Parenting

A Few Things About Boys –


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For generations, mothers have gotten the same old message when it comes to raising sons: beware of keeping him “too close.” A mom who nurtures a deep emotional bond with her boy will prevent him from growing up to be a strong, independent man. By refusing to cut those apron strings, she is on track to create a wimpy, dependent, adjusted “mama’s boy.” There’s just one problem with this theory: it’s not true.
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In fact, pushing boys to separate prematurely from their mothers and encouraging them to “man up” can be damaging to boys. What’s more, there are enormous benefits to a close mother-son bond, starting from the earliest days and continuing into a man’s adult years.
Baby boys who do not have secure attachments with their mothers go on to have behavioral problems later in life. Statistics reveal that boys who do not bond securely with their mothers in the infant years act much more hostile, destructive and aggressive later in life. A close bond with their moms when boys were young helped prevent delinquency when they were older.
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Boys who are close to their mothers perform better in school. Mothers often nurture emotional intelligence in their sons, teaching them to recognize and express their own feelings and to be more attuned to the feelings of others. These boys not only become more articulate–which helps them with reading and writing skills, but also have better self-control in the classroom.
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Few women still admire “the strong silent type,” let alone a man who expresses his anger by punching a wall. Men who can both listen and articulate their emotions are far more attractive. And of course, sons who grow up respecting and loving their mothers tend to respect and love other women. These same skills will also help them in the work place. In today’s economy, brute physical strength and a dominating style is no longer a ticket for success. Rather, men need the ability to work in teams and to have the very communication skills and social intelligence that their mothers have taught them all along.

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Parenting

A Little Wisdom –


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The strength of a man isn’t seen in the width of his shoulders. It’s seen in the width of his arms that circle you. The strength of a man isn’t in the deep tone of his voice. It’s in the gentle words he whispers. The strength of a man isn’t how many buddies he has. It’s how good a buddy he is with his kids.

The strength of a man isn’t in how respected he is at work. It’s in how respected he is at home. The strength of a man isn’t in how hard he hits. It’s in how tender he touches. The strength of a man isn’t in the hair on his chest. It’s in his Heart … that lies within his chest.
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The strength of a man isn’t how many women he’s loved. It’s in how he can be true to one woman. The strength of a man isn’t in the weight he can lift. It’s in the burdens he can carry.
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Honor, Respect, Faith, Relationship with God, Healthy Relationships with Family and Friends, Giving, Compassion, Love and Commitment are “some of the things” that a Single Mother can show HER SON which can aid to help nurture him to be a GREAT MAN.

Even without a father – being present and producing a CONSISTENT voice and presence in their son’s lives – I often tell some of my girl pals NOT to become bitter when God has already equipped our sons as well as ourselves to “put in the POSITIVE SEEDS” of Life –

Oh by the way….. Women Rock… and Single Moms are Doing Their Thing –

“God got us AND our boys”……….. just STAY being a light, an example of Christian Living –

Parenting

Birds of A Feather, MAYBE?


My son and I attended a drug and social media seminar and I took this photo of him as he was listening to the speakers and the Powerpoint presentation.
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It was NOT until I looked at this photo this morning I pinched myself…. I realized how much that I am rubbing off on my son  – I guess you would have to know me as well as be around me PERSONALLY to understand what I am talking about.

I was groomed MOSTLY by men from my father…. to his brothers….to his sister’s husband…to males at work and church…to my older male friends…. so yeah.. I AM A BIT INTENSE sometimes…..

I joke with people all the time and tell them that some days I have on PANTS up under my SKIRT because being a single parent and raising a BOY is a whole different ball game. It almost forces you to be in “prep mode” all the time!
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Do I look like a person who would BITE your head off? LOL Well, hmmm… I will just say that ” I NO LONGER ” try to bite! LOL I have learned self control…… However, I am CONSTANTLY always asking God to show me balance and show me when to be strict / hard v.s. soft and lenient.

The goal for women should be to be tough when needed…. but NEVER HARD – we are women – gentle flowers…creatures and no one want to be with or be around a HARD WOMAN!  I am grateful that I have “found the balance” that I need.

Parenting

Dear J.C.C.C.


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I love you ….. You are beautiful on the inside that you have NO CHOICE but to shine and be even more beautiful on the outside….. I am indeed so very proud of you and to call you my son….

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We have been through so many things together, it is a blessing that we still laugh, giggle, crack jokes and even smile as much as we do. God has used you and showed you how to be strong at a very early age and gratefully you have accepted Jesus Christ into your life.
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Thank you for showing me how to extend grace to those who do not deserve it while reminding me DAILY …” WHAT WOULD JESUS DO”….
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I am so glad God chose ME to be your mommy! Of course, there is no way that I could not ask for a better son and friend!
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God bless you and know that I will always be here for you!

Ministry

Baptisms Are A Blessing –


My daughter was getting ready to get baptized and we wer ALL so super exited…..

Of course, we cannot leave out her twin brother as well…. I recall this day like it was yesterday

I feel that everyone should get baptized at least 4 times in their lives…. TO ME, it just makes more sense because each session has its OWN INDIVIDUAL MEANING..

When a child gets Christianed – that is the parents way of giving their child back to God and the child is usually no older than 2 months old.

Then you figure when the kids are between the ages of 5 to 12 again it is the parents way of trying to rear and guide their children since they are NOW OF AGE and ” somewhat ” have an understanding of what it is to live for Christ.

Then between the ages of  14 to 18 the parent almost scares the kids into holiness or hell and the teenagers want to get baptized out of mostly fear instead of understanding / being taught the wrath of God as well as the LOVE of God. Parents are so afraid that their kids will become rebellious, sexual, tap into drugs etc..etc. but fear only works on a temporary basis!

Then when a person becomes an adult and they realized that THEY need to take the right steps without “mommy or daddy ” coaching them into doing what is right. Because, we love our kids but they certainly have to CHOOSE and make this decision on their own!

Again – this way makes sense TO ME –