everything…regardless if you agree with HIS decisions…

Trust and Faith go together but seemingly we alway seem to pick them a part…..

Honor Yourself: Remember what the flight attendant says, “Put your own oxygen  mask on first.” You are of no use to anyone else if you have not taken care of  your own needs first – this includes your own emotional, as well as physical,  well-being.

ALSO please dont forget to…….>>>>>Forgive Everyone For Everything: Forgiveness is a gift to yourself. YOU created  the stress in your life by getting angry, and YOU can instantly remove that  stress by granting forgiveness. Expressing your forgiveness to the other is  optional – internalizing that forgiveness is required in order to live a joyful  life. Don’t forget to also forgive yourself for everything you regret ever  having done or not done.


The Other Baby….


My 19 1/2 year old big baby….. my son sent me this photo a little bit ago and he looks so mature….. but his ” MOMMY VOICE ” does not match his mega tattoos and tough boy act! LOL Sometimes, he sounds more baby -ish than his  10 1/2 year old brother – he does not want ANYONE to know of course….

He is my other big baby and I just CONSTANTLY pray for some of the various decisions that he makes that may not be “so great”…. The Bible instructs parents to train up a child….. some days I have CRIED TO GOD and asked him did He revise his word because my son acts as if he has lost his way at times……GEESH!! LOL

I am STILL LEARNING how to just pray instead of just screaming and fussing at him….HOWEVER – Lord please help him! As a parent, you can tell when things are not so great EVEN WHEN THEY ARE SMILING…..

I hear things in his voice when I talk to him – but no matter what age a person is in life – we must do what is required of us, respect those who have rule over us, understand that there are rules and regulations wherever you are…..Lord thank you for opening his eyes and ears!


Mother’s Teachings

My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE…
“If you’re going kill each other, do it outside – I just finished cleaning!”

My mother taught me RELIGION…
“You better pray that will come out of the carpet.”

My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL…
“If you don’t straighten up, I’m going to knock you into the middle of next week!”

My mother taught me LOGIC…
“Because I said so, that’s why.”

My mother taught me LOGIC… #2
“If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you’re not going to the store with me.”

My mother taught me FORESIGHT…
“Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you’re in an accident.”

My mother taught me IRONY…
“Keep crying and I’ll give you something to cry about.”

My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS…
“Shut your mouth and eat your supper!”

My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM…
“Will you LOOK at the dirt on the back of your neck!”

My mother taught me about STAMINA…
“You’ll sit there ’till all that spinach is finished.”

My mother taught me about WEATHER…
“It looks as if a tornado swept through your room.”

My mother taught me how to solve PHYSICS PROBLEMS…
“If I yelled because I saw a meteor coming toward you, would you listen THEN?”

My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY…
“If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you a million times: Don’t exaggerate!”

My mother taught me about BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION…
“Stop acting like your father!”

My mother taught me about ENVY…
“There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don’t have wonderful parents like you do!”

Funny right? You gotta love the teachings of your parents…. I wish my dad was still here to teach me more things and I PRAY that my mother lives a great deal longer to remain teaching me things! HONOR your parents….. >>>>please


Happy Birthday Mommy!

It does NOT matter how and when you celebrate LIFE of the person whom you love…just make sure that you do indeed celebrate it with them!

With a great deal of  people are dying and regardless of the age, I have gone to funerals for people who were deemed to be young and healthy!

So with my MOMMY CAKES turning 73 years “younger” today – I am elated to share every moment with her!

She has taught at least 75% of what  I know and it has 75% made me into the woman I am – so she is batting really good at almost 100 and im am already almost half of her age! LOL …Nonetheless, she introduced me TO CHRIST – which was the best relationship that I will ever have!