Always Make Time!


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Mothers and daughters have a tie that runs deep and strong. A bond that cant be severed by time or distance. But, as in every relationship, you must give it love and attention for it to grow and blossom. Spending time with your mom is very important. Mothers and daughters should get together and try to think of ways that will allow them not only to have fun together, but that will strengthen your friendship. It really doesn’t matter where you go or what you do, as long as it appeals to both of you.

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Designate ” a day” and  maybe it can be Sunday as a family day, attend church together, go to dinner, spend an afternoon at the park and watch a movie that night. Whatever you chose, the only thing that’s important is that your spending time together and bonding. You’re developing and strengthening your friendship.

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Spending time with the people we love is important, its really more important than our jobs or any other of the million and one responsibilities we must cater to every day. It really doesn’t matter how we do it, as long as we make some time everyday for those we love.

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I Love The Number 74


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Today is MY mommy’s birthday!!!!!!!!! After ALL of what she has been through lately I am honored to celebrate her awesome LIFE at 74 of age…… Thank you Jesus!
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Food, prayer, gifts, games, laughter and amazing fellowship just blesses her very soul right now….. (she’s soo happy right now)
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Personally, I am indeed just sooo grateful AND thanful for TIME with family… Time is something that cannot be “bought” so you have to really enjoy and respect quality vs. quantity. ….
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Glad to make my mom happy with the little things in this life… She is just happy to have some of her family with her…… Making her SMILE is indeed a goal that I strive to meet daily with God’s direction.

Dear Self….


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Dear Self……

Remind yourself to take a break AND breath…… Also even though there’s a great deal of things that you still desire to do, it is ALL about God’s timing.. God is in control in the midst of every hell and fire storm… Be encouraged and maintain your salvation so that you can continually be a witness.

Be happy even when horrid things happen. .. ..  Yes, its crazy but God knew YOU before you even entered into your mother’s womb… Put Christ first and things will get just a little bit easier in MOST cases. Get out of yoir own way BUT more importantly, get out of God’s way…. He is waiting! LOL

Remember, like in the book of Jeremiah, He knows the plans for you, so try to stay calm…In layman’s terms….God isn’t tripping because HE already knew how your life would be from the #beginning AND the #end…
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So continue to walk in love..pray for more wisdom and allow God to work on a better you. The inside is what counts and your relationship with Christ will always be your TOP priority. ..

Allow the voice of the spirit guide you and tell your flesh MORE OFTEN.

Best Regards and Passionately Signed,

YOU, ME and SELF

Another Heart STOPPER –


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Okay – I attend the movies at LEAST twice a week and  when there is ANY TYPE of historical movie that deals with this country via politics AND black history / civil rights …..I DASH him to the movie theater to view it. Okay I have had a tough day folks – My son even had to hug me a few times and hold my hands……….. History is important in general but for my son being an African American boy in these good ole United States, it is IMPERATIVE that he knows.

The more recent black history type movies that I have taken him to see were movies as –

The Help….( My son was very irritated when we were walking out of the movie theater )

The Butler.. ( My son had very mixed emotions & was trying to compare life now vs then via black men )

12 Years of Slave….( My son was in such SILENT SHOCK basically during the whole movie )

Nonetheless, seeing The Help allowed me to REMIND myself of why I act the way that I do in certain situations when I am around “certain types” of white women ………..  The Butler made me honor and respect black men even the more….and 12 Years A Slave …………Welp, – unfortunately for me – I am STILL trying to “get myself together” in the worse way – it is 9 pm at night and I took him to see this movie at 1 pm this afternoon! So please pray for my mind and my emotions….. God knows that I am soooooooo serious right now –

I mean – although sadly……blacks have been in slavery for a little over 400 years – it still made me think of the racism that still goes on today for blacks – ESPECIALLY black men –

It made me feel bad for stereotyping and racial profiling that I do even myself – however – although that those behaviors are indeed WRONG……but before I make myself out to be this bad black woman who discriminates against her own kind – I get upset because “my own kind” have to fight to not only get it together….BUT also keep it together…

Yes we can CLEARLY see that the white men and women years ago played the main blame in slavery BUT we are in 2013 and things are not the way that they used to be…MEANING – I do not like hearing that EVERYTHING “is the white man’s fault”… I have heard that since the late 80’s and I am wondering why I am STILL hearing it.  The white man did not STOP EVERYONE AND EVERY DREAM that the African American people have or may had.

