Boy HaveTimes Changed!

Who would have EVER THOUGHT that you would hardly NEVER be able to tell what “a child’s age is”…….. Scary and Sad all at the same time!

Photo: True shit :. lol



Encouraging Myself –


The difficult teen will do things their own way, in their own time, regardless  of your wishes or schedule.
The good teen will do what you ask, when you ask,  even though they may complain a little.
It’s easy to love a good  child.

The difficult teen will try your patience and understanding every  day.  They will challenge the depths of your love, the core of your soul  numerous times throughout each day, until you wonder if you have any strength  left.  The good teen will try your patience and understanding from time to  time. They will challenge your ability to see just how many extracurricular  activities you can cram into each day, until you wonder if you have any energy  left.
It’s easy to love a good child.

The difficult teen will sneak  out of the house at night to buy drugs, only to have the police knock at your  door at 3am on a work night so you can come down to the station to pick them up.  They’ve been arrested.
The good teen will sneak out of the house at night (on  a weekend) to TP the soccer coach’s house after a big win, only to go back to  the coaches house the next morning.  To help clean up.
It’s easy to love a  good child.


The difficult teen will skip school, even when you drop them  off out front and watch them walk inside.  No matter how hard a parent tries to  help or force a child, the difficult teen may not graduate from High School.   The difficult teen won’t be going off to college.  The good teen might  consider skipping a class or two, but doesn’t want to get caught. A parent  doesn’t have to make an effort to keep a good kid in school. The good teen  ponders which college they should attend.
It’s easy to love a good  child.

The difficult teen is often withdrawn from family.  They don’t  smile a lot, they don’t get real enthusiastic about much. A parent’s heart breaks  a little more every day.  The good teen is often tells family about things  that happened during their day.  They smile and laugh a lot, and are enthusiastic  about a lot of things. A parent’s heart soars a little more every day.
It’s  easy to love a good child.

So many people give up on the difficult teen.   Write them off as being unworthy of their efforts.  Distrust, because they don’t  understand.  Give up because it’s the easiest thing to do.  So many people  cheer for the good teen.  Try to help them in any way they can. Trust them,  because it’s not hard to do so.  Encourage them to succeed because they seem to  want to.
It’s easy to love a good child.


It’s easy to love the good  teen.  The parent’s of them, thank God their life is going as planned.  That  they have good children to love. Sure, a parent loves their good teen  unconditionally. But they haven’t really had to put that to the test.  They  haven’t had to test the limits of their understanding and forgiveness.  Their  souls and faith are intact because they haven’t been shattered. Do they realize  that the most important things in life are the little things? The path of the  good teen may not be exactly what a parent would have chosen, but they know that  everything will turn out all right.
It’s not easy to love the difficult teen.  But I thank God for  them, for without the difficult teens, how can we possibly understand what  unconditional love really is?  How would we know just how deeply we can love,  and how easily we can forgive?  How would we otherwise test the endurance of our  souls, the depths of our faith?  How else would we realize just how strong we  really are?  How else would we know what is TRULY important in life.

The path  of the difficult teen may not be what a parent would have chosen, but it is the  hand that they were dealt.


The Right Dosage


The Administration of a therapeutic agent in prescribed amounts. b. Determination of the amount to be so administered. c. The amount so administered. d. too much of it can cause an overdose


The term drug overdose (or simply overdose or OD) describes the ingestion or application of a drug or other substance in quantities greater than are recommended[1] or generally practiced.[2] An overdose may result in a toxic state or death.[2]


A big dosage of Peer Pressure can make kids..

steal…do drugs…join gangs…have sex….rob….kill and be disrespectful

A big dosage of low Self Esteem can prevent people from being….

productive….assertive…being mature

A big dosage of negativity can cause people to be….

depressed.. suicidal…. lazy…unstable..

A big dosage of religion can make people from…..

Hearing God
Stay judgemental
Leading people astray
Starting a cult
Not having the ability to change

Watch what you take in via your mind …body..soul and spirit.  Even a little bit of poision can do damage but if your not careful you may end up with a bigger dosage than you can handle.

Nothing good with surely come from it, so make sure that you watch your INTAKE LEVELS!!!



I love my babies and raising sons and daughters can be a bit different and challenging but it also depends on the parenting styles as well. Indeed these two boys in the photo are related by blood and love one another but my goodness does the trail of traits differ in over a hundred ways!

