A Great Part of My Day

Was taking a break in the mall and sitting in a chair trying to get my MASTER PLAN together so I would be focused and not OVER SPEND as usual! Lo and behold, here walks in my niece whom I have not seen in ummmmm….. I shall not say how long it has been but ……..It’s wonderful when you KNOW you have a few folk who love you for “REAL”…No strings attached, no hidden agendas or motives…they love you for you, with all your faults, &  all your idiosyncrasies because they see the “essence” of who you are, and you can be “just plain ol’ you” with them, without all the “stuff”…Man, true LOVE from true FOLKS is an awesome thing…deeeep siiiiiigh… Seeing her REALLY made my whole weekend worth staying in my tri- state area! Grateful to see her and blessed to share and swap stories of LIFE and knowing that we have and had shared a great deal of similarities was just astonishing…..

We laughed..talked…..I cried….we hugged….we paused in silenced…we flirted..we cracked jokes…we mini complained and lifted up Jesus!

yeah – I am talking about my lovely niece  and she is an amazing 26 year old young woman who loves God….shopping….family…music…cats…ME and LIFE!

There are a few people who I KNOW loves me without a million questions that I  must ask first…. what am I doing these days… where have I been etc.. they are just glad to see me and that I am doing AMAZING!……

OKAY – the moral to this quick blog is to tell you to ……enjoy people who desire to enjoy you back!




Where Is She?

The daughter that I once knew and raised is MISSING……..(the old her is hiding somewhere)

Her kindness is MISSING………….

Her innonce is MISSING…….

Her trust is MISSING……

Her respectful behavior is MISSING…….

Her love for life is MISSING….

Her love for her little brother is MISSING…..

Her love for her mothe’s side of the family is MISSING…..

Her love  for love is MISSING……….

Her love for people is MISSING….

Her love for growth is MISSING….

Her love for unity is MISSING…..

Her love for understanding is MISSING…..

Her love for church is MISSSING…..

Her love for God is MISSING….

Her love for herself is MISSING….

Her love for prayer is MISSING……..

Her happiness is MISSING……….

Her ability to see how God sees her….her ability to see how I see her is MISSING……

Praying for my baby on today and hoping that SOONER than later – she will be found in 1 piece!

I miss her dearly and she must realize that the PRESENT her must be “put away” so she can GROW!


Ms. Della!

I have known this little nice lady for over a year and even at her old age she is challenged by so many things and they seem to find a way to break her down most days. She has shown me how to be more compassionate in dealing with “certain situations” with women with a past like hers. It is VERY easy sometimes to judge others when you are unaware of what the whole situation may be. I have had the pleasure of ministering with Ms. Della and it has changed my life FOR THE BETTER.

The inescapable fact in life is that, one-day, we will become an elder and HOPEFULLY we will have someone to take care of us!

However, the importance of respecting elders should not just be for that reason. We should give respect to elders for a number of reasons. Not least of these is that at least two of our elders brought us into this world, and they nurtured, cared and educated us until we were able to fly the nest and care for ourselves.

Most elders have invested a lot of time and effort into making our lives better, providing us with opportunities and been there to share in our joys and sorrows.

In addition to this, people who have been around this world a lot longer than us have a lot to offer. They have acquired knowledge and wisdom, which if respected they are willing to share with us. They have also had experiences and therefore can help to guide us through problems that may arise in out life.

Finally, we should treat our elders, and all other people we come into contact with, with the respect that we would want them to extend to us.



Online Foolishness


I was with a girl pal of mine and we both was online and she set up a profile page for me… Now I told you guys a few weeks ago why online dating “is not my thing” There was this guy who reached out to me… and I was like he probably dont even dress like that because the profile photo was in a business suit and all of his others were “hood / street” clothing.. which is a HUGE NO – NO for me! I dont care if it is online….off the grocery store…at the mall…at church – REGARDLESS!

Well she started replying to him “for me” and he turned out to be a HORRID liar and she was soo appalled and upset because he said in an email that he was a producer and sent links to his work and 2 of them were documentaries and she is like see…. he seems to be ok. I told her that ANYONE who is about anything would NOT give out so much information about themselves up front so quickly…

But moving right along with the SILLY but so REAL story…..I said he is trying to be too cocky or maybe presenting his information so that he can be seen as a legit person maybe.. BUT I still dont trust he is all put together like he is trying to present… So he sent one more link stating this was another project that he did….

