I find it rather “Cool” being a hands on mom… Mother’s who never complain about never being tired, I say to myself…it is because they are not 100% percent hands on. There is not 1 ” productive ” Mother who is very involved in their child’s well being can attest to this. My son is only 9 years old and I make sure that I know at least 90% to 95% percent of what he is doing everyday!
Yes, I said ONLY 90 – 95% percent because no parent will ever know everything that their child is doing or into. I can use that “high percentage” right now becaues he is 9 years old and the younger they are…the easier it is to indeed “track them”. No home devices needed but good old fashioned hands on management between a parent and a child……
Compared to the ” Millineum Parenting” today, how I was raised would be considered old school… Nonetheless, old school worked for me back then and it is still working for most families til this day. So many families are “chasing their kids” because they give them too much free time and space.
Children are to be respected but also nurtured, guided and groomed for daily and mature living. You want your child to be a law abiding citizen and not a citizen that the Law ” now has to abide” for. Parents should always find ways to communicate with their kids… It is imperative…. a must…mandatory etc… Kids from the time they begin to walk and talk need to understand that there are boundaries and rules that must be followed. You cannot wait until your child is in high school to “find out what they are into”..then wonder why you feel that you are losing them!
Find out who their friends are. if they are participating in ANY kind of school activity >>> GO!! Go to show support but also go to see what type of enviornments your child is being subjected to. This also gives you a great opportunity to see how his or her friends act when most parents arent around. Attend PTA Meetings, go and be on time for Parent – Teacher Conferences.
Make yourself accessible to the teacher by sending emails and notes letting her know that you are here in case your child gets out of line. Make your face and name known that you are a parent and you care what is going on at your child’s school.
Let your child know when things arent going right and address what penalties that need to happen. However, you must also praise your child when he is doing well also. From Homecoming Dances, to Semi – Proms, to Proms etc. you should be made aware of everything that he or she wants YOU TO FIT THE BILL FOR! Make a contract / agreement stating there is no last minute >> ” Mom can I go to this _______________ or Mom I need this ____________________ paid for or Mom can you sign this_____________.
Make them be responsible and surely hold them accountable for things as well and by doing this, you are helping them even though they may not be able to see it. Kids want to me nurtured but of course in their own way! I do believe in meeting your kids where they are and going from there…. set up a relationship foundation BUT trying to be your child’s friend will get you into trouble EVERY TIME! My 9 year old thinks that ” im cool” BUT he also understands that “i cant play with mom like i do my friends”….. why? Because I am MOM…..
I am Jared’s friend but I am his MOTHER FIRST… and that right there is the difference. You cant be friend first and parent second… If you do, then get ready for HEAVY HEARTACHE to set in!
When your children get older they will love you but more so RESPECT you for what you didnt allow them to do more so than what you DID allow them to do… Right now the teenagers in your life want to have fun and ACT INSANE but if you dont put a stop to it….. their insane behavior will have major consequenses to pay.. rather it be in middle school..high school..college .. if they dont get caught up in those time frames… TRUST ME.. their downward spiral will happen if they have not gotten the picture yet.
Adulthood has no room for insane behavior…… well, let me take that back…. Yes adulthood does have TIME and ROOM for insane behavior!!! It is called JAIL!