I have been in an uphill battle for a few years with my NOW 18 year old son….. love him to NO END but when BOTH parents do not share the same morals, values, ethics, stances and beliefs you are in for some very disheartening things ahead… My 18 year old is growing up and there are some roots that I would just LOVE to dig up and pluck out… the way that some of his branches in life has grown has turned into weeds…. and we know that weeds have the potential and HIGH CAPABILITY to kill the rest of what has been planted….it can disrupt the whole garden and appearace wise…..can make it look SOOOO UGLY when indeed it really is SOOOO BEAUTIFUL but the weeds have just taken over….

So prayer, faith and patience is what I have been “banking on….. depending on”….. to remind my baby that he is a beautiful garden… peer pressure are weeds…. both parents not co parenting are weeds… not having a true and solid ( not surface ) relationship with Christ in your life is weeds……

So the Holy Spirit is indeed MY PERSONAL WEED WACKER…… so I will wait patiently for the gardne to “bloom again”…

My 18 year old has soo many qualities of me but do not ACT OUT those positive qualities these days….. talk about seeing your OWN SEED living out and showing displays of charactherisitics that is NOT of him and God…… Really praying that my handsome, smart, loving son will one day see the BIG PICTURE and not settle for the few colors of paint that represent the picture!

He is a Kingdom son, young man and future Kingdom man…… just wish that he could see what I see… and know what I know…..

I dont want to make my son’s life easy….but I would like to make my son’s life pleasing to the Lord… inspirational, productive and a host of other things that will, can and should benefit him for the LONG HAUL.

My 18 year old was like my 9 1/2 year old were the exact same way when at that time in his life. I just believe God to do all that He has promised me pertaining to my 9 year old as well as my 18 year old twins. It is a cold cold world out here and it is my desire to protect them…. However, you cant force anything on anybody… Peer pressure is an UGLY THING and has damaged so many kids lives and when they turn into adults….the seeds and behaviors have already taken root >>> unfortunately.

However, the baby out of the bunch…the 9 1/2 year old…. I have almost blogged, taken a photo and documented about his every move it seems! LOL…. Having twins then just having 1 child at a time was different but just as fun as well…. Honestly, I felt that it was soo easy that I could not ever understand when I heard people complain about how hard it was only having 1 child. I am not talking about the financial part of raising the child, I mean more so just spending time with the child, being emotionally available with the child, teaching the child, loving the child and being soley RESPONSIBLE to the child…

MY CHILD.. I have shown and documented how AMAZING my 9 year old is….. he indeed is not a perfect child… but as a parent, we all would want something at least close to perfect right? Well here he is…. front and center!

Of course I am NOT silly enough to think that in the future that I wont have any trials and tribulations with my 9 year old.. BUT.. I will enjoy what I can while I can and will certainly CONTINUE raising him IN CHRIST………..

#sons # family random 


lost children

Young girls having sex

Young girls getting pregnant

Young girls thinking it is cool

Young girls establishing a club for pregnant teens

Young girls meeting up to take this photo to post it ONLINE because they are trying to become POPULAR (super sad and it surely breaks MY heart)

Everyone of these actions would be considered a child that is lost mentally, spiritually, socially and emotionally.

Welp, we have to FIRST take it back to PARENTING right? The lack of BOTH parental involvement or the lack of parenting as a whole could be apart of the negative epidemic that is sweeping across America like the polio disease back in the 1920’s. Parents MUST learn and take the time to talk to their children about any and everything, because that indeed is the “season” that we are in with the chldren of today. They are either talking about it, thinking about it or doing it! So how about catch them before they hit the next worse level which would be promoting it! Lets not forget about the 14 year old Amber Cole situation okay?

Parents have to stop feeling scared to deal with their kids also! Not all but there are enough of them that are either scared of their kids, tired of their kids or just dont want to deal with their kids. Lets get to the root of the matter so that both sides can obtain the help that they are desperately in need of instead of just throwing in the towel. Society EXPECTS you to throw in the towl and the devil also EXPECTS you to throw in the towel so fight for your children. Of course it is hard, the kids of today are HORRIBLE to put it frank and nice! The disrespect that oozes from their very pores is culture shocking and the parents fighting to be their kids best friend ONLY makes the whole situation worse!

Now seriously, for all of the Christian parents, including MYSELF.  SOME of these kids dont want to hear ” our JESUS talks anymore”….it is the truth so let us ALL be honest! We would all love our families to be living for Jesus Christ ESPECIALLY our children but it does not always work out that way. Sometimes the kids stay with Jesus or they leave and come back… I have learned through blood – sweat – tears but more so the word of God and valuing MYSELF more than what I was dealing with via kids.. We have to learn to PROPERLY DIAGNOS the situation on a neutral but Godly platform and he will lead and guide you to what is best for the current season you are in. Dont try change the season just listen and be prepared for it…. If God is telling you that it is Summertime then STOP trying to wear a fur coat.. it is all about obedience!