Relationships

Examples ……


Do you set a good example for others?  Are you proud of your words and actions?  As Albert Einstein accurately observed, setting a good example is the only means of influencing another person.  A major cause of stress is trying to change someone.  It’s hard enough to change yourself.  It’s virtually impossible to change someone else.

Setting a good example isn’t an attempt to change someone.  Rather, it’s showing by your words and deeds what is possible.  Some people will pick up on your example while others won’t.  You have no control over how other people act.

Regardless of how others see it, setting a good example always works to your benefit.  Besides the possibility of influencing others, you attract positive people and situations by your positive actions.

Start setting a good example by always being courteous and polite to all those you come into contact with.  Have respect for and show kindness to others.  Even if you are treated poorly, resist the temptation to react in kind.  I have seen this approach bring a smile to even the surliest individuals.

Have your life shine as an example to others.  You don’t have to be perfect but you should always be striving to improve.  Regardless of your past, you can direct your future in any direction you chose.

 

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Helping Self...

The POINT v.s. your argument


This is for all of the people that feel that they HAVE to get their point across! That term is something that we all have used but is it really getting us anywhere? YES! It is our goal to just “be heard” when we are talking, arguing or even debating right? Welp, after the FIRST 5 to 10 minutes, if you can tell that YOUR POINT is not getting UNDERSTOOD by your listener, then know that it will turn into a long discussion or a nice long debate. ( in other words, an argument! ) Debate is just a fancy word for argument, remember that!

LOL I indeed used to be one of these types of individuals! Not anymore though….. Yes! My Father was a very, very wise man to tell me these same words…because raising your voice does nothing but display that you either have anger issues and you are not capable of having an intelligent conversation. I tactfully find ways to improve my point so that my point will not only be heard but also understood….. and if I am ineed any good via how my father and uncles taught me >>> I will have also CONVINCED AND SWAYED my audience to believe ……. the very words that are coming out of my mouth!  #teamDADDYteacher

When we’re trying to get a point across to someone else we often think long and hard about what we want to say.  That is the wrong way to go about it.  Instead of focusing on what you want to say to get your point across, you should focus on what you want the other person to hear.  Also deciding to being free from drama should be at least one of your main focal points when having discussions about ANYTHING!

However, to increase your chances of getting your point across, focus more on the receiver than on the sender. Tailor your message to the TYPE of person / personality that you are indeed talking to improve their comprehension. Don’t worry so much about what you want to say as about what you want them to hear and understand……

Trust me, it works!

In the END you want to have your POINT understood v.s. having your argument heard!