I could NOT have been blessed with a more amazing Valentine’s Day….. Yes, I hung out with friends, girl pals and even some family.. but this SPECIAL PERSON had really placed a smile on my face….
My son is indeed the APPLE of my eye!! Mom, women aren’t supposed to pump gas and other things if a MAN is around! I am thanking God for allowing me to have 2 parents that showed me the things of life…. because I surely passed them down. My daddy, RIP ( Norris Coleman) especially showed me what men are to do AND not to do –
Son: Mom tell me what you want from me and I will buy it or do it
Me: Aww baby, you are already doing it – being a good Christian boy and I thank God 4 you
Son: Thanks mom but for real, I want to take care of you
Me: GIGGLE… Jared my love – you have been ever since you were in my stomach!!
Son: Well Here Mom, here is a start……
Me: I’m crying because he spent his piggy bank money on me to show me he loves his mommy!
Biblical parenting is not for cowards or wishy – washy parents. It take courage to set principles and stick to them. Be brave today, you can do this!
Biblical parenting says, deferred gratification is good and necessary to train patience but also to train out selfishness and the “ME” in a child!
Biblical parenting is directly opposed to democratic or humanistic parenting. Biblical parenting says that man has a sin nature that parents must train out of our children in order to pave a path of responsible behavior in them.
Biblical parenting also see that conflict is a reality of life and that resolution of conflict is good. Too many parents try to shield their children from conflict and their children develop no coping skills. Let them work it as you provide wisdom and clarity!
For generations, mothers have gotten the same old message when it comes to raising sons: beware of keeping him “too close.” A mom who nurtures a deep emotional bond with her boy will prevent him from growing up to be a strong, independent man. By refusing to cut those apron strings, she is on track to create a wimpy, dependent, adjusted “mama’s boy.” There’s just one problem with this theory: it’s not true.
In fact, pushing boys to separate prematurely from their mothers and encouraging them to “man up” can be damaging to boys. What’s more, there are enormous benefits to a close mother-son bond, starting from the earliest days and continuing into a man’s adult years.
Baby boys who do not have secure attachments with their mothers go on to have behavioral problems later in life. Statistics reveal that boys who do not bond securely with their mothers in the infant years act much more hostile, destructive and aggressive later in life. A close bond with their moms when boys were young helped prevent delinquency when they were older.
Boys who are close to their mothers perform better in school. Mothers often nurture emotional intelligence in their sons, teaching them to recognize and express their own feelings and to be more attuned to the feelings of others. These boys not only become more articulate–which helps them with reading and writing skills, but also have better self-control in the classroom.
Few women still admire “the strong silent type,” let alone a man who expresses his anger by punching a wall. Men who can both listen and articulate their emotions are far more attractive. And of course, sons who grow up respecting and loving their mothers tend to respect and love other women. These same skills will also help them in the work place. In today’s economy, brute physical strength and a dominating style is no longer a ticket for success. Rather, men need the ability to work in teams and to have the very communication skills and social intelligence that their mothers have taught them all along.
Okay – my son knows about politics and the things that occur in the world via CNN, the regular news stations and the things that I discuss with him – It is going on 9 pm and I am fussing at him in regards to getting himself together for school and he is ironing his clothes while chatting with me all at the same time……
Then from out of no where – he says mom remember every time there is a new POPE for the Catholic Church it is all over the news for days and it takes over the programs on television. I said yes, he said isn’t the POPE in another country and again, I answered yes.
Yall ready for this 11 year old’s child DISCOVERY!! >>>> His next statement / question to me was this…..
Well mom, I don’t get that President Nelson Mandela died and he did so much for blacks and whites, was in jail and forgave the people for being mean to him then ran for president right? AGAIN … I said yes baby – He states, why didnt the media cover Nelson Mandela’s funeral on most of all the news channels like they do when they vote for a new POPE or when PEOPLE FROM ENGLAND GET MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!
Okay y’all, that was enough for me right there!! Whew – my son is indeed amazing! I taught him good and God surely is molding his little mind for such a time as this!
One word folks…… #Exhausted………. Nonetheless, Boy did God bless my mother AND I on today…….. Our last few weeks have been a bit ” challenging…. to say the least ” BUT we have managed to remain overcomers in Christ Jesus –
Oh it’s soo amazingly nice to be friends with people for years and you see each other off and off but when you do, its like YOU NEVER skipped a beat! Oh how I loved BOTH of these women of God…women of Virtue! Sis. Lorraine is a nice size piece of my past that gives me strength everytime that I see her – She is truly one of God’s special people…
I absolutely adore BOTH of these ladies and thank the Lord that they both have taught ME a multitude of things….
The mental blessings that I obtained on today has once again shifted me onto another path……
As much as my kid works my nerves… I do love hanging out with him…. Just going out to hang out with friends is soo relaxing mentally.. It’s been just me and him for so long that as a single parent..I need space a few times a week.
However, it is rightfully so (in my son’s mind of course) that if we aren’t together…he needs to know my very whereabouts! ! I used to tell him ALL 10 things… BUT know I had to literally scale it back / down to like 4 things.. . . I set up an atmosphere that he felt as if it was his RIGHT TO KNOW my every single whereabouts!!! Lol
WhileI’m out doing MY own thing and just breathing my own air without my kid trying calculate how much I breathed WITHOUT HIM…..
When I pick him up to head home….I actually have the nerve to miss him as well…LOL – He indeed is a special kid…
My son is about 7 or 8 years old in this photo above and I could just remember his personality even back then…. He was very strong willed / minded for his age and it was a beautiful season to watch him be 7 or 8 years old “on paper” …..but Naturally and Spiritually he was SOOO MUCH OLDER!! Or should I say wiser….
Even down to video games – if it is not a sports game like baseball, soccer – forget about it – parents who allow their kids to play things like Call of Duty do not understand what they are getting themselves into!!
– but just imagine that if I did not steer him in the right direction of what is right and wrong – who knows how he would have turn out –
Video games that are displaying killing, cussing, vulgar and explicit acts puts your children’s mind – body – soul and SPIRIT at risk……
The behaviors of kids today are so out of control and it isn’t just the videos games, but the things that they are viewing, the music they listening to etc… the disrespectful behavior to authority is just simply mind boggling.
However, as a parent… you must first even believe in the things that I am speaking of to even understand the point of this post…..
Try Jesus Christ….. let Him come into your heart and speak to you in regards to raising / rearing your children.
Without Christ… THERE IS NO WAY that my son would be the young Christian man that he currently is……for that I certainly am grateful everyday-