I have realized that with my son turning 10 years old at the end of the month that I have been the only real – consistent role model in his life!
My father has basically been like his father too but my father passed away when my son was 5 years old and he indeed cried like a baby…as I! Nonetheless, absentee parents / aunts / uncles and even siblings do not understand or care about the growth totality that is affected by their lack of being around!
Role Models are people who others imitate, emulate or look to for guidance. There are good role models who inspire greatness in others and bad role models who are what we call “bad influences.” There are even anti-role models, pegged by the media as “bad girls” or “bad boys” who serve as good examples of what NOT to do if you want to become a successful, respected person. Every parent wants their children to have positive role models who have the characteristics that inspire them to want to be (and become) their very best. While there is some variation in every parent’s definition of what it means to be a good person, there are some things that remain constant and I share with my son.
MY SON’S Little eyes are watching and little ears are ALWAYAS listening. When it comes to being a role model, you must be aware that the choices you make don’t only impact you but also the children who regard you as their superhero. Someday, they will be in the same predicament and think to themselves, “What did s/he do when s/he was in the same situation?” When you are a role model it’s not enough to tell your charges the best choices to make. You must show them how it’s done.
While I don’t want to keep spreading MYSELF too thin, it’s important to show my son that we can be more than just one thing. Great role models aren’t just “parents” or “teachers.” They’re great learners and challenge themselves to get out of their comfort zones. You may be a father who’s also a student of the martial arts, a great chef and a treasured friend. You may be a mother…..or father who’s a gifted dancer and a curious photographer etc….etc…. When children see that their role models can be many things, they will learn that they don’t need to pigeon-hole themselves in order to be successful.
So on TOP OF all of the other millions of things that I try to keep “together and keep in place” on behalf of my son staying a productive member of society >>>> this is why I am always super – duper exhausted. It is a lot to do as well as maintain everyday “while doing me” too!!