Dear ( ME )

Counseling –


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I really had a great day today while at work – sounds weird huh!! It is not like I am working my DREAM JOB and loving it! LOL ……….However, there are perks that I do get “emotionally and spiritually” behind it.

Being a drug and alcohol counselor for almost 3 years has really given me a VERY different perspective on life…. dealing with their battles of depression and a long list of mental health issues or what I prefer to call “situations” is a task that you have to really CARE about instead of looking at it as a job.
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Dealing with people who are apart of AA ( Alcohol Anonymous ) vs people who are apart of NA ( Narcotics Anonymous ) I would consider different – same “meeting concept” but different demons –

My OLD mindset was just in a black and white version of people who suffered in their addictive states…. It has its rewards but more often there is failure.Many patients are court-ordered and present problems and not seeking treatment. Many believe they don’t have a problem and are trying to beat the system. The money isn’t very good ( to my standards based on how much I give of MYSELF )………………but I do it to afford those who are serious about recovery the opportunity to learn about it in a safe environment…

Being honest… “at this moment”…….My rewards aren’t in money but in seeing people change the way they live despite having an incurable, and often fatal, condition. Sadly, more people die than live….
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Nonetheless, where I work is a faith-based program and having the ability to have God “in the mix” does help!

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Parenting

Mothers and Sons


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As much as my kid works my nerves… I do love hanging out with him…. Just going out to hang out with friends is soo relaxing mentally.. It’s been just me and him for so long that as a single parent..I need space a few times a week.
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However, it is rightfully so (in my son’s mind of course) that if we aren’t together…he needs to know my very whereabouts! ! I used to tell him ALL 10 things…  BUT know I had to literally scale it back / down to like 4 things.. . .  I set up an atmosphere that he felt as if it was his RIGHT TO KNOW my every single whereabouts!!! Lol
WhileI’m out doing MY own thing and just breathing my own air without my kid trying calculate how much I breathed WITHOUT HIM…..
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When I pick him up to head home….I actually have the nerve to miss him as well…LOL – He indeed is a special kid…

Helping Self...

Dear Self….


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Dear Self……

Remind yourself to take a break AND breath…… Also even though there’s a great deal of things that you still desire to do, it is ALL about God’s timing.. God is in control in the midst of every hell and fire storm… Be encouraged and maintain your salvation so that you can continually be a witness.

Be happy even when horrid things happen. .. ..  Yes, its crazy but God knew YOU before you even entered into your mother’s womb… Put Christ first and things will get just a little bit easier in MOST cases. Get out of yoir own way BUT more importantly, get out of God’s way…. He is waiting! LOL

Remember, like in the book of Jeremiah, He knows the plans for you, so try to stay calm…In layman’s terms….God isn’t tripping because HE already knew how your life would be from the #beginning AND the #end…
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So continue to walk in love..pray for more wisdom and allow God to work on a better you. The inside is what counts and your relationship with Christ will always be your TOP priority. ..

Allow the voice of the spirit guide you and tell your flesh MORE OFTEN.

Best Regards and Passionately Signed,

YOU, ME and SELF

Women's Stuff

Friendship With Fellowship


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I really enjoy having a bunch of different friendships in MY LIFE. …. Honey, JUST like Christ, #diversity Rocks!!!!!

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Me and my girlpals have a “standing appointment” every single week that we meet up and hang out…
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After the last few months, weeks, days and hours that I have been having.. ….. Especially worrying about my Mommy!!! Whew, Seeing REAL friends / girlpals is just what I need!!!! LOL ..we eat..laugh..FREELY talk about God..life…relationshops…..work…being angry….being happy etc…etc…etc… ans more etc…etc..
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Having friends BUT no fellowship is NOT a relationship! !!!!! In life, we have to be open to ALL types of friends because YOU will never know who God is trying to connect us to and what God is trying to do for us…..
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Be open!!! I can tell you honestly that it’s been a blessing AND its worth it!

Helping Self...

E X P E C T


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Expect your child to mess up — all children do. And don’t get so upset when they mess up, when they don’t do what they’re “supposed” to do … because they’re supposed to mess up.

Expect your partner to be less than perfect.

Expect your friend to not show up sometimes or be irritating late.

Expect things to go not according to plan because most things do not.

Expect people to be rude sometimes because a great deal of them are.

Expect coworkers not to come through sometimes more than usual.

Expect teenagers  not to wash their dishes or pick up their clothes, sometimes because most teenagers do not.

Expect the glass to break.

And accept it.

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You won’t change these inevitable facts — they will happen, eventually. And if you expect it to happen — even see it as already happening, before it happens — you won’t get so upset.

You won’t overreact. You’ll respond appropriately, but not overreact. You can talk to the person about their behavior, and ask them kindly to consider your feelings when they do this … but you won’t get overly emotional and blow things out of proportion.

Inspiration

H-A-P-P-Y


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Happiness — it’s what we all strive to find and keep, even when it’s as elusive as ever. Nobody is happy all the time, but some people are definitely more fulfilled than others. Studies reveal that happiness has little to do with material goods or high achievement; it boils down to your outlook on life, the quality of your relationships, and basic amenities like good governance and community resources.

Look at the glass half-full instead of half-empty.  Now you have the opportunity to find a better one! Adjust your mentality so that, in everything that happens to you, there’s some kernel of good.

Think of your current situation (however hard it may be) and then think of how much harder some other people have it. Just be happy that you are not in that worse situation. Learn to enjoy your life!

 

 

Helping Self...

Making Time


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It is already Thursday….. So ask yourself if you have YET placed aside any time for yourself? If not, then you need to re – evaluate and re – adjust your schedule weekly. How can it already be Thursday morning and you have spent EVERY MOMENT focusing on other things and people but you yet again you obviously IGNORED YOURSELF?

How about start caring about yourself a little bit more than you are doing? You will LOVE yourself for it but you will then KICK YOURSELF after you see / realize how much that you needed it and you should have been “taking care of you”…….

During the time you take for yourself, look at your goals and what you want to do with your life. Think about your goals and how you are going to reach them. Think about the things that make you happy and think about what you are going to do to ensure you reach your goals. Taking time for yourself is a lot about goal setting because you can sit back and determine what goals you want to reach and how you are going to reach each of those goals.

Talk to your friends and family and let them know that you are taking time for yourself. Tell them that this time is for your personal reflection and that means no interruptions. Do not take phone calls from anyone and ensure those in your house know to leave you alone.

During your time, turn off the television, turn off the computer and sit down and surely let’s NOT FORGET to cut off that incredibly distracting CELL PHONE!! LOL

This is so you can be in your own mind. This keeps distractions from becoming a problem and it keeps you from worrying about things, or thinking about anything beyond what you need to.

Personal development will change your life but you need to make time for it and that means making time for yourself. Do not skimp on time for yourself because you want to ensure that you do everything right and reach the goals you want. Time for yourself allows you to think, plan and implement towards that end.