( of course I already deleted my picture and account info and made her promise she would NEVER do nothing like this again….)

At that moment I told my friend that he is NOT LEGIT and she was like you are soo against meeting people online…I said no – it is all about PRESENTATION!! I was trying to explain to her if the guy was STEPHEN SPIELBERG, TYLER PERRY or RON HOWARD they would not be sending links of their work at all because they would want to see if the woman is interested in them rather than their money – fame and success…. She still thought that I was being too judgemental…..


Lo and behold..we opened the last link that the fake producer sent and it was a very CHEAP – LOW BUDGET – SEMI PORN GANGSTER FLICK!!!

I laughed so hard while she fussed and almost cussed at the computer! ……

So now do you see why the photo in this picture is VALID IN MY BOOK!!!! LOL

I told her to  stop-sign trying to HURRY me along to be with someone – Wisdom tells me when to say YES or NO!

Dear ( ME )



The decision to ask God for His help is MY greatest source of #wisdom, strength and courage!!

That is my thought for the moment but my standard for life…..

Today was a really mellow, productive and relaxing and the flow is indeed blessing me.

I feel very loved and appreciated right through here and it feels nice.

I was chatting with a girl pal a few hours ago and she was sharing her dating story with me and to say the least……it was yet another interesting event!!

We talked about on line dating again and then I realized that no matter what avenue it is via dating that what is suppose to be, will be! (Regardless how it comes )

I am not against blind dates or the online dating concept……However dishonesty and lack of integrity I am against but sometimes you cannot obtain some clues until the (chatting) actually transpires!

I totally FORGOT the whole purpose of this initial blog but at least I had a good day!

Peace….Love….Loyalty and Honor

V.D. Coleman



Hmmmm… I dont know why people are so into setting me up on a blind date and pushing me to do online dating… Welp, I have my own feeling that people online LIE…… they want to appear to be something that they are not. Granted it is not everyone I am sure… I have even read that a great deal of actresses and singers have went to online sites and have had major success stories…

Okay to PROVE my point to my friends I signed up and went onto a site and CLEARLY stated my interests short and sweet below:

 The Basics

  • · 5’3″ / 160 cm
  • · Female
  • · Black/African
  • · Average Build
  • · Divorced
  • · Has Children at home
  • · Advanced Degree
  • · Christian
  • · Doesn’t smoke
  • · Doesn’t drink


1. Skin color doesnt matter – Interracial Dating is Fine
2. I dont date those who smoke nor drink
3. Must have personal relationship with Jesus Christ
4. If MARRIED<<<< DO NOT contact me! Even if you are seperated, that means that you are STILL MARRIED-Thanks!

Perfect Match edit

There is no perfect match but 2 people who are different that are WILLING to making a Christian relationship work can be a match!



 War Movies ( 300 / Troy / Gladiator ) Drama ( Love Stories ( P.S. I Love You ) Documentaries ( Michael Moore ) Asian Flims ( The Curse of the Golden Flower )


 Biographies, ( U.S.Presidents, Italian and Russian Political Leaders ) Political, ( Bill Clinton, Juan Williams) Bill Cosby – Come on PeopleSPORTS / Football
Baltimore Ravensand Pittsburgh SteelersSPORTS / Baseball
Philadelphia Phillies

Now after that quick info.. I have gotten over 100 emails wanting to talk to me more via email or telephone…


I was so furious! My buddies are looking through the pictures of the guys that reached out to me and they could not understand why I was being so up tight.


Well while they were looking at the PHOTOS of the men that were sending me messages…


I was quickly directing them to THEIR PROFILE INFORMATION!


I pointed out that it was very evident that NONE of the men even READ my profile information because everyone who contacted me had the following below:

1. married

2. seperated

3. smokes socially

4. drinks socially

5. atheist or Catholic

So they ONLY viewed my photo and did not take the time to read ABOUT ME…. so there you have it.. no online dating sites for me! I am glad that I PROVED MY POINT TO THEM!!!

The wait is long but I will wait on the Lord because He surely has waited on me to get myself together… I will wait to see what He has prepared for me!

” Lord dont take too much longer please”….. LOL