Mothers and Sons


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As much as my kid works my nerves… I do love hanging out with him…. Just going out to hang out with friends is soo relaxing mentally.. It’s been just me and him for so long that as a single parent..I need space a few times a week.
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However, it is rightfully so (in my son’s mind of course) that if we aren’t together…he needs to know my very whereabouts! ! I used to tell him ALL 10 things…  BUT know I had to literally scale it back / down to like 4 things.. . .  I set up an atmosphere that he felt as if it was his RIGHT TO KNOW my every single whereabouts!!! Lol
WhileI’m out doing MY own thing and just breathing my own air without my kid trying calculate how much I breathed WITHOUT HIM…..
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When I pick him up to head home….I actually have the nerve to miss him as well…LOL – He indeed is a special kid…

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Wow = Thank You


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Even when it gets hard, we should fight to never let anyone talk us out of what God has already said to us / promised us / showed us…. God never takes back what HE has said, let alone done in our lives –

With that being said – never worry about the things that are in front of you are going crazy!! ( im speaking indeed from PERSONAL EXPERIENCE ) There is nothing in the world that we are going through that God did not already forsee happening –
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It is amazing how sometimes we can have soo much authority in our very being and can hear God ever so clearly but in that same BREATH, MIND SET and TOUNGE – we will doubt Him when things seem to get a little shaky and haywire….

Think of it as a REAL relationship with a human being that is in your life that you see and talk to on a daily basis –

Your sister, brother, mother, father, nephew,niece, son, daughter, husband or wife WOULD NOT EVEN WANT TO BE BOTHERED with you anymore!
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That is the difference when you are dealing with God and people – God does NOT like the fact that WE put our relationship with Him on a rollercoaster but He seems to ALWAYS understand and waits for “us to get our acts together”……

Whew – I am a mess…..and God STILL chooses me daily!

Celebrating Family –


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Oh how I cannot explain how being with LOVED ones can make you feel – Life can be so up and down at times – so when you are able to spend your time with Family – it is a wonderful feeling –

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As always…. I am re inventing myself – my thoughts – my choices – my views – my stances – my morals – my values – my beliefs and I am becoming a better individual for Christ’s sake –

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I am just humbled to feel loved – humbled to be loved – humbled to share in life’s experiences – etc..etc.etc… Being grateful indeed is a choice – I choose – to love – to be happy – to live – to be inspired ….

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No one knows when their last day will be upon this evolving earth to see your loved ones – so why NOT spend AS MUCH TIME as possible with them? It DOES NOT have to be for any apparent reason – how about “just because”…

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These last few months have really have me in a very DIFFERENT – WEIRD – INTERESTING – INSPIRING – EYE OPENING – TRANSPARENT etc…etc..etc.. for ME –

Do you NOT feel that indeed life is too short? Are you wasting time with situations…people..things that you know that you should not be?
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It is 2013 and will be 2014 in almost 5 SECONDS…..

Life is short and it is crazy that people will settle for anything that they do not want in their life – why be miserable when you actually have the POWER to “fix things” yourself –

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Peace and Love are two PLATINUM things that I search for – hold onto and need in my life

Good Girlfriends –


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Have you ever asked yourself if you a good person, and do you push the act of empowering strength to other women? What do you bring to the table in a good girlfriend relationship? A great deal of women think that they are not able to find and maintain good girlfriends… but guess what,, YOU CAN!

We all have our specific qualities and in a friendship, we must to have something that benefits the other person if we are to be of value. What is it that you provide? Dependability? An ear to listen? Good advice? Positive feedback?

We have all had a friend or two that may have a few negative qualities but you try to love them through thier process. Do not ever jump into the gossip rut or complaining trap or do you empower and boost women and cheer them on?
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If you find you’re not a positive influence on your friends, you can easily develop some skills to be more so. Keep in mind, if you have negative friends and you become more positive, they may take a while to catch on to the new, more positive you or may choose to leave the friendship. However, when you even meet new friends is a blessing when the spirit of UNITY is there

Women who gain attention by always complaining are unlikely to warm up to a positive-minded person. After all, being positive means taking responsibility for your choices, situation and life and this is completely opposite of what negative people do.
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Five great qualities to bring to the friendship table:

Dependability – Dependability is underrated. If you are a dependable friend with personal boundaries, you are priceless. Without personal boundaries, many dependable friends get taken advantage of.
Respect – Respect is earned, not aged into. If you respect your friends and what they stand for and it is mutual, your bonds will be stronger and more long lasting than others.
Positive Feedback – A realistic positive outlook and encouragement are two of the most powerful things you can give a friend in crisis.
Alternate Perspective – Looking at a situation from a different perspective is crucial to making good decisions. Helping a friend to do this is admirable.
Honesty – Honesty is not synonymous with agreement. Tough love is sometimes necessary in friendships and is appreciated by true friends.

E X P E C T


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Expect your child to mess up — all children do. And don’t get so upset when they mess up, when they don’t do what they’re “supposed” to do … because they’re supposed to mess up.

Expect your partner to be less than perfect.

Expect your friend to not show up sometimes or be irritating late.

Expect things to go not according to plan because most things do not.

Expect people to be rude sometimes because a great deal of them are.

Expect coworkers not to come through sometimes more than usual.

Expect teenagers  not to wash their dishes or pick up their clothes, sometimes because most teenagers do not.

Expect the glass to break.

And accept it.

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You won’t change these inevitable facts — they will happen, eventually. And if you expect it to happen — even see it as already happening, before it happens — you won’t get so upset.

You won’t overreact. You’ll respond appropriately, but not overreact. You can talk to the person about their behavior, and ask them kindly to consider your feelings when they do this … but you won’t get overly emotional and blow things out of proportion.

Random Relationship Thought – “s”


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Relationships are often stressful and require a lot of effort to make them  successful. Friendships can sometimes become toxic and unhealthy to one or both  people involved. Letting go of unpleasant or unhealthy friendships can be very  difficult but is a vital step to improving overall quality of life, reduce  stress and possibly improve self-esteem. Once a friendship becomes more effort than  what it’s worth, letting that friend go is better done sooner than  later.
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Focus on yourself, improve yourself and work towards a better version of who you are at the moment. The only person that you should change is you. If you live with someone who is difficult, or even if you just spend some time with them, take each time you interact with them as a new experience.

One of the most powerful things you can do is simply change how you view that difficult person. Maybe after you put yourself in their shoes, or learn that you are also a bit like them, you might find that they are not that difficult after all. Don’t let your first impressions be the only ones you have. And don’t waste your time trying to change anyone, instead, use that time and energy to improve who you are.
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In the end we all just WANT PEACE right?? I personally have wasted too much time over the years of maintaining relationships that were DEAD for a long time….. Thank goodness for God’s revelation right!
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I pray that you be still long enough to realize that SPRING CLEANING does not have to happen in the SPRING!! For me, it is a weekly thing and I feel lighter and lighter and it is an overwhelming POSITIVE EXPERIENCE in my life…. try it for yourself and see!

However, these things will ONLY work if you want to restore the relationships………. ALSO understand that in all honesty, all relationships are NOT meant to be restored…… In the end, it is about self love – and what YOU KNOW what is best for you…..

# until next time…..