We have to be honest and LOOK around and LOOK from within and ask ourselves…..are we helping each other get ahead? Sadly, there is only a very small number / percentage of African Americans who even care about the American Dream….let alone will fight to even achieve it.

Truth be told… I want to know how many are going to school…. caring about their grades instead of truancy behaviors………. are the favorite subjects in school gym time or science….are we becoming parents too young……if so are we good parents….are we pulling up our pants…are we selling stolen goods….are we being disrespectful to our parents and teachers……are we choosing to have a library card instead of a gun…… are we interested in studying medicine instead of selling medicine……

With all that Mr. Solomon Northup  (real name of the man who was MADE a slave) went through AFTER being a slave for 12 years – he lived the rest of his life fighting for change – he did not choose to be a murderer because he was dealt a wrong hand….he didn’t become a thief ..he didn’t become a womanizer because of the 12 years of no sex etc..etc.etc.. LIFE CAN HURT A LOT OF TIMES….. Life can really give you the choice to give up hope – but it is all about what you believe…. can things get better? Do not worry about when – just believe that they will. Thanking God for people like Brad Pitt ( the part that he played in the movie ) who UNDERSTOOD that slavery was wrong and he risked his own life to make a difference with the start of 1 MAN named Solomon Northup –

Uggghhh – the movie did and still has me a little ticked off but it is HISTORY….it is apart of MY HISTORY – I embrace it …will learn MORE from it….. and find ways to make things better for me – my family – my people.

Thanks for listening –

A Mother’s Random-ness


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Just proud of my son – nothing major to blog about at this present moment besides I am just proud of him……. he is almost 12 and things could be so completely different.

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The world that we live in and what is displayed on the television does NOT depict him in any form or fashion. He has been a honor roll student since he was 6, plays 3 sports and 2 instruments and is trying to master 1 foreign language –
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He has great friends – great opportunities -and options for his life – He chooses to be respectful and love Christ – does he have a few not so good days? YES – does he sometimes find himself on punishment? YES does he have to clean and do chores around the house? YES –
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However, I am speaking as the average black male growing up in America being raised in a single parent household and having only a handful of male mentors in his life and none are related to him at all – he is indeed a great boy –
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I am thankful that God has allowed me “to borrow” my son and I pray that I am doing an amazing job in the eyes of The Lord – let my son tell it – everyday he shares with me that I am a good mother – but you never know if he is just trying to “warm me up” for something that he saw in the store! LOL

Every Day is A Good Day –


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Isnt she lovely? Isnt she wonderful? She makes ME HAPPY……So very happy!! I am indeed a happy camper! A happy daughter! A happy kid in a candy store!

From dealing with hospitals, wires, doctors, nurses, emergency rooms, iv’s, heart machines and hearing the words code blue over the intercom way too many times – ANY DAY above ground is a good day! People please love on your PARENTS –
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Being with my ” Mommy – Cakes” MAKES ME understand what living in the moment is really all about – It teaches me not to complain and to hold my peace / hold my tounge about a few things! That is ONE of many things that I admire about her.
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When it comes to ” my mother “…….There are some people that really rub me the wrong way and I have not yet arrived to the place where she is mentally…emotionally…and spiritually in regards to DEALING with these “special types” of people! Nonetheless, like I stated – it is helping me to GROW – ( LOL )
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Back to “reality”  LOL – She is doing great and I am great because she is great and that is all that really matters to me these days… Life is full of ups and downs and I am just always praying that on all of these CRAZY AND OUT OF THE BLUE roller coaster rides – God grants ME the STRENGTH, STRATEGIES AND TACTICS to just simply ” hold on “……………..not to the things of Life but HIM which who has granted and given me LIFE